Do You Ever Feel Like a Total Loser?

Do You Ever Feel Like a Total Loser?

From We Can Do Hard Things by Treat Media and Glennon Doyle

May 19, 2026 · 1h 8m

About this episode

The episode explores the avoidance of feelings, the impact of anger and anxiety, and the dynamics of relationships.

Today we’re talking about the thing underneath everything: our feelings—and how hard we work to avoid them. Why is it easier to get mad than admit we’re scared? Why can a feeling that lasts 90 seconds keep us stuck for hours (or years)? And why does it so often feel like everyone else is doing life better than we are? We get into anger as a mask, anxiety spirals, the “loser” feeling no one wants to admit, and the relationship dynamics—hello, chooser vs. follower—that shape how we show up with the people we love. This one is about stopping the spin… and coming back to yourself. - Why anger is often covering something deeper - The “90-second feeling” and how to let it pass - How overthinking keeps you stuck in anxiety - Why comparison makes you feel like you’re failing - Relationship patterns that quietly take over Also listen to: The 90 Second Rule: Feel Your Feelings. Follow We Can Do Hard Things on: Instagram — ⁠https://www.instagram.com/wecandohardthings⁠

People in this episode

Host: Glennon Doyle

Topics covered

  • feelings
  • anger
  • anxiety
  • comparison
  • relationship dynamics

Keywords

  • feelings
  • anger
  • anxiety
  • loser feeling
  • relationship patterns
  • comparison

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Treat Media

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