130: The 5 Lies Your Inner Voice Tells You in Midlife (and How to Talk Back)

About this episode

Debbie Harbec discusses the negative self-talk that midlife women experience and offers strategies to combat it.

Have you ever started doing something good for yourself? Like moving more, eating a bit better, trying again,... And almost immediately you heard a voice say… “That’s not enough.” Yeah. That voice. You know her. We all do. That's why I created this episode all about the quiet, sneaky self-talk that midlife women are using against themselves - often without even realizing it. In this episode, we talk about things like 👇 🧠 Why that inner voice gets louder in midlife 🚫 The 5 most common self-talk statements that stop progress before it starts 😮‍💨 Why this isn’t a motivation or discipline problem 🔁 How small efforts actually matter more now (even when your brain says they don’t) 💬 What it looks like to gently talk back - without forcing “positive thinking” If you’ve ever thought: • “I should be further along by now” • “If I can’t do it perfectly, why bother?” • “Maybe this is just how it is now…” You’ll probably hear yourself in this episode. Keep moving forward, without the negative self-talk, Debbie 💜 P.S. Click to get my Self-Talk Cheat Sheet P.P.S. Curious about working with me? Book a time to talk, it's always free…

People in this episode

Host: Debbie Harbec

Topics covered

• self-talk
• midlife
• personal growth
• motivation
• mental health

Keywords

• midlife
• self-talk
• motivation
• personal development
• negative thoughts

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