
You Are Not Crazy
by Jessica Knight
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Audience Interest
- emotional abuse awareness
- narcissistic relationship insights
Podcast Focus
- emotional abuse coaching
- coercive control discussions
Publishing Consistency
- weekly episodes released
- active for four years
Platform Reach
- specific platforms not detected
- total followers unknown
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Total monthly reach
Estimated from 13 chart positions in 13 markets.
By chart position
- 🇬🇧GB · Relationships#6230K to 100K
- 🇺🇸US · Relationships#1265K to 30K
- 🇦🇺AU · Relationships#1605K to 30K
- 🇨🇦CA · Relationships#1635K to 30K
- 🇩🇪DE · Relationships#1905K to 30K
- Per-Episode Audience
Est. listeners per new episode within ~30 days
24K to 96K🎙 Daily cadence·248 episodes·Last published yesterday - Monthly Reach
Unique listeners across all episodes (30 days)
79K to 319K🇬🇧31%🇺🇸9%🇦🇺9%+10 more - Active Followers
Loyal subscribers who consistently listen
24K to 96K
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On the show
Recent episodes
Dating After Abuse: Why My Answer Is "Traumatized"
Sep 2, 2026
24m 33s
When Co-Parenting Isn't Safe: The Case for Parallel Parenting
Aug 26, 2026
16m 57s
Why Closure Is a Myth with Najwa Zebian
Aug 19, 2026
58m 25s
Pattern Blindness: Why No One Believes You Until It's Too Late
Aug 14, 2026
16m 13s
The Angry Daughter in Love
Aug 12, 2026
18m 23s
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| Date | Episode | Description | Length | ||||||
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| 9/2/26 | Dating After Abuse: Why My Answer Is "Traumatized" | Someone recently asked if I'm dating, and my honest answer was "traumatized." In this episode I talk about why that word fits better than a simple yes or no, why a recent connection activated me so quickly, and why my nervous system goes numb instead of excited at the thought of dating. I get into how healing recalibrates the way we read people, why familiar can feel safe even when it isn't, and why real consistency can feel boring at first. I also talk about the messy middle of healing, the ... | 24m 33s | ||||||
| 8/26/26 | When Co-Parenting Isn't Safe: The Case for Parallel Parenting | I break down why parallel parenting is a communication strategy built specifically for high-conflict dynamics, not a failure of one. I talk about what it actually looks like in practice: handling your own parenting time independently, limiting contact to essential topics, and removing the opportunities a high-conflict co-parent uses to twist your words or pull you into chaos. I also get into why this matters for your kids. Children don't need both homes to mirror each other. They need at leas... | 16m 57s | ||||||
| 8/19/26 | Why Closure Is a Myth with Najwa Zebian | Najwa Zebian returns for a second conversation, and this one picks up exactly where the first left off. Her new book, The One Who Broke You Can't Heal You, comes out August 25th, and we talk through what it actually means to take responsibility for your own healing without slipping into self-blame. We cover why setting boundaries with controlling people tends to make things worse before it gets better, why an apology from the person who hurt you will never be the thing that fixes you, and why... | 58m 25s | ||||||
| 8/14/26 | Pattern Blindness: Why No One Believes You Until It's Too Late | In this episode I break down pattern blindness, one of the least talked about reasons survivors stay stuck in self-doubt. I explain why family court and even well-meaning friends tend to evaluate coercive control one incident at a time rather than seeing the system those incidents create together. I talk about my own experience trying to name what was happening in a past relationship, why the cycle of tension, rupture, and reconciliation keeps hope alive, and why documenting the pattern matte... | 16m 13s | ||||||
| 8/12/26 | The Angry Daughter in Love | In this episode, I return to the angry daughter — but this time, I look at what happens when she tries to love someone. The survival skills that kept her intact in her family of origin are the same ones that quietly work against her in relationships. She over-functions. She holds everything together. She mistakes someone's performed pain for depth, and she chases validation in ways she can't always see while it's happening. This episode is personal, and I'm not writing from some resolved plac... | 18m 23s | ||||||
| 8/5/26 | The Angry Daughter | In this episode, I reflect on what it actually means to be the angry daughter — the scapegoat, the truth-teller, the one who names what others refuse to see. Drawing from my own childhood and my experience as a mother, I trace the way systems assign their tension to one person, teach her not to trust herself, and then use her exhaustion against her. This episode is for anyone who has ever been told that their reaction was the problem, that their clarity was the threat, or that their limits we... | 15m 26s | ||||||
| 7/29/26 | Why You Keep Saying Sorry (Even When You Did Nothing Wrong) | In this episode, I'm talking about why self-blame becomes almost automatic when you've been in an emotionally abusive or coercively controlling relationship, and why it feels like relief even when it's actually costing you. I get into the nervous system science behind it, specifically how fawning works, how your brain gets wired to connect calm with compliance, and why that wiring doesn't just disappear when the relationship ends. If you have ever cried the whole drive home because you ... | 13m 18s | ||||||
