Female by Design

This week, Francie takes a fun departure from the current series to talk about an idea that's become a real rhythm in her own marriage and resonated with listeners ever since she started sharing it: how to plan a sexcation. Whether you have a full week and a real travel budget, or you can't get five feet past your front door right now because life is life, Francie walks through a full spectrum of options — starting small and building up. She shares the origin story of her and Wyatt's "hotel dates" (born out of COVID lockdowns), why a 24-hour local Airbnb might be the sweet spot for couples with limited time or budget, and what a 48-hour-or-longer getaway can open up for a couple with more margin. Along the way, she gets practical about food, screens, conversation starters, and the small things — a feather, new lingerie, a watercolor set — that build anticipation and connection. She closes with an honest word about what to do when the trip doesn't go as planned. In This Episode: Why you don't need a big trip to have a meaningful getaway — start small and build from there Hotel dates: the COVID-era habit that became a lasting rhythm in Francie and Wyatt's marriage Why a 24-hour local Airbnb offers a different (and often better) kind of privacy than a hotel What changes when you have 48 hours or more: new hormones, new experiences, new memories Practical tips for food, screens, conversation starters, and building anticipation What to do when life interrupts the trip you planned Ready to go deeper right now? Back to the Garden is the guide I wrote for exactly where you are — a married woman's guide to pleasure by design. It's the most honest thing I've put together, and at $18 it's the easiest yes you'll make this week. → here Questions? Find me on Instagram or at franciewinslow.com

Francie's back from a summer away — and she's kicking off a new mini-series on something our culture rarely celebrates: holy masculine strength. After a clip about honoring husbands went semi-viral this summer (and pulled in a wave of new male listeners), Francie felt the nudge to open this conversation to husbands too — not just wives. In this episode, she lays the theological groundwork, starting with the Hebrew word tov me'od ("very good") — the phrase God used only once He'd created both male and female. Then she gets honest about female design itself: more nerve endings, more erogenous zones, more built-in capacity for pleasure than most of us were ever taught to expect. So why do so many of us walk into the bedroom already in to-do-list mode? Francie also shares candidly about seasons in her own 21-year marriage marked by shame, numbness, and disconnection — and introduces the three-part framework she'll spend the rest of the series unpacking: how her husband Wyatt's strength has helped her feel seen, safe, and celebrated. In This Episode: Why Francie is dedicating a series to celebrating masculine strength — and inviting husbands to listen in The Hebrew word tov me'od and what it means that God called male AND female "very good" The design of female pleasure: nerve endings, erogenous zones, and the shift from "doing" to "receiving" Francie's own story of numbness and healing, 21 years into marriage A first look at the framework: seen, safe, celebrated Ready to go deeper right now? Back to the Garden is the guide I wrote for exactly where you are — a married woman's guide to pleasure by design. It's the most honest thing I've put together, and at $18 it's the easiest yes you'll make this week. → here Questions? Find me on Instagram or at franciewinslow.com

What's the difference between a difficult marriage and a destructive one—and how do you know when it's time to speak up? In this powerful conversation, Francie sits down with counselor and author Leslie Vernick to unpack destructive patterns in marriage, reclaiming your voice, and what it truly means to be a strong, biblical woman. Together, they address harmful teachings around submission, the loss of a woman's voice, and how to discern between normal marital struggles and unhealthy or abusive dynamics. This episode offers both clarity and practical wisdom for women who feel confused, shut down, or unsure of what is healthy in their marriage. What You'll Learn The difference between a disappointing marriage and a destructive one Why "submission" has often been misunderstood and misapplied What it means to be an ezer—a strong, helping partner, not a silent one How to begin using your voice in a healthy, grounded way Signs of emotional, spiritual, or relational harm How to discern your next steps with wisdom and support A healthy marriage allows for honesty, growth, and mutual care. If your voice is consistently dismissed, ignored, or punished, something deeper may be wrong. About Leslie Vernick Leslie Vernick is a licensed counselor, author, and speaker dedicated to helping individuals and couples navigate difficult and destructive relationships. With over 40 years of counseling experience, she specializes in emotional abuse, relationship health, and biblical wisdom for real-life challenges. She is the author of The Emotionally Destructive Marriage and founder of Leslie Vernick Ministries, where she equips women to move from confusion and fear into clarity, strength, and truth. Resources + Next Steps Book: The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick Website: leslievernick.com (find the Free Quiz: Is your marriage difficult, disappointing, or destructive? And, Free Training: If He Doesn't Hit You, Is It Still Abuse?) If you are in a situation that feels unsafe or confusing, seeking wise, informed support is an important next step. Note from Francie This conversation may feel tender or activating if you've experienced harm in your marriage. You are not alone, and there is help available. Connect with Francie 🎓 Back to the Garden: A Married Woman's Guide to Pleasure by Design — get a see a fresh vision of what a fully alive, God-honoring intimacy (and pleasure) could actually look like for your marriage. → here 🌿 The Circle — group mentorship community where women have conversations with likeminded women on a journey together towards more→ here 📩 Submit your listener question → Instagram DMs or franciewinslow.com

