Hearts Entwined Podcast

Lyn welcomes spiritual counsellor Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards to discuss his deeply personal book, The Venus Flytrap. Stephen opens up about his journey through a tumultuous three-year relationship with a beautiful yet manipulative partner, exploring how even experienced relationship experts can attract/ fall into toxic dynamics when weakened by burnout or unresolved past trauma. Rather than viewing himself as a victim, Stephen shares how shifting his mindset to see every challenge as a mirror, allowed him to release unhealthy attachments, heal childhood patterns, and embrace true vulnerability as a pathway to emotional freedom. KEY TAKEAWAYS Toxic relationships often stem from underlying childhood patterns rather than simple relationship issues. Unhealthy attachments occur when we confuse external items or relationships with our personal identity. Viewing difficult experiences as happening for us rather than to us prevents us from adopting a victim mindset. True power and emotional freedom come from being vulnerable and releasing the fear of what others think. BEST MOMENTS "You don't have a relationship problem, you have a pattern problem."  "Everything is a mirror... She was mirroring back to me pieces of myself that I'd given away over the course of my life or I hadn't embraced or hadn't accepted as part of myself, so that I could heal them."  "When you're attached, you think it's part of who you are—that it's part of your identity."  "Vulnerable is a power, not something to fear, because when you can be vulnerable... it gives you freedom that you can't get any other way." ABOUT THE GUEST - Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards is an international speaker, author, and spiritual counselor with a PhD in Spiritual Counseling. Originally from Blackpool, UK, and now based in Florida, he combines decades of business experience with expertise in personal transformation and emotional growth. Author of The Venus Fly Trap, a raw memoir exploring power, obsession, vulnerability, and reinvention, Dr. Edwards draws on his own journey from high-pressure business success, heartbreak, and identity collapse to guide others toward self-awareness, authenticity, and alignment of mind, body, and spirit. Today, he helps individuals break destructive patterns, rebuild self-worth, and live with clarity and purpose, inspiring audiences to embrace truth, confront discomfort, and reclaim their authentic selves. Website: https://vft23.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephen_sapereaude/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/seemiracles/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@vft23_official?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61575468609762X: https://x.com/Stephen_Edwardz ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method [email protected] This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Lyn looks at the complex and controversial topic of trans and self-identification. Drawing from her personal experiences and extensive research, Lyn expresses her concerns about gender dysphoria and what's been offered as a one treatment fits all 'trans' pathway (transition to look/ identify as the opposite sex) solution, and the harrowing implications, particularly on young children and adolescents. She discusses the potential risks associated with transitioning, including mental health issues, irreversible sexual function, sterilisation and the permanent removal of healthy body parts. Lyn also raises the alarm on predetory male perpetrators who are exploiting self identity/ trans to gain accessibility to women/ girls private spaces and sports. KEY TAKEAWAYS Many individuals diagnosed with gender dysphoria may have underlying issues such as trauma, abuse, be on the neurodivergent spectrum or have confusion over their sexual orientation during adolescence, which could be treated with safe therapeutic options, rather than them automatically being pushed down a potentiall harmful trans pathway. The discussion highlights the probable long-term consequences of medical interventions like puberty blockers, cross-sex hormones and irreversible proceedures/ surgeries, particularly for children who are not emotionally/ mentally mature enough and do not fully understand the lifetime implications of their decisions. Huge concerns are being born out, allowing men to self-identify as women has opened the door for predatory male perpetrators to exploit being able to gain access to women’s and girl's safe spaces, endangering women and girls in areas where they should feel secure and protected. The conversation distinguishes between two main categories of men who identify as transwomen: 1. Homosexual transsexuals, who may transition due to gender dysphoria or traumatic childhood experiences, and 2. Autogenophiles, men who have a sexual fetish related to seeing themselves as female. BEST MOMENTS "I think this is an area in our lives at the minute which is leaving the door open for predatory men to be able to access vulnerable women and girls." "There are lots of reasons why people and children in particular, might suffer from gender dysphoria, especially through their vulnerable years of adolescence and puberty." "What comes after that? Certainly, possibly surgeries, where for boys that can lead to them having their genitals removed." ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method [email protected] This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

This deeply personal episode explores the phases of emotional detachment within a relationship, specifically from a woman's perspective, using a powerful analogy of an emotional "bank account." Lyn shares her own experiences across two long-term relationships, detailing five stages—from the initial unconscious observation of negative feelings to the final, total emotional and physical withdrawal KEY TAKEAWAYS A relationship begins with a full "bank account" of emotional energy, but as issues arise, the account starts to become slowly and unconsciously depleted until a woman feels emotionally bankrupt. The initial phase involves silently observing and compounding feelings of disappointment and unfulfilment without understanding the root cause, which then progresses to a breakdown in communication and feeling unheard. As emotional energy decreases, a woman slowly withdraws her investment in the relationship, showing less spontaneity, affection, and initiation, and instead starts taking personal responsibility for her own happiness through external activities. The final stage is the "whip of indifference," where the emotional bank account reaches zero, and the woman has completely checked out—a state of emotional bankruptcy where there is no more energy left to invest, and she is out of the relationship both emotionally and physically. BEST MOMENTS "Neither relationship was a toxic relationship... but it just got to the stage where we were on different paths and the relationships had run their course." "What I noticed is that, first and foremost, I was observing myself, but not actually consciously at the time... that I was silently observing, certain feelings... like disappointment, feeling unfulfilled." "Unconsciously, you start to stop communicating, and this can have a draining effect, it can really be a phase where you're feeling exhausted and frustrated." "I suppose in hindsight, I realise now that these things were going on, but I felt powerless to actually stop the train now that it was pulling out the station, so to speak." ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method [email protected] This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Lyn sits down with Daniel Ryan, "the family law guy," to discuss a difficult topic: what happens when couples reach the point of separation and divorce? Daniel, a family law practitioner & relationship expert shares his unique perspective on a legal system that he says often unnecessarily turns breakups into battlefields. KEY TAKEAWAYS Rather than fighting to destroy each other, Daniel's firm helps clients find a more equitable, negotiated outcome, reminding them that they once loved one another. A trend of relationships ending because people get "bored" with their partners and seek something new is discussed. The two experts discuss the need for more education in schools about how to have healthy relationships, as many people repeat the toxic cycles they grew up with. Daniel’s practice offers a holistic approach that includes recommending therapy and counseling to help clients get back to a happy and fulfilled life BEST MOMENTS "The approach you're currently taking is perhaps not the most appropriate one, and you're not really thinking about your children." "My remit is not to destroy one of you." "I am on second and third generation clients, where I think, 'Oh yeah, I did your mum's divorce,' and here I am doing yours." "All children have an absolute right to a fantastic childhood." ABOUT THE GUEST - Daniel Ryan - Family Law Expert Daniel Ryan is the voice behind That Family Law Guy, a candid and compassionate advocate for parents navigating the storm of separation, custody battles, and domestic abuse conflict. He provides unfiltered expertise with real-world impact. Daniel brings many years of frontline experience supporting families through divorce, custody, and domestic conflict—without hiding behind legal jargon. His no-nonsense, story-driven approach helps audiences truly understand the human cost of family breakdown and what they can do to navigate it more wisely. Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100073234334134 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/that_family_law_guy YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ThatFamilyLawGuy Website - https://www.mckenziepicave.com/ ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method [email protected] This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Lyn discusses how masculine and feminine energy works in the dynamic of a romantic relationship, highlighting how societal conditioning sometimes leads women to (often unconsciously) exude more masculine energy in their lives, and the impact this may have on their romantic relationships. Lyn explains the significance of being aware of how masculine & feminine energy affects our behaviours and results, so we can have/ attract healthier relationships with more intimacy, passion and fulfillment. KEY TAKEAWAYS There is a difference between masculine & feminine energy, masculine energy is associated with doing, thinking and action, while feminine energy is about being, intuition, and flow. Women may default into masculine energy as a protection mechanism due to past traumas or heartbreaks. This can hinder their ability to attract healthy masculine energy partners It's important for individuals to become more aware of their behaviours and how they show up in relationships. Some women need to shift from a mindset of needing to control to one of 'letting go' to help nuture healthier connections. Feeling feminine is personal and varies from woman to woman. It’s essential to identify what makes YOU feel more feminine, whether it’s through activities, clothing, accessories, or personal grooming BEST MOMENTS "The masculine and feminine energy dynamic really plays a huge part in the success of our relationships." "If we've had past trauma and heartbreaks, it's quite common for women to default into masculine energy as protection." "The feminine energy is all about relinquishing control." "Be aware that if you've not done the work on yourself, then you might need to delve into doing some of that to actually heal." ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now loving herself & being fulfilled, which makes her feel alive, full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. CONTACT [email protected] This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Lyn welcomes back loving relationship mentor and author Barbara Magro Berg to discuss her book, The Science of Attracting Your Soulmate. Barbara shares her personal journey from a challenging divorce to finding lasting love, emphasising the importance of self-discovery and emotional healing by using self-help techniques such as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique also known as tapping) and journaling. The conversation delves into the significance of admitting one's desires for love, the impact of societal conditioning on relationships, and the power of thoughts in manifesting a soulmate. KEY TAKEAWAYS A crucial step in attracting a soulmate is acknowledging and admitting to oneself the desire for love and companionship, without shame or fear of societal expectations. Understanding the principle that thoughts shape our reality is essential. Positive affirmations and beliefs about oneself can attract our desired relationship, while negative thoughts & beliefs can lead to creating negative repeat patterns and unfulfilling/ unhealthy relationships. Using practices like EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) or other self-help strategies can clear subconscious blockages and limiting beliefs that hinder the ability to attract a healthy soulmate. Having a clear vision statement and creating a vision board for your desired relationship can help manifest specific qualities and experiences in a partner, reinforcing what one truly wants in a loving relationship. BEST MOMENTS "I think the first thing is to admit to yourself that this is what you really want and not to be ashamed of it." "Thoughts become things. If you think you can't, you can't. If you think you can, you can." "When we have trauma in our youth, our soul actually fractures." "I think quite a lot of us do get conditioned by our environment, whether that's our parents, our friendship groups, the media that we consume." "You set your intention for what you want. You admit to yourself that you want love and that you're deserving of it." ABOUT THE GUEST Barbara Magro Berg - Loving Relationship Mentor & Author From the outside, it looked like Barbara had created a dream life with a successful career in the travel publishing industry that included frequent international trips, many wonderful friends, and a close family. Yet on the inside, something was missing, and she yearned for a special man to share her life with. After being encouraged by family and friends for many years to “give up on finding love” and appreciate the positive aspects her life already held, at the age of 59, her heartfelt dream of attracting and marrying her soulmate came true! By this time Barbara had been single for 20+ years and finally, her desire to love and be loved was achieved by mastering a set of scientific and spiritual principles. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/571693563724261Email [email protected] ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. CONTACT METHOD [email protected] This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/