Hide & Seek

AI porn is no longer a fringe curiosity — it’s rapidly becoming one of the most disruptive shifts in how we think about sex, media, and consent. In this episode of Hide and Seek, Jon is joined by queer artist and technologist Leo Herrera to unpack what’s really going on beneath the headlines. We start by breaking down what “AI porn” actually means — from fully synthetic erotic content to deepfakes and “nudification” tools — and how these technologies have evolved from earlier forms of porn and online intimacy. As Herrera explains, this isn’t just a new format; it’s a fundamental shift toward hyper-personalised, frictionless sexual experiences that blur the line between fantasy and reality. From there, we dive into the ethical fault lines. Who owns the data these systems are trained on? Can consent exist in a world where images are scraped, remixed, and regenerated at scale? And what happens when anyone can generate explicit content of anyone else — with or without their knowledge? We also explore the real-world impacts: the rise of non-consensual deepfakes, the disproportionate harm faced by women, queer people and sex workers, and the ways this technology is already reshaping sexual development, relationships, and expectations. But it’s not all dystopian. We look at the potential for AI to enable new forms of expression, representation, and even harm reduction — while asking what an “ethical” AI porn ecosystem might realistically look like. This is a conversation about more than porn. It’s about power, technology, and the future of human intimacy — and whether we can build the language, norms, and safeguards fast enough to keep up. Listen now and decide for yourself: evolution, or something far more?   Find Leo on substack at https://leoherrera.substack.com/ Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Fear isn’t something we usually associate with pleasure… so why does it turn some people on? Kitty Katastrophy returns to Hide and Seek to explore one of kink’s most misunderstood dynamics: fear play. From knife play to interrogation scenes, we unpack what this kink actually looks like in practice — and why it’s far more about trust, imagination, and control than real danger. We explore how fear can heighten sensation, the role of adrenaline and anticipation, and why psychological play can be just as intense as physical kink. Then we get into the fundamentals: negotiation, consent, safewords, and the kind of communication that makes these scenes possible. Plus — we tackle myths, media misconceptions, and what fear play reveals about vulnerability, trust, and human connection, and Craig and Joenas are totally shocked! Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Impact play might look simple from the outside — but there’s a lot more going on beneath the surface. Kitty Katastrophy joins us to break down one of the most common (and misunderstood) forms of kink. From hands to implements, thuddy to stingy, we explore the wide spectrum of sensations that fall under the impact play umbrella. We get into technique, rhythm, and why good impact play is as much about flow and connection as it is about force. Plus: subspace, aftercare, and how people build scenes that are not just physically safe, but emotionally grounded. Whether you’re curious, cautious, or already playing — this is a deep dive into the skills, communication, and trust that make impact play work. Kitty was last on Hide and Seek when she won the Australian Handler title in last year’s Breast In Show Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

What actually makes erotic fiction work? Is it the heat, the heart, or the way a story makes you feel seen? This week on Hide and Seek, Jon and Joenas are joined by Melbourne-based queer author Dion Marc for a wide-ranging, funny, and surprisingly thoughtful conversation about writing desire, storytelling, and what happens once your work leaves the page and meets its readers. We talk about how Dion found his way into queer erotica, why he writes unapologetically gay stories, and how personal experience, fantasy, kink, and imagination collide when crafting intimate scenes. From avoiding formulaic sex writing to embracing fantasy elements (yes, including vampires), Dion shares what keeps his work feeling genuine rather than repetitive. The conversation also digs into the afterlife of books — reader reactions, unexpected interpretations, and the emotional impact of feedback, both good and bad. We explore representation in queer fiction, why it matters, and how stories can shape the way readers see themselves, their bodies, and their desires. In the final part of the episode, Dion reflects on growth, staying grounded as an audience grows, and offers advice for queer writers — especially those curious about erotic fiction but unsure where to start. Expect laughs, nerdy tangents, spicy metaphors, and a reminder that sometimes the most powerful stories are the ones written honestly, even when they’re horny. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Side B is where the spotlight turns to the Mr VicBears 2026 competition — and the humans brave enough to step into it. In this half of Episode 222, Hide and Seek meets the Class of ’26: Teddy, Justin, Ray, Jake and Craig. It’s a line-up full of history, heart, camp, nerves, confidence, and wildly different journeys into the bear community. Each competitor shares how they found the bears, what keeps them coming back, and why they’ve decided to run for the sash. We talk community advocacy, representation, confidence-building, favourite ’90s films (yes, Clueless and Serial Mom both feature), and the very real mix of excitement and terror that comes with putting yourself out there. This isn’t just about abs, beards, or who owns the most outfits with paw prints. It’s about visibility, approachability, and what it means to represent a community built on belonging rather than perfection. From long-time committee members to returning competitors and first-time entrants, the Class of ’26 reflects the diversity and generosity of the bear scene itself. Side B is funny, warm, occasionally awkward, and deeply sincere — a reminder that while only one person gets the sash, the real win is showing up, being seen, and strengthening the community along the way. The competitors each highlighted a charity for their runs: Teddy spoke about Switchboard Justin threw behind the Australian Queer Archives Ray highlighted Transgender Victoria Jake talked up QLife and Craig covered Out of the Closet, Out of Options Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

