Less Chaos, More Peace: 3 Rhythms That Change the Temperature of Your Home

About this episode

Kurt and Denette Schaer discuss how to replace chaotic rhythms in marriage with intentional practices that foster peace and connection.

Does your home feel too loud emotionally, mentally, or relationally? In this episode, marriage coaches Kurt and Denette Schaer talk about the hidden “crazy cycle” many couples live in: two ships passing in the night, running a household but not building a marriage… and calling it “just a season.” You’ll learn how to stop the slow erosion that drains intimacy over time and replace reactive rhythms with intentional rhythms that bring peace back into your marriage. In this episode, we cover: ✅ How to know when you’re mentally/emotionally exhausted (not just “vacation tired”) ✅ The crazy cycle and why chaos becomes “normal” ✅ The question that changes everything: Is life dictating the pace of your marriage… or is your marriage dictating the pace of life? ✅ The difference between reacting and responding (and how to choose calm ✅ 3 practical rhythms that restore connection: Daily bookend conversations (morning or night check-ins) Asking better questions to access your spouse’s heart Sabbath/rest together (and how to rest when you’re wired differently) Big takeaway: Peace isn’t the absence of problems. It’s the presence of intentional rhythms to navigate them. Drop a comment: What’s one…

People in this episode

Host: Broken for Better

Guests: Kurt Schaer, Denette Schaer

Topics covered

• marriage
• communication
• emotional health
• intentional living
• relationship dynamics

Keywords

• chaos
• peace
• marriage coaching
• intimacy
• communication rhythms

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Organizations: Broken for Better

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