The Whinypaluza Podcast

What if the behaviors that frustrate, worry, or confuse you most aren't the real problem? What if anxiety, OCD, emotional outbursts, picky eating, and even focus issues are all clues pointing to something deeper?In this eye-opening episode, Rebecca welcomes Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, licensed therapist, certified school psychologist, parenting expert, and author of The Dysregulated Kid. With more than 30 years of experience helping children and families, Dr. Roseann explains how nervous system dysregulation may be at the root of many common childhood struggles, including anxiety, OCD, emotional reactivity, picky eating, ARFID, and behavioral challenges.Together, Rebecca and Dr. Roseann discuss why regulation must come before learning, coping skills, discipline, and even therapy. They explore practical ways parents can support both their children and themselves, while offering hope for families who feel overwhelmed or stuck.This conversation may completely change the way you view your child's behavior.Key Takeaways→ Behavior is often a clue, not the problem.→ A dysregulated nervous system can look like anxiety, ADHD, OCD, emotional outbursts, or lack of focus.→ Parents are their children's emotional anchors and co-regulation matters.→ ARFID and severe picky eating are often connected to nervous system and sensory challenges.→ Small, consistent regulation practices can create powerful long-term changes.If this episode helped you see your child through a new lens, please share it with another parent, grandparent, teacher, or caregiver.Listen, subscribe, and learn more at:https://whinypaluza.com/Listen on Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-whinypaluza-podcast/id1534167756

Why do kids act out, melt down, scream, or constantly fight with their siblings? In this episode of The Whinypaluza Podcast, sits down with behavior analyst Emily Groben to explore what behavior is really communicating. Emily explains how children often lack the skills to express their needs and emotions, and why understanding the “why” behind behavior can completely change how parents respond. From sibling rivalry and praise to meltdowns and autism support, this episode is packed with practical parenting tools that can help create calmer, more connected homes. Key Takeaways • Every behavior serves a purpose. • Sibling rivalry is often rooted in attention, access, and developmental skills. • Praise is one of the most powerful parenting tools. • Meltdowns should be handled with calm and safety, not escalation. • Children need replacement skills, not just punishment. • Five to ten minutes of focused attention can make a huge difference.Connect with Emily GrobenInstagram: @emilygrobenFacebook: Blue Bolt Pediatric CareWebsite: BlueBoltPediatricCare.comIf this episode encouraged you, please share it with another parent who may need support right now. Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and keep spending every day laughing, learning, and loving.Listen here: The Whinypaluza Podcast on Apple Podcasts

When your child says “I’m fine”… what if they’re not?As parents, we hear it all the time.“I’m fine.”But what if those two words are actually a cry for help?In this powerful conversation, Rebecca sits down with nationally recognized eating disorder and trauma expert Dr. Jillian Lampert of The Emily Program to discuss the subtle signs parents often miss, the connection between trauma, self-harm, body image, and eating disorders, and how curiosity—not panic—can open life-changing conversations.This episode may change how you parent… and it may help save a life.Key Takeaways✔ “I’m fine” may actually mean you’re onto something✔ Isolation is often one of the earliest warning signs✔ Food changes, exercise habits, supplements, and body talk can be clues✔ Social media is shaping body image more than parents realize✔ Curiosity beats confrontation every time✔ Early intervention matters more than perfectionPowerful Quote“If your child says ‘I’m fine’… take that as a yes. You’re onto something.” Connect with Jillian on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/jillian-lampert-2a735651/Learn about The Emily Program https://emilyprogram.com/Please like, share, and follow Whinypaluza Podcast. 

