Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

A single parent writes that she is frustrated and exhausted by her almost 3-year-old’s constant resistance. Every aspect of their lives is either a negotiation or a struggle: dressing, leaving the house, getting into his car seat, drop-offs at school. In this encore episode, the the mom describes some recent big transitions in her boy’s life, and she is sensitive to the possibility that he may have separation issues. She says she does incorporate many of Janet’s ideas into her parenting practices, but she’s desperate for some guidance to make their relationship less challenging. Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at ⁠NoBadKidsCourse.com⁠ and ⁠JanetLansbury.com⁠. You can pre-order a signed copy of Janet's upcoming book BABY PERSON from Book Soup at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4xhJ2zZ⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When our kids won't go with the flow of the day and seem to push back on everything, it's often because they're sitting on feelings they can't easily express. In this episode, Janet responds to a note from a parent whose nine-year-old son won't respond to requests to shower, brush his teeth, do simple chores, or get dressed and ready for school. At the same time, this boy has been remarkably articulate in describing his feelings about being “a middle child," being replaced and losing his parents’ attention. Despite his parents’ efforts to make him feel loved, his hurt seems to surface as anger and resistance. Janet offers advice for addressing the situation and shares a revelation about her own nine-year-old daughter’s distress during a transition. Please support our sponsors! You can pre-order a signed copy of Janet's upcoming book BABY PERSON from Book Soup at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4xhJ2zZ⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Janet shares updates from parents whose concerns she has addressed in recent episodes — one about a preschooler’s escalating meltdowns at drop-off; another about a toddler pulling her own hair when overwhelmed; and a third about a two-and-a-half-year-old becoming increasingly fearful of seemingly random things. The parents’ follow-up letters offer a candid look at what helped, what changed, and what these parents discovered when they approached their children’s struggles in a new way. Please support our sponsors! You can pre-order a signed copy of Janet's upcoming book BABY PERSON from Book Soup at: ⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4xhJ2zZ⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When school starts, our children’s days can quickly fill with classes, activities, homework, and screens, crowding out opportunities that are critical to their development and emotional health: play. A parent wonders whether full-time school means sacrificing the slower, more playful childhood she wants for her son. Janet reassures this parent that she can have both, explaining how we can continue to prioritize play, and why this matters.   Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at ⁠⁠JanetLansbury.com⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠NoBadKidsCourse.com⁠⁠. You can pre-order a signed copy of Janet's upcoming book BABY PERSON from Book Soup at: ⁠https://bit.ly/4xhJ2zZ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices