Emotions Stepmoms Are Afraid To Admit, Feeling Like An Outsider & The Childless Stepmom Experience with The Sober Stepmom

About this episode

The episode explores the complex emotions stepmoms face, featuring a candid discussion with Jen from The Sober Stepmom about jealousy, grief, and the unique challenges of childless stepmoms.

This week's episode is for every stepmom who has ever felt something and immediately felt guilty for feeling it. Jen from The Sober Stepmom joins me this week and we go there. Jealousy, grief, nervous system overload, the control trap. All of it. This is the conversation I wished I'd had years ago. Here's what we cover, but honestly, just go listen. This one got personal fast. In this week's episode, Jen and I discuss: How becoming a stepmom inspired Jen's journey with sobriety The emotions that catch stepmoms completely off guard and why feeling them doesn't make you a bad person Jealousy in the stepmom role, what it actually is and why so many stepmoms carry shame around it The nervous system science behind why stepmoms feel so on edge, especially around transition days Grief that stepmoms never name and how it shows up sideways when you least expect it The unique experience of the childless stepmom, including Jen's raw and honest take on navigating infertility while stepparenting Why trying to control everything in your blended family is quietly costing you more than you realize How to create space between the feeling and your reaction and why that gap is where your power…

People in this episode

Host: Jamie Scrimgeour

Guest: Jen

Topics covered

• emotions in stepparenting
• jealousy
• nervous system regulation
• childless stepmom experience
• grief in blended families
• sobriety journey

Keywords

• stepmom emotions
• jealousy in stepparenting
• nervous system
• childless stepmom
• grief
• sobriety
• blended family challenges

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: The Sober Stepmom

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