Female by Design

Hey friend — welcome to something that's been on my heart for a while. Over the next four episodes we're going to talk about what it looks like to be fully alive as a woman. Not just spiritually. Not just emotionally. But in your whole self — mind, body, and yes, sexuality too. I'm calling it Female Flourishing. That phrase might be new to you, so let me explain what I mean. Female flourishing is the journey of becoming more whole, more free, and more at home in the body God gave you. It's the opposite of the numbness, shame, and disconnection that so many of us have quietly carried for years — often without even realizing it. For me, that journey has been a long one. For about the first fifteen years of my marriage, I was what I'd call disembodied— meaning I lived almost entirely in my head. I was spiritually engaged, mentally active, always doing — but deeply disconnected from my own body and from the idea that my sexuality, my femininity, and my capacity for pleasure were actually good things. God things. It wasn't until I started to understand what God actually said about our bodies — Tov Meod, the Hebrew words meaning very good — that something began to shift. In this first episode I share some of my story, cast a vision for where we're going in this series, and offer an invitation: to begin bringing the parts of yourself you've kept hidden back into the light of what God has always said is true. A few things you'll hear: What embodiment means — and why most of us have lost it without realizing it. What Tov Meod means and why it matters for how you see your body. Why female flourishing starts with honesty — with yourself, with God, and with your story. You are deeply loved. You are not alone. And this is a really good place to begin. Ready to go deeper right now? Back to the Garden is the guide I wrote for exactly where you are — a married woman's guide to pleasure by design. It's an approachable, honest guide to the sex talk you never got, and at $18 it's the easiest yes you'll make this week. → here Questions? Find me on Instagram or at franciewinslow.com

This is the finale of the Great Sex Grows series — and Francie is sending you off with a shot of something you might not have expected: a deep, settled confidence in who God made you to be. In this episode, Francie walks through 10 superpowers she never knew she had as a woman and a wife — things she only discovered as she began inviting God into the intimate places of her marriage. Some of them will surprise you. Some of them will make you want to sit with them for a while. All of them are rooted in the truth that you were made on purpose, with purpose. This isn't a pep talk. It's a paradigm shift. You are more powerful than you know. And great sex grows when you start to believe it. Ready to go deeper right now? Back to the Garden is the guide I wrote for exactly where you are — a married woman's guide to pleasure by design. It's the most honest thing I've put together, and at $18 it's the easiest yes you'll make this week. → here Questions? Find me on Instagram or at franciewinslow.com

If your sex life has started to feel a little... predictable, this episode is for you. Francie brings the fun today — and she means it. Great sex isn't meant to be heavy, dutiful, or overly serious. It's meant to be lighthearted, connecting, and genuinely enjoyable. A joyful heart really is good medicine, and that includes what happens in the bedroom. Francie shares 13 practical ideas for bringing more fun, playfulness, and novelty into your intimate life — everything from the surprisingly simple to the a-little-spicy. Some of them will make you laugh. Some of them will make you nudge your husband. All of them are doable. Don't try to do all 13 at once. Just listen, pick the one that makes you think ooh, we could do that — and go do that. Great sex is not an achievement. It's an adventure — and you're invited. Ready to go deeper right now? Back to the Garden is the guide I wrote for exactly where you are — a married woman's guide to pleasure by design. It's the most honest thing I've put together, and at $18 it's the easiest yes you'll make this week. → here Questions? Find me on Instagram or at franciewinslow.com

Welcome to the Great Sex Grows series! We're starting where it all begins: your mindset. Because here's the thing — it's not about what you wear, what time it happens, or what you do. When it comes to growing a beautiful sex life in marriage, your mindset matters most. In this episode, Francie dives into three big ideas around shifting your thinking: Growth mindset vs. fixed mindset. Do you come to this area of your marriage with openness and curiosity — or is there a quiet voice that says this is just how it is? A fixed mindset keeps you stuck. A growth mindset says not yet — and that little word changes everything. Integrating your sexuality and your spirituality. For a lot of us, God was in one corner and sex was in another. But God made you as a whole person — mind, body, and spirit — and he's not ashamed of any of it. Inviting him into this area of your marriage? That's where real transformation begins. Great sex requires practice. Take the pressure off. You're not supposed to have it all figured out. Great lovers are made, not born — and showing up as a learner, season after season, is exactly what growth looks like. This episode is personal, practical, and full of the kind of honesty that will make you feel less alone and more hopeful about what's possible in your marriage. Your mindset is the starting point. Let's shift it together. Ready to go deeper right now? Back to the Garden is the guide I wrote for exactly where you are — a married woman's guide to pleasure by design. It's the most honest thing I've put together, and at $18 it's the easiest yes you'll make this week. → here Questions? Find me on Instagram or at franciewinslow.com