New year, new holes in your walls — consensually, of course. So let’s get to the hardware store and get some big tools! In this practical, cheeky episode, Hide and Seek, explores DIY sex and kink projects, from plumbed shower douches to slings, A-frames, and at-home gloryholes. Jon and Craig walk through what’s genuinely DIY-friendly versus when it’s smarter (and safer) to call a tradie. Installing a douche? Probably doable if you can manage a shower head and thread tape. Ceiling eye-bolts? Get professional help. We talk tools, materials, weight ratings, ergonomics, and the very real importance of testing setups before you put a person in them. The episode also digs into safety beyond construction: splinters, chafing, privacy, theft risk, and why comfort matters just as much as creativity. Not every fantasy needs to be built — but if you are building it, do it well. This is a fun, grounded reminder that kink at home can be inventive, accessible, and deeply satisfying — as long as safety, durability, and consent come first. Don’t remember How to Build a Sex Room? Listen to our episode, Dungeons and Daddies! Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

I saw Daddy kissing Santa! Wait — Santa? Yes, Santa. In this festive and surprisingly thoughtful episode, Hide and Seek unwraps the idea of “Santa fetish” and uses it as a gateway into understanding how kinks form, why some trigger moral panic, and why curiosity beats judgement every time. Jon, Craig and Joenas break down the difference between kink and fetish, explaining why Santa roleplay is usually seasonal, playful, and layered onto existing interests like daddy dynamics, uniforms, ritual, and power — not an exclusive or year-round fixation. We tackle the discomfort head-on: why some cultural symbols feel “off-limits,” and why adult consensual roleplay gets misinterpreted so quickly. From there, the episode dives into the psychology: authority, generosity, surveillance, warmth, transgression, and humour. Santa emerges not as a shock value joke, but as a symbolic container — a way people eroticise comfort, dominance, or reclaim holidays that may carry trauma. The closing message lands gently but firmly: you don’t need a label to enjoy playful roleplay, and no one owes an explanation for consensual adult desire. Sometimes kink is serious. Sometimes it’s silly. Both can be valid — and fun. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