| 7/22/26 | You Were Never the Problem with Najwa Zebian | If you have ever walked away from a relationship, or a parent, or a childhood, and still found yourself waiting for the person who hurt you to finally acknowledge what they did, this episode is going to reach something in you. Najwa Zebian is a writer, speaker, and the host of the podcast Beyond Words. Her work has reached millions of people around the world, and her new book is called The One Who Broke You Can't Heal You. I have been following her for years. A client sent me one of her... | 1h 00m 37s | ||||||
| 7/15/26 | How Coercive Controllers Use Timing to Keep You in Their Orbit | In this episode, I'm talking about something I call the Saturday text. It's never Tuesday at 10 AM when your coffee is warm and you're mentally ready. It's always when you've finally exhaled, and I want to explain why that timing is never an accident. I go deep into the way dysregulation gets used as a delivery mechanism of coercive control, including what the person sending the text is actually getting out of it, which is not just pressure relief but confirmation that they still have access ... | 24m 57s | ||||||
| 7/8/26 | What Coercive Control Does to Your Time | There is a particular kind of loss that doesn't get talked about enough when you leave a coercive relationship, and it isn't the loss of the person. On some level, that was survival. The loss I am talking about is quieter and stranger than that. It's the loss of your own mind, entire summers, thousands of small moments that were technically yours but that you never actually lived. In this episode, I talk about what it looks like when coercive control colonizes your nervous system so completel... | 18m 54s | ||||||
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| 7/1/26 | I Didn't Know I Was Still Holding My Breath | Some healing doesn't come from therapy or from doing the work in the way you expect it to. Sometimes it comes from watching your team win the NBA finals. In this episode, I'm sharing something personalL what the Knicks winning the 2026 championship actually did to me, and why I wasn't prepared for it. This win cracked something open that I didn't know was still there, and I've been sitting with it ever since. This is a detour from my usual content, and it also isn't, because healing has never... | 27m 01s | ||||||
| 6/24/26 | It Shouldn't Feel This Confusing: Naming the Cycle of Abuse | You know something is wrong, you just cannot name it yet. In this episode, I walk through the cycle of abuse — tension building, explosion, reconciliation, and the illusion of calm — and explain why that cycle is exactly what keeps you hooked. I break down what a trauma bond is, how intermittent reinforcement conditions your nervous system to crave the person who is hurting you, and why your confusion, your self-blame, and your inability to just leave are not weaknesses. They are ... | 16m 12s | ||||||
| 6/17/26 | When Love Feels Like a Hostage Situation | If you have ever felt like you were walking on eggshells, apologizing for things that made no sense, or grieving a version of someone who seemed to disappear, this episode is for you. I am revisiting one of the most listened-to episodes BPD in romantic relationships with two more years of client work, research, and personal processing behind me. I break down what borderline personality disorder actually is, how it differs from Narcissism even when the lived experience feels nearly identical, ... | 33m 12s | ||||||
| 6/10/26 | How Manipulators Use Words to Maintain Control | I break down some of the most insidious and subtle ways abusers use language to dominate the narrative and erode your sense of reality. I walk you through five distinct patterns of weaponized communication: emotional manipulation disguised as vulnerability, defensiveness used as a silencing tool, blame-shifting hidden behind false equivalence, coercion dressed up as ultimatums, and silence deployed as punishment. Each example reveals the same underlying strategy — redirecting accountability, ... | 13m 46s | ||||||
| 6/3/26 | The Underpinning of All Abuse: Coercive Control with Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Dr. Christine Cocchiola is back, and this conversation goes deep. Dr. Christine is a coercive control specialist, therapist, TEDx speaker, and author who trained under the godfather of coercive control, Dr. Evan Stark. In this episode, we get into what coercive control actually is: not a form of abuse, but the underpinning of all abuse. That distinction matters more than most people realize, especially inside a family court system that still does not know what to do with it. We talk about the... | 56m 16s | ||||||
| 5/27/26 | When Co-Parenting Becomes Coercive Control | If you've ever felt like you're doing everything right — showing up, advocating, holding it together — and still somehow ending up as the problem, this episode is for you. Int his episode, I get honest about what it actually feels like to be in the cycle: the exhaustion of defending yourself against false narratives, the way every act of good parenting gets twisted into evidence against you, and the invisible toll of a system that wasn't designed to recognize coercive control. So many p... | 24m 45s | ||||||
| 5/20/26 | I'm Not Fucked Up, I'm Detoxing | If you've ever thought "what is wrong with me?" after leaving a toxic relationship — this episode is for you. I break down why the anxiety, hypervigilance, and panic that show up after you leave aren't signs that you're damaged. They're signs that your nervous system did exactly what it was trained to do. I walk you through the difference between anxious attachment and trauma-conditioned hypervigilance, why healing feels worse before it feels better, and what it actually looks lik... | 16m 20s | ||||||
