This is My Voice

Welcome back to This Is My Voice.We’re starting 2026 with a question that doesn’t get asked enough. Why is being “easy” so often mistaken for being kind, respectful, or mature?In this episode, I talk about the fear that hides behind being agreeable, flexible, and endlessly accommodating. This episode is about noticing when ease is coming from fear rather than choice.

We’re bringing back the Find Your Voice Series, and this time, it’s clearer, and far more forthright than it was five years ago. In this episode, we break down the harsh reality most people pleasers never want to say out loud: that people pleasing isn’t kindness, but fear. And underneath that fear is a silent attempt to control how people see you, how they respond to you, and whether they stay. This conversation is about the emotional survival strategy behind being “the nice one,” the exhaustion that comes with constantly managing other people’s comfort, and the quiet manipulation that hides behind self-sacrifice. If you’ve ever found yourself shrinking to avoid conflict, apologizing for existing, or performing calm so no one gets upset with you, this episode opens the door to discussing and overcoming it. The Find Your Voice Series is officially back, and we’re starting at the top.

Ever caught yourself saying, “I’m fine” when you know you’re just… stuck? Yeah, this one’s for you. In this episode of This Is My Voice, we’re talking about that quiet trap so many of us fall into; comfortable complacency. The space between “I’m okay with this” and “I stopped trying a while ago.” We’ll discuss how comfort can disguise itself as contentment, why we stay in situations that no longer challenge us, and what it actually takes to start wanting more again. So, grab your coffee, your self-awareness, and maybe that little voice that’s been whispering “you were meant for more.” It’s time to have an honest conversation about what happens when we stop striving.

This week’s episode is short, simple, and from the heart. This Is My Voice is shifting fully to a bi-weekly schedule. In this mini catch-up, I share why this new rhythm matters, how slowing down actually strengthens creativity, and why rest isn’t the absence of momentum, but what keeps it alive. Take this as your reminder to breathe a little deeper, to take your time, and to let things bloom at their own pace. New episodes every two weeks; same voice, gentler rhythm.

We like to imagine healing as a straight line; from broken to whole, from pain to peace. But the truth is far less tidy. Healing loops. It gives us good days that feel like progress and hard days that feel like failure. In this episode, I share why backslides don’t erase growth, but are part of its rhythm. Listen in, then join the conversation in the Spotify poll: Do you believe healing can ever be a straight line, or do backslides tell us something important about growth? Read the companion post on silenthings.com.

You’re not lazy. You’re tired. And no, they are not the same thing. In this episode of This Is My Voice, Lora Tia serves a hot and honest, truth: rest is more than self-care; it’s rebellion. Especially in a world that worships burnout and applauds over-functioning. Listen now and share it with someone who needs to hear it.

Who checks in on the person who checks on everyone else? In this heartfelt episode, Lora Tia unpacks the emotional cost of being “the strong one”—the fixer, the listener, the safe space. The one who’s always there for others, even when no one asks how they're really doing. From childhood patterns to cultural expectations, Lora reflects on the invisible weight carried by many. With honesty and compassion, she explores what it means to relax, and to finally say: I’m tired.