18 | "I'll Never Need Anyone Again" Hyper Independence Phase

About this episode

This episode explores the hyper independence phase many women experience after high-control or narcissistic relationships.

“I’ll never need anyone again.” If you’ve said this (out loud or quietly to yourself) after coercive control, betrayal, divorce, or going no contact… this episode is for you. In this conversation, I’m unpacking the very real phase so many women enter after high-control or narcissistic relationships: the swing from “I can’t survive without them” to “I will never depend on anyone ever again.” And I want to normalize this immediately: That response makes sense. If trusting someone meant humiliat...

People in this episode

Host: Erika Leon

Topics covered

• hyper independence
• coercive control
• narcissistic relationships
• betrayal
• trust issues
• women's experiences

Keywords

• hyper independence
• coercive control
• narcissism
• betrayal
• trust
• relationships
• women

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