What happens when couples stop talking about the very thing they most need to understand?In this honest and compassionate episode of The Whinypaluza Podcast, Rebecca Greene sits down with Dr. Tiffany Stanley to talk about desire, intimacy, shame, communication, motherhood, menopause, trauma, and what really happens when couples start feeling more like roommates than partners.Dr. Tiffany Stanley is a licensed psychotherapist, clinical sexologist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and author of the upcoming book Nothing Is Off the Table. She helps women and couples move out of shame, silence, and disconnection and into self trust, desire, pleasure, and honest communication.Rebecca and Tiffany talk about why desire changes through different stages of life, why safety and nervous system regulation matter, and why couples need to stop guessing and start talking. Tiffany explains that intimacy is not just about sex. It is about connection, communication, emotional safety, and making time for the relationship before resentment and neglect take over.Key Takeaways→ Desire is not broken just because it changes over time.→ Women often need safety, transition time, rest, and emotional connection before they can access desire.→ Couples rarely talk about sex, but talking about it is one of the biggest keys to improving intimacy.→ Feeling like roommates usually happens because the couple relationship has been neglected.→ Mismatched desire does not automatically mean something is wrong with the relationship.→ Trauma, stress, illness, motherhood, menopause, and attachment styles can all affect intimacy.→ Pleasure starts with reconnecting to yourself, not just pleasing someone else.→ Children benefit from seeing parents invest in their relationship with affection, repair, and intentional time together.Dr. Tiffany Stanley, Ph.D., LPC-S, MA, NCC, ABS, CST, UKCP Reg., is a licensed psychotherapist, supervisor, clinical sexologist, and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist with over 20 years of clinical experience. She specializes in women’s emotional wellbeing, intimacy, desire, attachment, and identity across major life transitions. Visit website: https://tiffanystanleytherapy.com/about-tiffany-stanley-therapy/Listen to the full episode of The Whinypaluza Podcast and share it with someone who needs an honest, shame-free conversation about love, desire, and connection.Visit Whinypaluza website:  https://www.whinypaluza.com/

What happens when a therapist… becomes the one who needs healing?In this deeply moving episode of The Whinypaluza Podcast, Rebecca Greene sits down with Dr. Swanzi Saunders, licensed therapist, minister, speaker, and author of Still Becoming: A Therapist’s Sacred Journey Through Depression.Dr. Swanzi opens up about her own private battle with depression while balancing faith, family, leadership, and the pressure to appear strong. Together, Rebecca and Dr. Swanzi explore what healing really looks like, why depression is not the end of your story, and how even the smallest steps toward self awareness can create life changing transformation.This episode is filled with wisdom, honesty, and hope for anyone navigating grief, overwhelm, depression, parenting challenges, or simply a season where life feels heavy.In this episode, you’ll hear: • Why “still becoming” is such a powerful mindset • How faith and mental health can work together • Why strong people often struggle in silence • Small daily practices that can help you begin healing • What to look for when choosing a therapist • Why your children need a present parent, not a perfect one • How slow progress still counts • Why depression may be part of your story… but never the endMemorable Quote“Depression may be a part of your story… but certainly it is not the end of your story.” Dr. Swanzi Saunders Connect with Dr. Swanzi SaundersWebsite: DrSwanzi.comBook: Still Becoming: A Therapist’s Sacred Journey Through DepressionAvailable on Amazon and major booksellers. 🎧 Like what you hear? Follow, rate, and share The Whinypaluza Podcast with someone who may need this conversation today.

What does motherhood really look like inside one busy, loving, hilarious family?In this special Mother’s Day episode, Rebecca Greene sits down with Seth and their three children, Max, Ella, and Lillie, for a heartfelt family conversation about motherhood, marriage, emotions, growing up, and what it means to feel loved and supported.This episode is tender, funny, honest, and very Whinypaluza. From Disney memories and college drop offs to emotional regulation, high standards, late night talks, and the infamous “too many questions,” the Greene family gives listeners a real look at the beautiful, messy, meaningful work of raising children.Key Takeaways:→ Motherhood brings more emotions than anyone can prepare for.→ Kids often want independence before parents are ready to let go.→ Teenagers need patience, calm, support, and room to talk when they are ready.→ Family memories often come from the simplest moments, late night talks, trips, and being fully present.→ Emotional honesty can be a strength when parents model it with love.→ Rebecca’s family reminds us that motherhood is not about perfection. It is about love, laughter, repair, and showing up again and again.Rebecca closes the episode by reminding everyone to spend every day laughing, learning, and loving.  

