Duct Tape, Yeah-Buts, & Anchors!!

Duct Tape, Yeah-Buts, & Anchors!!

From Stop Parenting & Start Coaching by Nate Crandall and Steve Galley

February 3, 2026 · 21 min · Episode 134

About this episode

The episode discusses how parents can model healthy emotional responses to their teens' experiences with disappointment, particularly in sports.

Playing time is a pressure cooker because it pokes at every parent trigger: fairness, status, control, fear, and helplessness. And if we’re honest, it can feel personal—even when it isn’t. In today's conversation, we deliver a fantastic "reframe" to help you model a healthy response to non-preferred outcomes so your teen learns the real life skill: dealing with disappointment without losing identity, effort, or connection. You’ll learn how to spot your “yeah, buts,” reset your expectations, and have the kind of calm, clear conversation that builds trust—especially when your teen is already on edge. Let's gooooooooooooo Most Valuable Parents!! The Timestamps 00:00 Navigating Playing Time and Parental Pride 03:23 Understanding Control and Helplessness in Sports 06:29 Expectations and Communication with Teens 08:43 Life Lessons from Sports and Non-Preferred Outcomes 11:42 The Duct Tape Analogy: Managing Emotions 14:40 The 24-Hour Rule: Emotional Recovery 16:18 Reframing the Parent-Teen Dynamic Takeaways -Playing time can induce trauma for both parents and teens. -Understanding what is within our control is crucial in handling "playing time." -Parents should model healthy emotional…

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Hosts: Nate Crandall, Steve Galley

Topics covered

  • parenting
  • teen communication
  • emotional responses
  • sports
  • dealing with disappointment
  • trust building

Keywords

  • playing time
  • emotional recovery
  • 24-hour rule
  • yeah buts
  • parent-teen dynamic
  • life skills
  • trust

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