Feeling Like Roommates? Start Here!

Feeling Like Roommates? Start Here!

From Broken for Better by Broken for Better

March 26, 2026 · 22 min

About this episode

This episode discusses how to rebuild emotional closeness in marriage to enhance physical intimacy.

Do you and your spouse love each other… but feel more like roommates lately? If physical intimacy has slowed down (or disappeared), this episode is for you. Because most of the time, intimacy doesn’t die first… connection does. In this conversation, marriage coaches Kurt and Denette Schaer talk about how emotional closeness creates the safety, warmth, and pursuit that makes intimacy possible again...even after stressful seasons, resentment, exhaustion, or the “scorekeeping” trap. In this episode, we cover: ✅ Why the “honeymoon phase fading” doesn’t mean you’re broken ✅ How stress, resentment, and exhaustion bury desire (not erase it) ✅ The danger of scorekeeping: “When you do for me, I’ll do for you” ✅ Why emotional connection can feel scary (especially for many men) and why it’s still not an excuse ✅ Two simple tools you can start today: The 15-Minute Connection Window (phones down, TVs off)The Non-Sexual Touch Reset (affection without expectation) Big takeaway: Affection without expectation rebuilds safety — and emotional safety is the foundation for physical intimacy. Drop a comment: What’s one small rhythm you could start today to rebuild emotional closeness by tomorrow 💛…

People in this episode

Host: Broken for Better

Guests: Kurt Schaer, Denette Schaer

Topics covered

  • intimacy
  • emotional connection
  • marriage coaching
  • relationship advice
  • physical intimacy

Keywords

  • roommates
  • intimacy
  • connection
  • marriage
  • affection

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