028: The Boundary Mistake Everyone Makes

About this episode

This episode explores the importance of setting boundaries for self-respect and personal growth, particularly for women who tend to overfunction and sacrifice their peace.

This episode speaks directly to the overfunctioning woman tired of shrinking and sacrificing her peace. Through honesty and gentle clarity, we explore how boundaries are less about control and more about positioning yourself in your truth. If you're ready to unlearn the trauma responses that keep you stuck and build a foundation rooted in self-respect, this is your starting point. Key Topics Covered: Why most women struggle with boundaries and what forces them to overfunction Boundaries as a form of self-responsibility, not selfishness The difference between expressing preferences and taking action to protect your energy Why your capacity is not a character flaw, it's a human need The "Name It" boundary-setting framework: Notice, Articulate, Make It Known, Enforce How childhood environments conditioned us to see boundaries as selfish or dangerous The power of clarity in relationships. Beth from Yellowstone versus Monica from Friends Reframing belief: boundaries are about safety, maturity, and respect Practical steps: starting a resentment log, communicating boundaries, and enforcing them Permission to say no, change your mind, and prioritize your well-being Resources & Links…

People in this episode

Host: Lolly

Topics covered

• boundaries
• self-respect
• overfunctioning
• trauma responses
• relationship clarity
• personal growth

Keywords

• boundaries
• self-care
• overfunctioning
• personal growth
• self-respect
• trauma
• relationship clarity
• energy protection

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free

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