What's the difference between a difficult marriage and a destructive one—and how do you know when it's time to speak up? In this powerful conversation, Francie sits down with counselor and author Leslie Vernick to unpack destructive patterns in marriage, reclaiming your voice, and what it truly means to be a strong, biblical woman. Together, they address harmful teachings around submission, the loss of a woman's voice, and how to discern between normal marital struggles and unhealthy or abusive dynamics. This episode offers both clarity and practical wisdom for women who feel confused, shut down, or unsure of what is healthy in their marriage. What You'll Learn The difference between a disappointing marriage and a destructive one Why "submission" has often been misunderstood and misapplied What it means to be an ezer—a strong, helping partner, not a silent one How to begin using your voice in a healthy, grounded way Signs of emotional, spiritual, or relational harm How to discern your next steps with wisdom and support A healthy marriage allows for honesty, growth, and mutual care. If your voice is consistently dismissed, ignored, or punished, something deeper may be wrong. About Leslie Vernick Leslie Vernick is a licensed counselor, author, and speaker dedicated to helping individuals and couples navigate difficult and destructive relationships. With over 40 years of counseling experience, she specializes in emotional abuse, relationship health, and biblical wisdom for real-life challenges. She is the author of The Emotionally Destructive Marriage and founder of Leslie Vernick Ministries, where she equips women to move from confusion and fear into clarity, strength, and truth. Resources + Next Steps Book: The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick Website: leslievernick.com (find the Free Quiz: Is your marriage difficult, disappointing, or destructive? And, Free Training: If He Doesn't Hit You, Is It Still Abuse?) If you are in a situation that feels unsafe or confusing, seeking wise, informed support is an important next step. Note from Francie This conversation may feel tender or activating if you've experienced harm in your marriage. You are not alone, and there is help available. Connect with Francie 🎓 Back to the Garden: A Married Woman's Guide to Pleasure by Design — get a see a fresh vision of what a fully alive, God-honoring intimacy (and pleasure) could actually look like for your marriage. → here 🌿 The Circle — group mentorship community where women have conversations with likeminded women on a journey together towards more→ here 📩 Submit your listener question → Instagram DMs or franciewinslow.com

It's one of those questions more women have than are willing to ask out loud. In this episode of Female by Design, Francie tackles the topic of pubic hair grooming — not from a medical or therapeutic chair, but from the spirit of let's just have the conversation. Because when we can talk about our bodies without shame, that's exactly where freedom grows. This is not a moral issue. There is no law, no biblical mandate, no "Christian way" to groom. Francie opens by inviting listeners to release the tension that so often surrounds conversations about our bodies and sexuality, and to approach this one with curiosity instead of shame. This one's practical, a little lighthearted, and totally judgment-free. Resource Mentioned The Vagina Bible: The Vulva and the Vagina — Separating the Myth from the Medicine by Dr. Jen Gunter — a physician-written, research-based guide to women's health covering everything from anatomy to menopause to grooming. A great resource to have on your shelf (and to share with your daughters as they grow). Connect with Francie 🎓 Pleasure & Orgasm Course — one of Francie's most popular offerings, going deep on female pleasure and anatomy → franciewinslow.com 🌿 The Circle — group mentorship community where women have these conversations together → franciewinslow.com 📩 Submit your listener question → Instagram DMs or franciewinslow.com

