106 | What Women Want: Reclaiming Desire, Intimacy & Choice in Midlife with Anna Grosman, Founder, Her Confidant, Australia’s Only Female-led Male Escort Agency for Women

About this episode

In this episode, Penny van der Sluys and Anna Grosman discuss what women want in midlife, focusing on desire, intimacy, and the importance of choice and agency.

What do women really want in midlife? Not crumbs. Not confusion. Not low-effort dating. In this bold and expansive episode, I'm joined by Anna Grosman, founder of Her Confidant – Australia’s only female-led, women-focused male escort agency designed specifically for women. Together we explore what women crave in from men and in midlife, how intimacy can be reframed as wellbeing, and why midlife is not a decline – but an awakening. This conversation moves beyond taboo and into choice, agency, safety, emotional intelligence, and the radical act of choosing yourself. Whether you’re single, partnered, curious, or simply questioning what’s possible, this episode opens the door to a new way of thinking about desire and connection. We discuss: • What women really want in midlife • The exhaustion of modern dating apps • Why safety and emotional intelligence matter in intimacy • Moving from performance to presence • Reclaiming desire after years of disconnection • Trauma-aware approaches to intimacy • Couples exploring safely and consensually • Why pleasure is a wellness tool, not an indulgence • The power of choosing yourself Connect with Anna: https://herconfidant.com.au/…

People in this episode

Guest: Anna Grosman

Topics covered

• desire
• intimacy
• midlife
• wellbeing
• emotional intelligence
• dating
• self-empowerment

Keywords

• female-led
• male escort agency
• modern dating
• pleasure
• wellness tool

Mentioned in this episode

Products: Her Confidant

Books & works: The Pleasure You’ve Been Missing Pilgrimage

Places: Australia

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