It's one of those questions more women have than are willing to ask out loud. In this episode of Female by Design, Francie tackles the topic of pubic hair grooming — not from a medical or therapeutic chair, but from the spirit of let's just have the conversation. Because when we can talk about our bodies without shame, that's exactly where freedom grows. This is not a moral issue. There is no law, no biblical mandate, no "Christian way" to groom. Francie opens by inviting listeners to release the tension that so often surrounds conversations about our bodies and sexuality, and to approach this one with curiosity instead of shame. This one's practical, a little lighthearted, and totally judgment-free. Resource Mentioned The Vagina Bible: The Vulva and the Vagina — Separating the Myth from the Medicine by Dr. Jen Gunter — a physician-written, research-based guide to women's health covering everything from anatomy to menopause to grooming. A great resource to have on your shelf (and to share with your daughters as they grow). Connect with Francie 🎓 Pleasure & Orgasm Course — one of Francie's most popular offerings, going deep on female pleasure and anatomy → franciewinslow.com 🌿 The Circle — group mentorship community where women have these conversations together → franciewinslow.com 📩 Submit your listener question → Instagram DMs or franciewinslow.com

Francie tackles another listener question — one of the most personal and practical she receives: How can I help my husband better learn what brings me pleasure? What she loves about this question is the word the listener used: learn. Because that's exactly the right frame. Becoming a great lover isn't about natural talent or chemistry — it's about paying attention, practicing, and becoming a student of each other. And for most women, before they can teach their husband anything, there's a more foundational step: learning what brings them pleasure themselves. Francie gets honest about how many women — herself included — have been so trained to dissociate from their bodies and silence their desires that they've lost touch with what they actually want. The "duty wife" script, the shame around pleasure, the pressure to just meet his needs — all of it has quietly robbed women of the ability to even answer the question their husband is asking: What do you like? This episode is the answer. Francie walks through how to re-attune to sensation, how to start naming what feels good, how to wake up your five senses as a pathway to communicating desire — and she closes with a beautifully practical framework that every couple can use starting tonight: the 3 P's — Place, Pace, and Pressure. Warm, practical, and full of Francie's signature mix of honesty and joy. The 3 P Framework A simple, practical tool for teaching your husband what brings you pleasure: Place — Where on your body do you want to feel sensation? Name specific places and help him understand what type of touch feels good where. Pace — How long do you want him there? A brief kiss on the neck when he walks in the door is different from lingering during intimacy. When a wife is becoming aroused, staying with what's working rather than moving on too quickly makes all the difference. Pressure — Firm or feather-light? Intense or gentle? These descriptors help him understand exactly how you want to be touched, not just where. Connect with Francie 🎓 Pleasure & Orgasm Course — one of Francie's most popular offerings, going deep on female pleasure and anatomy → [franciewinslow.com] 🌿 The Circle — group mentorship community where women have these conversations together → [franciewinslow.com] 📩 Submit your listener question → Instagram DMs or franciewinslow.com