Francie tackles another listener question — one of the most personal and practical she receives: How can I help my husband better learn what brings me pleasure? What she loves about this question is the word the listener used: learn. Because that's exactly the right frame. Becoming a great lover isn't about natural talent or chemistry — it's about paying attention, practicing, and becoming a student of each other. And for most women, before they can teach their husband anything, there's a more foundational step: learning what brings them pleasure themselves. Francie gets honest about how many women — herself included — have been so trained to dissociate from their bodies and silence their desires that they've lost touch with what they actually want. The "duty wife" script, the shame around pleasure, the pressure to just meet his needs — all of it has quietly robbed women of the ability to even answer the question their husband is asking: What do you like? This episode is the answer. Francie walks through how to re-attune to sensation, how to start naming what feels good, how to wake up your five senses as a pathway to communicating desire — and she closes with a beautifully practical framework that every couple can use starting tonight: the 3 P's — Place, Pace, and Pressure. Warm, practical, and full of Francie's signature mix of honesty and joy. The 3 P Framework A simple, practical tool for teaching your husband what brings you pleasure: Place — Where on your body do you want to feel sensation? Name specific places and help him understand what type of touch feels good where. Pace — How long do you want him there? A brief kiss on the neck when he walks in the door is different from lingering during intimacy. When a wife is becoming aroused, staying with what's working rather than moving on too quickly makes all the difference. Pressure — Firm or feather-light? Intense or gentle? These descriptors help him understand exactly how you want to be touched, not just where. Connect with Francie 🎓 Pleasure & Orgasm Course — one of Francie's most popular offerings, going deep on female pleasure and anatomy → [franciewinslow.com] 🌿 The Circle — group mentorship community where women have these conversations together → [franciewinslow.com] 📩 Submit your listener question → Instagram DMs or franciewinslow.com

Our calendars are full, demands are never-ending, and overwhelm is knocking with every new notification. In this final part of the "Unlocking the Female Heart, Mind, and Body" series, Francie leans into the impact of our busy lives on our bodies. This episode unpacks how the nervous system—designed by God—is central to our ability to feel safe, be present, and receive pleasure. It's not just about emotions or mindset. It's about how your body was wired by God to experience intimacy, connection, and peace. When safety is absent, disconnection becomes the norm. But there is another way: a way of awareness, rest, and gentle re-inhabiting of the good body God gave you. "You were never meant to be disembodied. God gave you a body to dwell in—where His Spirit meets you, where connection becomes possible." – Francie Winslow In This Episode: How chronic stress, performance culture, and disconnection impact female sexuality What your nervous system is doing all day long—and why it matters for intimacy Why safety is foundational for feminine arousal, connection, and presence How to notice what your body is saying (and how to respond with care) The invitation to trade numbness and overthinking for embodiment and pleasure Go Deeper in The Circle The Circle is a place to keep growing in freedom, understanding, and embodied joy. The Circle is Francie's group mentorship community where women gather monthly for live teaching, honest conversation, and support as they learn God's good design for intimacy, desire, and pleasure… not as performance, but as part of faithful discipleship. Inside the Circle you'll find safe connection with other women, access to Francie through discussion and messaging, and a gentle space to rethink what you've been taught about sex, your body, and your feminine design. Join The Circle More Growth Resources Connect with Francie: Receive Francie's weekly newsletter

It's too common that women feel disconnected from their bodies, unsure how to enjoy pleasure and physical intimacy without shame, anxiety, or confusion. This episode is an honest invitation to begin healing that disconnection. Francie shares the first of three powerful keys to unlocking the female heart, mind, and body—wisdom formed through years of mentoring women inside her Circle community. These insights are about stepping into wholeness as a woman created for joy, connection, and delight in God's design. "Your body isn't the obstacle. It's the place where God's presence wants to dwell and delight." – Francie Winslow In This Episode: Why so many women feel "shut down" and how trauma, theology, and nervous system patterns contribute The subtle ways shame shows up in the bedroom—even after years of marriage Daily practices Francie uses to move out of her head and into her body with peace A vision for sensuality that is holy, safe, and spiritually grounded An invitation to rediscover your body as a place of worship and wonder Go Deeper in The Circle The Circle is a place to keep growing in freedom, understanding, and embodied joy. The Circle is Francie's group mentorship community where women gather monthly for live teaching, honest conversation, and support as they learn God's good design for intimacy, desire, and pleasure… not as performance, but as part of faithful discipleship. Inside the Circle you'll find safe connection with other women, access to Francie through discussion and messaging, and a gentle space to rethink what you've been taught about sex, your body, and your feminine design. Join The Circle More Growth Resources Connect with Francie: Receive Francie's weekly newsletter

