Radical Acceptance Bro! (Distress Tolerance pt. 2)

About this episode

This episode explores self-soothing and radical acceptance as key skills in distress tolerance.

Distress Tolerance Pt. 2: Self-Soothing & Radical Acceptance This week on a very special episode of Friendless, we're continuing our exploration of Distress Tolerance skills as the DBT mini-season hits the halfway mark! STOP and TIPP — last week's skills — are built for acute crisis moments. This episode is for the other kind of hard: the slow burn, the ongoing grief, the situations you can't fix right now and just have to live with anyway. Two major skills today: self-soothing and radical acceptance. Self-Soothing is about giving your nervous system what it needs to feel safer — not by fixing the thing, not by numbing out, but through sensory input that tells your body it's okay right now. James breaks down what this looks like across all five senses, shares what's in his self-soothing kit, and makes a case for building your own before you need it. Radical Acceptance is probably the hardest skill in DBT. It's also, in James's experience, the most transformative. This is the practice of accepting reality as it is — fully, completely, without the layer of this shouldn't be happening — and why that's not the same thing as approval, defeat, or giving up. James draws on a deeply…

Topics covered

• Distress Tolerance
• Self-Soothing
• Radical Acceptance
• DBT
• Mental Health

Keywords

• nervous system
• sensory input
• ongoing grief
• pain
• suffering

Mentioned in this episode

Products: self-soothing kit

Books & works: Friendless

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