What happens when you move from a sexually conservative culture into one of the world’s most visible kink scenes — and realise you’re suddenly “allowed” to explore? In this deeply thoughtful episode, Hide and Seek welcomes Joenas to talk about kink discovery after migration, with a particular focus on CALD experiences. What is it like to explore, in colour? The conversation traces how shame-based sex education, silence, and religious taboo shape early understanding of sex — and how overwhelming it can feel to arrive in a place where kink is visible, named, and socially organised. We talk about the “kink big bang”: the flood of gear, language, expectations, and assumptions that can make newcomers feel behind, exposed, or pressured to perform. Importantly, the episode challenges stereotypes — from assumptions about submissiveness to fetishisation of cultural background — and offers clear guidance for non-CALD kinksters on how to be respectful allies. Slowing down, asking instead of assuming, and separating curiosity from entitlement are recurring themes. This is also a story of growth: finding safety in gear, learning through observation, revisiting consent, and discovering that uncertainty is allowed. The takeaway is powerful and generous — kink exploration is richer when we make space for cultural difference, patience, and trust. It’s not just about what you do with your body, but what you’re finally free to feel. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Bisexual, pansexual, fluid, questioning — or just tired of being told you’re “actually gay” or “basically straight”? In this week’s Hide and Seek, Jon and Craig are joined by CJ and Little Jase for a big, honest, frequently hilarious conversation about what it really means to live Bi+ in queer, kink, health, and dating spaces. Picking up from Big Bi+ Questions deep dive into Bi+ sexual health, the episode starts with a reality check: Bi+ people consistently have some of the worst sexual-health outcomes, not because of behaviour, but because we’re routinely erased from messaging. From “MSM” labels that don’t fit, to GPs who don’t know what to ask, the panel unpacks how stigma, data gaps, and awkward assumptions shape care — and why regular testing and shame-free conversations still matter. From there, things get messier (in a good way). We talk kink and pansexual spaces as unexpected sites of belonging, where gender matters less than consent, communication, and what you’re actually there to do. There are stories of inclusive dance floors, not-quite-inclusive venues, and why “gender-inclusive” doesn’t always mean welcoming — especially for women, trans people, and disabled Bi+ folks. The episode also tackles dating apps and the “double life” problem: blank profiles, safety risks, Bi+-phobia from all directions, and the emotional labour of being someone’s first safe conversation. Add in Pride, parties, tokenism, chosen family, and the ongoing question of “where do we fit?”, and you’ve got a full-spectrum look at Bi+ life beyond the stereotypes. Funny, sharp, and deeply human, A Bi and Beyond is a reminder that Bi+ people don’t sit in the middle — we exist everywhere. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Sex doesn’t end when the harness comes off or the toys go back in the drawer — and in Part B of Before and After, Tim and Jon make the case that aftercare is just as important as prep, whether you’re into kink, heavy play, or just enthusiastic fucking. We kick off with the physical stuff: checking your body, knowing what soreness is normal, when bleeding or pain isn’t, and why hydration and electrolytes matter (especially if enemas or long sessions were involved). There’s practical advice on gentle cleaning, toy and gear hygiene, soothing irritated skin, and recognising when it’s time to rest — or see a clinician. From there, we move into the emotional terrain. Endorphin drop, sub/drop, post-sex vulnerability, and that weird flat feeling that can hit hours or days later all get airtime. We talk reassurance, cuddles, grounding, affirmations, and why a simple “you were great” can be powerful medicine. There’s also space for debriefing — what worked, what didn’t, and how aftercare feeds into better consent next time. The episode explores aftercare across different contexts: kink scenes, casual hookups, long-term partners, solo play, and public or group settings. We touch on trauma-aware and neurodiverse needs, digital aftercare (yes, that follow-up text matters), and how different subcultures frame care and responsibility. The closing message is simple but radical: aftercare isn’t optional fluff. It’s harm reduction, it’s communication, and it’s love in action. The sex isn’t over until everyone feels okay. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

The Hide & Seek crew head down to Melbourne’s fetish community event The Northside Bizarre at The Laird Hotel, capturing all the fun and frivolity with community interviews from groups and punters alike. Tim and Craig talk about the history and importance of Northside Bizarre, before they’re joined by Jon to talk about the joy of master baking. Who has the best crumb shot? How did community groups get involved? And who was lucky to get a hidden treasure from the secondhand or the auction? Find out in this podcast! Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

The Australian Pups and Handlers Competition returned to Melbourne last weekend, and two new title holders were crowned! Pup Lycan was chuffed to win the Puppy title, and Kitty Katastrophy became the first cis-femme winner in the contest’s history! We hear their speeches, the win, and then Jon caught them the day after to hear what’s coming next! Australian Handler 2025 Kitty Katastrophy from VicPAH Australian Puppy 2025 Lycan from Victoria   For more on Pup Play, visit PupPlay.info Follow your PAHs! Australian Pup and Handler Competition is @auspahc and on the web at aphc.net.au QPAH WA-PAH SA-PAH Syd-PAH Vic-PAH We previously covered APHC in 2022 when it was held in Meanjin/Brisbane, in episodes 105 – Power of Dog and 109 – Shaggy Dog Stories. We also covered the comp in 2023 in Boorloo/Perth, in episode 145 – Up to Scratch and its Sextra Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Following on from the main episode, Tim and Jon go into planning seductions, and going to sex parties as a couple. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au