| 5/13/26 | Walking on Razor Blades: Life with Someone with BPD Description | BPD is often misunderstood, reduced to stereotypes of moodiness or drama — but if you've loved someone with unmanaged borderline personality disorder, you know it feels nothing like that. In this episode, I break down what it actually looks like to be in a relationship with someone who splits, who swings from adoring you to discarding you in an instant, and how you slowly begin to disappear in the process. This isn't about demonizing people with BPD. It's about naming the impact o... | 20m 05s | ||||||
| 5/6/26 | How I Actually Healed (And Why It Didn't Look the Way I Expected) | People ask me how I healed all the time, and the honest answer is that there is no clean framework I can hand you. In this episode, I share the specific practices that actually made a difference for me — and they are not always the ones you would expect. I talk about why I stopped healing on everyone else's timeline, how I gave myself permission to grieve on a schedule as a single parent, and the journaling practice that helped me separate what was real from what had been distorted.&nbs... | 14m 42s | ||||||
| 4/29/26 | What I Did When I Couldn't Trust My Own Mind | Before I knew what a trauma bond was, I was hiding my phone under my mattress. I deleted his number, wrote it on a piece of paper, folded it into a journal, and made myself work to find it. At the time I thought I was being ridiculous. Looking back, I was surviving. In this episode, I talk about what it actually looks like to break a trauma bond when you can't go cold turkey — the messy, imperfect, sometimes embarrassing strategies that create just enough friction between the craving an... | 11m 10s | ||||||
| 4/22/26 | BPD Splitting in Relationships: What It Feels Like and How to Heal | If you've ever felt adored one moment and suddenly on the wrong side of a wall you didn't see coming, this episode is for you. I open with my own experience of being in a relationship where warmth could vanish in an instant — where I replayed conversations trying to find the moment I slipped, and where I slowly became someone whose entire focus was managing another person's emotional state. In this episode, I break down splitting — what it is clinically, what it feels like to be on the receiv... | 23m 09s | ||||||
| 4/15/26 | Why They Never See It: The Psychology Behind Why Personality-Disordered People Don't Know They're the Problem | If you've ever wondered why the person who hurt you seems completely unbothered — even convinced they did nothing wrong — this episode is for you. I break down why people with personality disorders genuinely don't experience themselves as disordered, how shame avoidance rewrites their reality, and why no amount of explaining, evidence, or emotional appeals will get them to "see it." Understanding this isn't about giving up — it's about stopping the cycle of trying to reach someone who doesn't... | 15m 06s | ||||||
| 4/8/26 | Pattern Recognition vs. The Blame Game | There's a difference between someone naming a pattern to seek resolution and someone digging up the past to dodge accountability. If you've ever tried to address what's not working in your relationship and ended up defending yourself instead, this episode is for you. We talk about what healthy accountability actually looks like — and how to recognize when someone is rewriting history to keep you stuck. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do n... | 7m 19s | ||||||
| 4/1/26 | When Mental Illness Becomes an Excuse for Abuse | This month’s Patreon episode dives into a theme that kept surfacing in your questions: When does mental illness explain behavior… and when does it become an excuse? Before answering your submissions, I break down what we actually mean when we talk about pathological abuse — repeated patterns rooted in personality structure, not just “a bad fight” or poor communication. We explore coercive control, gaslighting, intermittent reinforcement, blame shifting, and the power imbalance that defines th... | 27m 14s | ||||||
| 3/25/26 | How I Help Clients Untangle High-Conflict Divorce | In this episode, I share what it’s really like to support clients through the chaos of high-conflict divorce — when legal processes, endless emails, and contradictory communication make it nearly impossible to think clearly. I talk about how I help clients slow things down, organize what’s actually happening, and find stability in the middle of emotional and legal overwhelm. I also share how confusion becomes one of the main weapons of post-separation abuse, and what I do to help survivors re... | 14m 57s | ||||||
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What the show covers
- emotional abuse coaching
- coercive control discussions
- gaslighting explanations
- relationship dynamics analysis
Audience interests
- emotional abuse awareness
- narcissistic relationship insights
- trauma bond understanding
- self-trust development
Platform reach
- specific platforms not detected
- total followers unknown
- potential for broad distribution
- targeted audience engagement
Publishing consistency
- weekly episodes released
- active for four years
- total of 248 episodes
- consistent content delivery
Chart history for You Are Not Crazy
Peaked at #31 in Norway, currently #31 in Norway.
| Market | Genre | Peak | Current | Trend |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Norway | — | #31 | #31 | — |
| Ireland | — | #50 | #50 | — |
| United Kingdom | — | #62 | #62 | — |
| ID | — | #79 | #79 | — |
| HU | — | #81 | #81 | — |
| GR | — | #108 | #108 | — |
| Netherlands | — | #114 | #114 | — |
| United States | — | #126 | #126 | — |
| Australia | — | #160 | #160 | — |
| IS | — | #160 | #160 | — |
| Canada | — | #163 | #163 | — |
| CH | — | #176 | #176 | — |
| Germany | — | #190 | #190 | — |
Chart Positions
13 placements across 13 markets.
Chart Positions
13 placements across 13 markets.