246. why external validation keeps you stuck! (feat. dr. scott barry kaufman)

About this episode

In this episode, Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman discusses how external validation can hinder personal growth and offers actionable tools for self-actualization.

‘self-actualization’ isn’t just a tiktok buzzword– it’s how you can unlock your true potential using psychology. today’s guest is dr. scott barry kaufman— a psychologist, coach, professor, keynote speaker, and best-selling author who is passionate about helping all kinds of minds live a creative, fulfilling, and self-actualized life. he is a professor of psychology at columbia university and host of the psychology podcast, which has received over 30 million downloads worldwide. in this episode, we translate terms like self-actualization, agency, and mastery into actionable tools you can actually use. whether you’re a college student trying to raise your gpa or a postgrad working your way out of an existential crisis (real), this episode is your instruction manual for living your best life starting NOW! we talk about: • the self-growth metaphor you need to hear • why we delay our happiness + how to break this habit • self-actualization + what everyone gets wrong about it • if gen z has a victim mentality • the importance of gaining mastery • setting achievable goals that don’t cause burnout • comparison culture + how to step out of it • unlocking your potential as a student +…

People in this episode

Guest: Dr Scott Barry Kaufman

Topics covered

• self-actualization
• psychology
• external validation
• self-growth
• agency
• mastery

Keywords

• mental health
• college students
• existential crisis
• happiness

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