Our calendars are full, demands are never-ending, and overwhelm is knocking with every new notification. In this final part of the "Unlocking the Female Heart, Mind, and Body" series, Francie leans into the impact of our busy lives on our bodies. This episode unpacks how the nervous system—designed by God—is central to our ability to feel safe, be present, and receive pleasure. It's not just about emotions or mindset. It's about how your body was wired by God to experience intimacy, connection, and peace. When safety is absent, disconnection becomes the norm. But there is another way: a way of awareness, rest, and gentle re-inhabiting of the good body God gave you. "You were never meant to be disembodied. God gave you a body to dwell in—where His Spirit meets you, where connection becomes possible." – Francie Winslow In This Episode: How chronic stress, performance culture, and disconnection impact female sexuality What your nervous system is doing all day long—and why it matters for intimacy Why safety is foundational for feminine arousal, connection, and presence How to notice what your body is saying (and how to respond with care) The invitation to trade numbness and overthinking for embodiment and pleasure Go Deeper in The Circle The Circle is a place to keep growing in freedom, understanding, and embodied joy. The Circle is Francie's group mentorship community where women gather monthly for live teaching, honest conversation, and support as they learn God's good design for intimacy, desire, and pleasure… not as performance, but as part of faithful discipleship. Inside the Circle you'll find safe connection with other women, access to Francie through discussion and messaging, and a gentle space to rethink what you've been taught about sex, your body, and your feminine design. Join The Circle More Growth Resources Connect with Francie: Receive Francie's weekly newsletter

It's too common that women feel disconnected from their bodies, unsure how to enjoy pleasure and physical intimacy without shame, anxiety, or confusion. This episode is an honest invitation to begin healing that disconnection. Francie shares the first of three powerful keys to unlocking the female heart, mind, and body—wisdom formed through years of mentoring women inside her Circle community. These insights are about stepping into wholeness as a woman created for joy, connection, and delight in God's design. "Your body isn't the obstacle. It's the place where God's presence wants to dwell and delight." – Francie Winslow In This Episode: Why so many women feel "shut down" and how trauma, theology, and nervous system patterns contribute The subtle ways shame shows up in the bedroom—even after years of marriage Daily practices Francie uses to move out of her head and into her body with peace A vision for sensuality that is holy, safe, and spiritually grounded An invitation to rediscover your body as a place of worship and wonder Go Deeper in The Circle The Circle is a place to keep growing in freedom, understanding, and embodied joy. The Circle is Francie's group mentorship community where women gather monthly for live teaching, honest conversation, and support as they learn God's good design for intimacy, desire, and pleasure… not as performance, but as part of faithful discipleship. Inside the Circle you'll find safe connection with other women, access to Francie through discussion and messaging, and a gentle space to rethink what you've been taught about sex, your body, and your feminine design. Join The Circle More Growth Resources Connect with Francie: Receive Francie's weekly newsletter

Most of us never had a sex talk that honored our design, reflected God's heart, or made space for our questions. In this powerful first episode of a mini-series, Francie begins to unpack three foundational truths every woman needs to know, but likely never heard. This is not a conversation about shame, fear, or performance. It's about reclaiming God's original dream for our bodies, our pleasure, and our wholeness as women made in His image. In Part 1, Francie walks us through: Why knowing your body is a spiritual practice How shame blocks our ability to understand and enjoy our design What the Bible reveals about God's intention for sex (and why it's so good) How women's bodies were made for pleasure, not just reproduction or duty The radical truth that sex is for you, too Whether you're married or single, just beginning your journey or decades in, this episode will help you take one step closer to wholeness… body, mind, and spirit. Go Deeper in The Circle The Circle is a place to keep growing in freedom, understanding, and embodied joy. The Circle is Francie's group mentorship community where women gather monthly for live teaching, honest conversation, and support as they learn God's good design for intimacy, desire, and pleasure… not as performance, but as part of faithful discipleship. Inside the Circle you'll find safe connection with other women, access to Francie through discussion and messaging, and a gentle space to rethink what you've been taught about sex, your body, and your feminine design. Join The Circle More Growth Resources Connect with Francie: Receive Francie's weekly newsletter