17 | Why Peace Feels Boring After Narcissistic Abuse

About this episode

This episode discusses the discomfort of feeling bored or restless after escaping a narcissistic relationship.

You finally got out. The chaos has stopped. So why does peace feel flat? Restless? Almost… boring? In this episode of The Messy Middle, I’m talking about something that so many women experience after leaving a narcissistic or high-control relationship but rarely admit out loud: Calm can feel uncomfortable. Instead of relief, you might feel numb. Irritated. Agitated. Like something is missing. You might even catch yourself missing parts of the relationship and immediately spiral into, “What is...

People in this episode

Host: Erika Leon

Topics covered

• narcissistic abuse
• emotional healing
• relationships
• mental health
• post-traumatic growth

Keywords

• narcissistic abuse
• peace
• emotional numbness
• high-control relationship
• calm
• restlessness
• healing

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