Finding Your Voice for Setting Limits

About this episode

Janet Lansbury provides guidance to a parent on using respectful language when setting limits with her child.

A parent writes that she's become uncomfortable with the language she's using when setting limits with her daughter. She's using a lot of "if/then" ultimatums and doesn't like the suggestion of a threat. "I was an elementary school teacher for years before having children and am realizing I'm still recovering from all the behaviorism my teacher training instilled in me." She asks Janet "if there's another way you would suggest going about this." Janet recommends a simple adjustment this parent can make that's actually the key to her respectful parenting approach. Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NoBadKidsCourse.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠JanetLansbury.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Please support our sponsors! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

People in this episode

Host: Janet

Topics covered

• parenting
• communication
• child development
• behavior management
• respectful parenting

Keywords

• setting limits
• if/then ultimatums
• behaviorism
• respectful parenting approach
• parenting advice

Mentioned in this episode

Products: No Bad Kids Master Course, JanetLansbury.com

Books & works: No Bad Kids Master Course

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