97 - Disorganized Attachment - AKA fearful avoidant attachment style can be so hard to navigate—let's get clarity.

About this episode

The episode discusses disorganized attachment style and its impact on relationships, featuring insights from holistic therapist Hayden Rosato.

Our conversation on attachment styles continues! This week, we're getting into disorganized attachment style, aka fearful avoidant. One of the reasons this style is so hard to understand is that it's rooted in contradictory desires—wanting something while simultaneously fearing it. It can be as confusing for the people with this attachment style as it is for the people in relationship with them. Holistic therapist and podcaster Hayden Rosato joins me to talk us through how this attachment style differs from anxious and avoidant, what beliefs come up for those with disorganized attachment, how it impacts relationships, and how we start the healing process. Looking for more episodes on attachment styles? Try episode 6 —it's all about the anxious/avoidant relationship trap. Episode 95 is about avoidant attachment. You can also try any of these episodes—they're all about anxious attachment: episode 14 , episode 88 , and episode 89 . Want to work with Remy? Go ⁠⁠ here . Find us on: Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: patraumaparty@gmail.com The contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute…

People in this episode

Host: Remy Ramirez

Guest: Hayden Rosato

Topics covered

• disorganized attachment
• fearful avoidant attachment
• relationship dynamics
• healing process
• attachment styles

Keywords

• disorganized attachment
• fearful avoidant
• attachment styles
• relationship healing
• self worth

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