309 — Feel Left Out a Lot? The Neuroscience of Exclusion — and the Daily Habit That Builds Secure Relationships with Columbia Neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine

About this episode

In this episode, Amy Morin interviews Dr. Amir Levine about the neuroscience of exclusion and how to build secure relationships through understanding attachment styles.

Want more plays to choose from? Pre-order ⁠⁠The Mental Strength Playbook⁠⁠ before April 28th and get exclusive bonuses delivered instantly — including a mental strength audit and the book's introduction. Have you ever wondered why an unanswered text can send you into a spiral? Or why you keep having the same fight with your partner over and over again? It might be your attachment style. And the good news is, you can actually rewire your brain to feel more secure in your relationships. My guest today is Dr. Amir Levine, psychiatrist, molecular neuroscientist, and the bestselling author of Attached. He's back with a brand new book called Secure, where he shares how the small, everyday moments of connection can change your brain on a molecular level. Some of the things we discuss in this episode are: Why you can be securely attached to one person in your life and anxiously attached to another — and what that reveals about you. The "cyberball effect" and the surprising reason your brain reacts to being left off a group text the same way it reacts to physical pain. The shocking experiment that proved exclusion hurts even when the people excluding you aren't good people. The 5 pillars…

People in this episode

Host: Amy Morin

Guest: Dr. Amir Levine

Topics covered

• neuroscience of exclusion
• attachment styles
• secure relationships
• mental health
• connection
• relationship evaluation

Keywords

• attachment style
• neuroscience
• exclusion
• secure connection
• relationship dynamics
• mental strength
• cyberball effect
• CARP intervention

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Columbia

Products: The Mental Strength Playbook

Books & works: Attached, Secure

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