Darnell Walker: The Life of a Death Doula and the Art of a Peaceful End

About this episode

Darnell Lamont Walker discusses his experiences as a death doula and the importance of storytelling and honest conversations about death.

Darnell Lamont Walker is one of those people who has somehow managed to live several lives inside a single lifetime. He is a writer, filmmaker, children’s television creator, and death doula. He is also a documentary filmmaker whose work has explored Black Americans seeking refuge from injustice, Black mental health, and the global epidemic of sexual violence. His newest book, Never Can Say Goodbye: The Life of a Death Doula and the Art of a Peaceful End, grows out of his work supporting people and families at the end of life. In this conversation, Darnell talked about what a death doula actually does, how storytelling can become a form of legacy work, how families can begin having honest conversations long before crisis arrives, and the near-death experience at age 22 that changed his life . He also spoke about laughter at the bedside, the role of ritual in grief, the silence many Black men inherit around vulnerability and death, and how to speak with children plainly and tenderly about dying. Darnell also shared why he asks people to write their own obituary, how families can tell the truth about the dead without flattening them into saints, and why his work — whether with…

People in this episode

Host: Esalen Institute

Guest: Darnell Lamont Walker

Topics covered

• death doula
• grief
• storytelling
• mental health
• vulnerability
• legacy work

Keywords

• death doula
• grief
• storytelling
• obituary
• healing
• vulnerability
• Black mental health

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Esalen Institute

Books & works: Never Can Say Goodbye: The Life of a Death Doula and the Art of a Peaceful End

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