Most of us never had a sex talk that honored our design, reflected God's heart, or made space for our questions. In this powerful first episode of a mini-series, Francie begins to unpack three foundational truths every woman needs to know, but likely never heard. This is not a conversation about shame, fear, or performance. It's about reclaiming God's original dream for our bodies, our pleasure, and our wholeness as women made in His image. In Part 1, Francie walks us through: Why knowing your body is a spiritual practice How shame blocks our ability to understand and enjoy our design What the Bible reveals about God's intention for sex (and why it's so good) How women's bodies were made for pleasure, not just reproduction or duty The radical truth that sex is for you, too Whether you're married or single, just beginning your journey or decades in, this episode will help you take one step closer to wholeness… body, mind, and spirit. Go Deeper in The Circle The Circle is a place to keep growing in freedom, understanding, and embodied joy. The Circle is Francie's group mentorship community where women gather monthly for live teaching, honest conversation, and support as they learn God's good design for intimacy, desire, and pleasure… not as performance, but as part of faithful discipleship. Inside the Circle you'll find safe connection with other women, access to Francie through discussion and messaging, and a gentle space to rethink what you've been taught about sex, your body, and your feminine design. Join The Circle More Growth Resources Connect with Francie: Receive Francie's weekly newsletter

What do you do when your body starts to feel unfamiliar…when your energy dips, your stress rises, your curves change, and hormones seem to take over? In this heartfelt conversation, Francie sits down with longtime friend and mentor Alisa Keeton, founder of Revelation Wellness, to talk about what it means to be a woman walking through midlife, perimenopause, and the hormonal shifts that come with this sacred season. They talk candidly about the pressures of motherhood and ministry, the physical and emotional changes of midlife, and how to respond with grace rather than shame. Together, they invite you into a vision of embodied faith; where your body is not a burden, but a place of meeting with God. You'll hear reflections on: Navigating hormonal changes with spiritual and physical wisdom Rhythms of wellness that are both sustainable and sacred Listening to your body instead of overriding it Walking in your feminine design with hope and honor This is a tender, truth-filled episode for every woman in transition, and a reminder that God meets us in the middle of our changing seasons. About Alisa Keeton: Alisa is the founder of Revelation Wellness, a nonprofit ministry dedicated to helping people love God, get healthy, be whole, and love others. She's a speaker, podcast host, and author whose work sits at the intersection of faith, fitness, and holistic healing. With over a decade of leadership in the wellness space, Alisa has trained thousands of fitness professionals to bring the love of God into every part of their work. Check out Revelation Wellness here. – Francie's latest masterclass: Confidence with Sexual Communication – Mentorship: Join The Circle Connect with Francie: Receive Francie's weekly newsletter

Your husband is strong, yet has a very tender side that only you get the gift of seeing. But, how can you help his heart come alive? What is your man longing to hear? Your words have incredible power to build your husband in a way that no one else can. It's true! This episode might surprise you, but it's insight on how to speak right into the masculine strength of your husband. Let's get specific and learn to honor the ways God created you both, male and female. Enjoy this replay from a previous Christmas episode that is still so tender and true! – Merry Marriage Gift Guide: Download Now – Francie's latest masterclass: Confidence with Sexual Communication – Mentorship: Join The Circle Connect with Francie: Receive Francie's weekly newsletter

If sex has ever felt like something you're supposed to perform, instead of something you can enjoy, you're not alone. If you've ever felt awkward in your body… unsure how to initiate… or disconnected from desire… this episode is for you. Francie shares the tender, true story of how she moved from disconnection and insecurity into a deeper sense of embodiment, pleasure, and playful confidence in her marriage. "I used to think sexy was something I had to put on. But now I know, it's something I carry when I'm connected to myself." You'll discover: Why feeling "off" or uncertain in your body is more common than you think How to gently reawaken pleasure and presence (even after years of disconnection) What it looks like to cultivate feminine energy and confidence in your own way Simple, grace-filled ways to start feeling more at home in your body and more alive in your marriage This isn't about pressure or performance. It's about reclaiming the goodness God designed for you… body, heart, and soul. ✨ Want to take the next step? Join Francie's new 90-minute masterclass: Becoming Confident with Sexy Talk, your guide to finding your voice before, during, and after intimacy. Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper: Growth Courses 101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here 201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here Before (And After) I Do, here Get Connected Inside the Circle Group Mentorship Keep learning and get direct access to Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. Inside the Circle, we talk practicals and get support to grow. Learn more here: The Circle Donate to keep the message moving: Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here. Connect with Francie: Receive Francie's weekly newsletter