What if raising a “well-educated child” has nothing to do with grades and everything to do with how they think?In this powerful conversation, Rebecca sits down with educator and author Deborah Kenny, founder of Harlem Village Academies, to challenge everything we think we know about education. From eliminating screens to building independent thinkers, Deborah shares what actually works when it comes to raising confident, capable, and self-motivated kids. This episode will make you rethink parenting, school, and what success really looks like for your child.Key Takeaways→ A well-educated child is not just knowledgeable but intellectually sophisticated, self-directed, and purpose-driven. → Agency matters more than grades because self-motivated kids push themselves to learn.→ Reading is the single most powerful habit for building attention span and critical thinking. → Too much screen time weakens focus and limits curiosity.→ Kids need guidance to question what they see, not just absorb it.→ Parents should focus less on grades and more on a love of learning. Want to raise a confident, independent thinker? Start by changing what happens at home. Listen now and share this episode with a parent who needs to hear it.Guest InfoDeborah KennyFounder, Harlem Village AcademiesBook: The Well-Educated ChildWebsite: https://www.thewelleducatedchild.org/https://whinypaluza.com/ - Visit Rebecca's website: Whinypaluza 

Ever feel like your brain is holding 100 sticky notes… and you’re about to drop all of them? In this powerful and relatable episode, Rebecca Greene sits down with Nicole Retter, founder of PAM, an AI-powered Personal Admin Manager designed to help families manage the overwhelming mental load of everyday life.After navigating COVID with two young children, an injured husband, and a full-time job, Nicole hit a breaking point. What she discovered wasn’t just stress… it was the invisible mental load that so many moms carry every single day.Instead of accepting it, she built a solution.PAM pulls together emails, messages, calendars, and tasks into one simple system, helping families stay organized, reduce stress, and actually breathe again.This conversation dives into burnout, relationships, the pressure to “do it all,” and how one tool is helping families feel lighter, more connected, and more in control.Key Takeaways:→ The mental load is the invisible work that’s exhausting moms, not motherhood itself → Most women aren’t failing… they’re overloaded beyond what any brain can manage → Making tasks visible can reduce resentment and improve relationships → Getting everything out of your head creates real mental space→ Support doesn’t have to come from one person… it can be shared→ Taking care of yourself is essential, not optionalQuote:“It was like running around with 100 post-it notes in my head… and that was what was completely tipping me over the edge.” Connect with Nicole Retter:Email: Nicole@myPam.nzSearch on LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicole-retter/App: Search “PAM Family Manager” in the App StoreVisit Rebecca's website: https://www.whinypaluza.com/If this episode made you feel seen, share it with a mom who needs it.And don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the Whinypaluza podcast.

What happens when you look fine on the outside, but inside you are exhausted, overwhelmed, and not even sure what your gut is trying to tell you anymore?In this episode of Whinypaluza, Rebecca sits down with Kelle Sparta, a transformational shaman, psychic energy healer, and spiritual business strategist, for a conversation that goes far beyond burnout. They talk about why so many moms power through instead of slowing down, how perfectionism keeps women stuck, and what it really means to trust yourself again. Kelle shares practical insight on overwhelm, emotional resilience, asking for help, and why functioning is not the same thing as healing.  → Why burnout is not over just because you can get up and get things done → Why moms lose touch with intuition when they stay stuck in their heads → How perfectionism creates exhaustion, pressure, and unrealistic expectations → What emotional resilience looks like when kids are having big feelings → Why asking for help is healthier than waiting until you are desperate → The powerful question to ask when you feel lost and do not know what to do next Listen now and share this episode with a mom who needs permission to stop powering through.Kelle's contact information:Transformational Shaman and Spiritual Business Coachwww.KelleSparta.comFollow Me On Instagram: KelleSpartaFollow Me on Twitter: @KelleSpartaLike My Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/KelleSparta1/Listen to the Spirit Sherpa Podcast:  www.SpiritSherpaPodcast.comJoin The Spirit Sherpa by Kelle Sparta Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/2262979307345944/Connect with Rebecca:  https://linktr.ee/whinypaluzamomSubscribe, leave a review, and keep spending every day laughing, learning, and loving

What happens when you do everything right… and still feel completely burned out? In this episode of Whinypaluza, Rebecca Greene sits down with JoAnn Crohn, founder of No Guilt Mom, to talk about burnout, the mental load, and why so many women feel overwhelmed even when they are doing it all.JoAnn shares the moment she broke down on Christmas after carrying everything for everyone and how that experience changed the way she approaches motherhood, partnership, and expectations at home. This conversation is honest, relatable, and full of practical shifts that can make a real difference.Key Takeaways→ The mental load is the constant thinking and remembering that never turns off→ Doing everything for everyone can lead to resentment and burnout→ Fair does not mean equal, it means shared and sustainable→ Kids can take on real responsibility and grow from it→ Boundaries start with what you will and will not do→ You are allowed to want time and space for yourself Listen to this episode, share it with a mom who needs it, and take one small step for yourself today. Find JoAnn at NoGuiltMom.com and check out her podcast and book The Best Mom is a Happy Mom.Follow Rebecca on all channels:  https://linktr.ee/whinypaluzamom

