You’re Not Who They Told You to Be | How to Rewrite Your Story With James Lumumba

About this episode

Dawn Hunter and James Lumumba discuss identity and the process of rewriting personal narratives shaped by external expectations.

Have you ever had a moment where you stopped and thought… how much of who I am is actually me? In this episode of Work is Third , Dawn Hunter sits down with James Lumumba, host of Don’t Be Afraid to Talk , for a powerful conversation on identity and how to rewrite the stories we’ve been told about ourselves. Together, they explore how many of the beliefs people carry about themselves are shaped by early experiences, expectations, and the need to belong along with what it takes to question and rewrite those stories. This episode covers: Letting go of external expectations Understanding guilt and people-pleasing The connection between belonging and self-worth Rewriting personal narratives Learning to love yourself and build healthier relationships Through honest reflection and shared experience, this conversation offers a reminder that self-awareness is the first step toward real change, and that it’s possible to define yourself on your own terms. 📚 Guest Info Website: https://co-creatingcoach.ie/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dontbeafraidtotalk/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jameslumumba/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dontbeafraidtotalk/ 📔 Resources Mentioned…

People in this episode

Host: Dawn Hunter

Guest: James Lumumba

Topics covered

• identity
• self-awareness
• personal narratives
• self-worth
• relationships

Keywords

• self-improvement
• guilt
• people-pleasing
• belonging

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Work is Third, Don’t Be Afraid to Talk, Letting go of

Places: Pieta

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