You Said It, But Did They Hear It?

About this episode

Christina Eanes and Lori Muhlstein discuss the importance of ensuring that communication is understood rather than just intended.

We’ve all been there; you explain something clearly (or so you think), only to realize later that it completely missed the mark. In this episode of the Essential Skills for Humaning podcast, Christina Eanes and co-host Lori Muhlstein unpack a powerful truth: influence, connection, and leadership don’t come from what we intend to say, but from what others actually understand. Together, they explore why good intentions often fall short, how assumptions undermine communication, and what it really means to put effort into being understood. Through real-life examples and practical insights, this conversation challenges listeners to rethink how they explain ideas, give feedback, set boundaries, and navigate everyday conversations: at work, at home, and everywhere in between. If you’ve ever thought, “That’s not what I meant,” this episode will help you learn how to say it so it actually lands. For more info about Christina and her company, Eanes Training, visit EanesTraining.com.

People in this episode

Host: Christina Eanes

Topics covered

• communication
• influence
• leadership
• understanding
• feedback

Keywords

• assumptions
• conversations
• boundaries
• real-life examples

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Essential Skills for Humaning

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