What if the reason you feel overwhelmed as a parent isn’t because you’re failing… but because no one ever showed you how to regulate your own emotions?In this powerful episode of Whinypaluza, host Rebecca Greene sits down with Irin Rubin, co-founder of MamaZen, a mindful parenting platform helping over 182,000 parents manage anxiety, burnout, and emotional overwhelm.Irin shares her deeply personal journey into motherhood, where everything she expected fell apart, leading to stress, burnout, and a complete loss of control. What she discovered changed everything and now she’s helping parents around the world do the same.This conversation dives into what’s really happening beneath the surface for modern parents, why we’re constantly in fight or flight mode, and how to break generational patterns that keep showing up in our parenting.If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, reactive, or like you’re just trying to survive the day, this episode will give you practical tools and a completely new way to look at parenting.Key Takeaways → Most parents are stuck in constant fight or flight mode without realizing it → Emotional regulation matters more than being a “perfect” parent → Your reactions are often rooted in your own childhood patterns → Co-regulation with your child starts with calming yourself first → Small daily practices can rewire how you respond to stress → Guilt does not make you a better parent, it keeps you stuck → What you model matters more than what you sayIf this episode resonated with you, share it with another parent who needs to hear they’re not alone. Subscribe to Whinypaluza so you don’t miss future conversations, and take a moment to leave a review because your support helps more parents find this message.To learn more about Irin Rubin and explore her work, visit MamaZen and download the app or grab her book The MamaZen Parenting Method on Amazon.

Have you ever looked at your life and thought… I did everything right, so why don’t I feel like myself?In this powerful episode of Whinypaluza, host Rebecca Greene sits down with Alaina Love, CEO of Purpose Linked Consulting and author of Permission to Be You, to talk about something so many moms feel but rarely say out loud… losing yourself while taking care of everyone else.Alaina shares how purpose and passion are not just big life ideas, but practical tools to help you reconnect with who you are. From parenting to careers to personal identity, this conversation explores what happens when we stop living on autopilot and start asking better questions about what we truly want.This episode is a reminder that you don’t need to become someone new… you need to come back to yourself. → Why so many women feel lost even when they have done everything “right” → The difference between purpose and passion and why both matter → How motherhood can slowly disconnect you from your identity → Why reflection is the key most people avoid but desperately need → How to give yourself permission to be who you already are → Simple ways to start reconnecting with yourself todayRebecca and Alaina dive into real, honest moments that will make you feel seen, understood, and maybe even a little braver about making changes in your own life.If this episode resonates with you, share it with a friend who might need to hear it too. And as always, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review Whinypaluza so more people can find these conversations.To learn more about Alaina Love and her work, connect on LinkedIn and explore her book Permission to Be You.

What if the goal of grief was not to “move on,” but to carry love forward in a new way?In this moving episode, Rebecca Greene talks with Patricia D. Freudenberg, known as Patty, about grief, remembrance, and how to transform pain into a living legacy. Patty shares how her work through Miss-U-Gram grew from years of listening to people open up in her beauty chair, and how that experience led her to build a platform that gives grieving people a place to honor loved ones, express what they are carrying, and begin healing. She also opens up about why kids need honesty, why families need harder end of life conversations sooner, and why the words we use with grieving people matter more than we realize.Key Topics Discussed → Miss-U-Gram and how Patty’s work began → What a living legacy really means → The Legacy Tree Lighting Ceremony → How to talk to kids about grief → Grief masks including denial, anger, and anxiety → Family conflict after loss and the need for clear instructions → Grief in the workplace → What to say and what not to say to someone grieving → Morning rituals, remembrance, and Patty’s book6 Key Takeaways→ Grief does not need to end for life to continue→ A living legacy means honoring what was while still embracing what is becoming→ Children usually know more than adults think, so honest conversations matter→ Supportive grief language should invite care, not force comfort→ Family conflict after death is often made worse by silence and lack of planning→ Small rituals can help grieving people move through the day with more steadinessIf Patty’s message resonated with you, connect with her through Miss-U-Gram and explore her grief recovery resources, remembrance work, and Live Your Legacy.