031: Your Habits Are Broken Because of This One Thing

031: Your Habits Are Broken Because of This One Thing

From Haven Hub Life: Shift, Change, Create by Lolly

June 2, 2026 · 26 min

About this episode

This episode discusses the importance of systems over willpower in creating lasting change in habits and emotional regulation.

Welcome back to Back to Basics! This episode recaps our journey through foundational concepts, starting with the power of boundaries and understanding your core values. We’ll explore how to create that system using practical habits and emotional regulation skills so your transformation sticks, even when life gets stressful. Most insights about habits and emotional regulation fall flat until you understand why systems, not willpower, create real change. If you’re tired of spiralling back into old patterns no matter how much you know better, this episode is your honest, grounding guide to breaking the cycle for good.. We discuss: Why insights alone don't lead to change and the importance of systems over willpower The connection between habits, autopilot, and emotional dysregulation How emotional regulation is a skill, not a trait, and how to develop it The stack method for building lasting habits: start small, tie to existing patterns, adjust your environment, celebrate progress, and anchor to values The pause protocol: a five-step emergency system to manage emotional hijacks in real time Reframes for understanding emotions as data and expanding your response space Why your…

People in this episode

Host: Lolly

Topics covered

  • habits
  • emotional regulation
  • systems
  • self-improvement
  • boundaries
  • core values

Keywords

  • habits
  • emotional regulation
  • systems
  • self-improvement
  • core values
  • boundaries
  • transformation

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