The Real Work with Maggie Sterling

14 day challenge (started 10/12/26): https://softregulationsystem.com/challenge Get my nervous system sensitization course Take the nervous system sensitization quiz Are your symptoms caused by your nervous system? Take the Quiz. If you've read all the self-help books and listened to all the podcasts and still feel stuck, this video is for you. Self-improvement burnout is real, and constantly consuming self-help content can turn into a compulsion that keeps you from actually living your life. In this video, I share my own story with self-help, the signs that it's become compulsive for you, and the part of healing most people neglect.

Get my nervous system sensitization course Take the nervous system sensitization quiz Are your symptoms caused by your nervous system? Take the Quiz. If you have chronic insomnia, or you wake up at 3am and can't fall back asleep, there's a good chance your nervous system is sensitized and stuck on high alert. In my experience this is rarely a sleep problem. In this video I cover how your nervous system gets in the way of something your body already knows how to do on its own, what not to do when you're lying awake in the middle of the night, why I part ways with a lot of what CBT-I teaches, and how medication and medication withdrawal can factor into all of it. I also answer the four questions I get asked most about insomnia: How do I stop fearing not sleeping when the consequences are so real? Is this fear, or is it something physical? What if the thing keeping me up isn't fear? What if I recovered and I'm suddenly back to all nighters, am I at square one?

Get my nervous system sensitization course Take the nervous system sensitization quiz Are your symptoms caused by your nervous system? Take the Quiz. Anxious thoughts, intrusive thoughts, and rumination are symptoms of a sensitized nervous system, the same way physical symptoms are. In this video I explain why your thoughts get so loud, so dark, and so convincing when your system has been stuck in threat, and why you can't think your way out of them. I go into why your brain zooms in on one problem at a time, why quieting one thought just makes room for the next one, and what actually keeps the whole loop running.

Get my nervous system sensitization course Take the nervous system sensitization quiz Are your symptoms caused by your nervous system? Take the Quiz. Nervous system regulation doesn't work for everyone, and the reason has nothing to do with how hard you're trying. If you've done the breathing exercises, the cold plunges, the vagus nerve tools — and felt nothing — there's something happening underneath that almost nobody in this space talks about. In this video I'm breaking down the difference between a dysregulated nervous system and a sensitized one, why that difference changes everything about what actually helps, and what to do when the tools everyone recommends aren't touching your symptoms.

Get my nervous system sensitization course Take the nervous system sensitization quiz Are your symptoms caused by your nervous system? Take the Quiz. Three everyday things are overstimulating your nervous system without you even noticing, and they're the ones that feel like relaxing. You can do almost nothing all day and still end up completely fried by the evening. In this video I walk through all three, and why the fix for every one of them is the same.

Buy the book "Unlearn Your Pain": https://amzn.to/3RFTxho Follow Dr. Schubiner on Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/hschubiner/ https://www.facebook.com/hschubiner/ Get my nervous system sensitization course Take the nervous system sensitization quiz Are your symptoms caused by your nervous system? Take the Quiz. If you've been to doctor after doctor with no real answers, this conversation is for you. Dr. Howard Schubiner, MD, is a physician and researcher who has spent over 20 years studying chronic pain, fatigue, anxiety, and depression — and what he's found changes everything. His new book, Unlearn Your Pain, lays out the science behind why your brain creates these symptoms and how they can be fully reversed. In this conversation we cover why most chronic conditions are neuroplastic, what medicine keeps getting wrong, and why the way you've been trying to heal may be making it harder.

Get my nervous system sensitization course Take the nervous system sensitization quiz Are your symptoms caused by your nervous system? Take the Quiz. Brain retraining is being prescribed to the people it makes worse. If you have a sensitized nervous system and you've been doing brain retraining — monitoring every thought, interrupting cascades, redirecting hundreds of times a day — and it feels like you're getting more anxious, more vigilant, more obsessed with what's happening in your head, you're not failing the program. The program is asking the wrong thing of a system in your state. In this video, I break down why formal brain retraining backfires for hypersensitive nervous systems, what's actually retraining your brain whether you sit down to do it or not, and where mental work does have a place once you've desensitized.

Get my nervous system sensitization course Take the nervous system sensitization quiz Nervous system healing rarely looks like what you think it should. For 20 years I waited for the day I'd wake up calm, symptom-free, and finally "fixed." That day never came. What did happen was much quieter — and I almost missed it. In this video, I'm sharing 5 subtle signs your nervous system is actually healing, even when it doesn't feel like it. Plus one bonus shift that surprised me the most. If you've been doing the work and wondering if anything is changing, this one is for you.

Get my nervous system sensitization course Take the nervous system sensitization quiz Can AI help you heal your nervous system? ChatGPT, Claude, and Gemini have become the go-to for people dealing with anxiety, chronic pain, and chronic symptoms — but my honest opinion on whether you should be using them is probably not what you'd expect.In this video, I'm walking you through when AI actually helps your nervous system recovery, when it makes things dramatically worse, and the one question to ask yourself before you ever open ChatGPT again. The answer has nothing to do with the tool itself. It has everything to do with the state you're in when you pick it up.

Get my nervous system sensitization course Take the nervous system sensitization quiz If you're in the middle of nervous system healing, you've probably wondered how to get your partner to actually understand what you're going through — and what real support looks like when nothing they do seems to help. In this episode, Maggie sits down with her husband Ryan, who supported her through her darkest years of chronic anxiety, physical symptoms, a psychiatric hospitalization, and a full nervous system breakdown. They talk honestly about what made things worse, what actually helped, and what Maggie finally had to ask Ryan to do differently.

Get my nervous system sensitization course Take the nervous system sensitization quiz If you feel like you've been doing everything right and you're still not getting better, this episode is for you. Maggie spent over a decade stuck in nervous system sensitization — and a lot of that time was spent doing things that felt like healing but were actually keeping her stuck. In this episode, she breaks down exactly what those patterns look like, why they're so hard to spot, and what actually moves the needle. You'll learn why reassurance seeking feels helpful but quietly wires in the problem, why a symptom flare is not evidence that something has gone wrong, and why the amount of content you consume may be working against you. If you've tried everything and you're exhausted, this one is worth your full attention.

Get my nervous system sensitization course Take the nervous system sensitization quiz If you've tried everything for your anxiety or chronic symptoms and nothing is working, your nervous system might be sensitized — not dysregulated. These are two very different things. Most nervous system content out there is built for dysregulation. And if that's not what you're dealing with, those tools won't just fail to help — they can actually make things worse over time. In this video, I'm sharing 5 signs that your nervous system has become sensitized. If you relate to three or more, you're probably on the wrong path — and that's actually good news, because there's a different way through.

Get my nervous system sensitization course Take the nervous system sensitization quiz If you have chronic anxiety or physical symptoms that won't go away, you've probably been told to breathe through it. Box breathing, the physiological sigh, meditation — and maybe it helps for a minute, or maybe it doesn't help at all. There's a reason for that. When your nervous system is sensitized, breathing exercises can actually be keeping you stuck — not because the tools are bad, but because of what reaching for them signals to your body. In this video, I explain why breathing exercises backfire when you're sensitized, what you need to do instead, and why the goal was never to feel better — it was to get better at feeling.