This Time of the Month

Hey, it’s Beatrice, host of This Time of The Month! I’m sitting down with relationship expert Amanda Bacchus, MSW, RSW, RP, RMFT, to tackle the unique challenges of midlife relationships. She is a registered social worker, psychotherapist, and marriage and family therapist who specializes in helping individuals and couples improve their relationships with practical solutions. If you’re dealing with communication breakdowns, feeling like you and your partner are on totally different wavelengths, or wondering if midlife has thrown your relationship into chaos—you’re not alone! Amanda is here with real, practical advice to help you break free from old patterns and rediscover connection. Here’s What We’ll Cover: Why communication gets so tricky in midlife and how to make it easier Amanda’s “5-to-1 positivity ratio” secret for happier connections How resentment builds (hint: it’s not what you think) and what to do about it Tips for keeping intimacy alive—even if it’s been years The reality of midlife “reorgs” and how to redefine your relationship By the end of this episode, you’ll have the tools to transform how you and your partner handle everything from those annoying daily routines to the big changes that come with midlife. Let’s dive in and make this season of life one that brings you closer together. Chapters: 00:00:00 Introduction: Midlife Relationship Real Talk 00:01:23 The Relationship “Dance” and Why It Matters 00:03:05 When Communication Breaks Down—And How to Fix It 00:04:52 The 5-to-1 Rule for Happier Connections 00:07:00 Healthy Arguments: Setting Boundaries on Conflict 00:08:45 Breaking the Cycle: Ending the Pursuer-Withdrawer Dynamic 00:15:20 Stop the Martyrdom: Asking for Help Without Guilt 00:26:19 Rediscovering Your Identity in Midlife 00:31:54 Scheduling Intimacy: Reignite the Spark 00:39:48 Resentment Rehab: Healing Emotional Wounds 00:43:00 Affairs, Trust, and the Path to Reconnection 00:44:25 The Midlife “Reorg”: Redefining Partnership 00:53:25 Empty Nest Syndrome & Rediscovering Each Other 00:57:56 Reinventing Relationships in Midlife 00:59:00 Sh!t I Like Segment Tea Time Resources: Website for the Vaughan relationship Centre https://vaughantherapy.ca IG: https://www.instagram.com/vaughantherapy Note: Content in this episode is meant for educational and awareness purposes. It does not replace medical or professional advice from your healthcare providers. TTOM Socials: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ttomcommunity/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TTOMcommunity/

Get ready for the real talk about pelvic health with Gerda Hayden, pelvic floor physiotherapist! If you've ever wondered why your bladder has a mind of its own or what on earth a "vagina bra" is, this episode of This Time of the Month is your must-watch. We’re unpacking everything you NEVER learned in health class—from mastering your pelvic floor muscles to why you should STOP doing those “just in case” pees. Gerda’s here with game-changing tips on beating incontinence, conquering prolapse, and embracing exercises that ACTUALLY work. Plus, we’ll reveal the surprising connections between your breathing and your pelvic health (yes, they’re more linked than you think!). What you’ll learn: The TRUTH about pessaries (aka “vagina bras”)—and why they might be your new BFF. Exercises that give you the pelvic floor of a superhero! Why scrolling on the toilet might be your pelvic floor’s worst enemy. How estrogen impacts your pelvic health (and what to do when it starts to dip). And so much more, from postpartum care tips to beating embarrassing bladder leaks! Don’t miss out—hit play, laugh along, and learn why pelvic health is the secret to feeling fabulous at ANY age. Ready to take control? Gerda Hayden's Website: https://gerdahayden.com/ Instagram: gerdahaydenpt Gerda grew up in Cape Town, South Africa and completed her physiotherapy degree with distinction at the University of Cape Town (UCT) in 2003. She started her career in the Neuro MusculoSkeletal field adding a diploma in Sports Rehabilitation to her credentials in 2006. It was in an elite athlete clinic that her interest in Women's health was first piqued. She obtained her Women's health credentialing in 2012, the same year her first son was born. The family moved to the UK shortly after and then landed in Canada three years later. She is currently rostered with the College of Physiotherapists of Ontario to perform internal pelvic exams and is a member of the Women's Health Division with the Canadian Physiotherapy Association. She started at the World of My baby (WOMB) in 2018 and has been there since. She has expanded her peri-partum care to an interest in the peri-menopausal field and is qualified to fit pessaries. Her holistic approach ensures that she addresses underlying issues and strives to always see the bigger picture. She keeps abreast of the latest evidence -based research and applies this to her clients. Her thorough, insightful and effective assessment enables the development of an integrated and comprehensive client-centred treatment strategy. She is passionate about furthering education and hosts the in-clinic placements for McMaster medical residents as well as giving guest lectures at the University itself. TTOM Socials: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ttomcommunity/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TTOMcommunity/ Note: Content in this episode is meant for educational and awareness purposes. It does not replace medical advice from your healthcare provider

Join us for our ultimate guide on how to supercharge your business travel season wardrobe with Sagit Vyner, our resident stylist! Learn how to create multiple stylish looks using a minimal number of items, and ensure you stand out in a sea of sameness. Video version is on YouTube. From power suits and strategic colour choices to versatile accessories and travel packing hacks, Sagit shares insider tips to make your business travel chic, fun, and effortless. Discover how to reinvent your basics, maximize your investment pieces, and pack like a pro for any event. Let's amp up your business wear and travel in style! Watch until the end so you don’t miss our accessories tips too! Chapters: 00:00 Introduction: Business travel season and the wardrobe challenge. 00:30 Starting with Basics: Black blazer, white tee, and black pencil pants. 01:27 Amp Up Your Look: Adding colour, texture, and patterns. 02:11 The Red Blazer: Fit, style, and why it's a must-have. 04:00 Transforming Basics: From day to night with red power suit tips. 05:55 The Perfect Fit: Adjusting pants length with safety pins. 07:32 Introducing Prints: Bringing joy with floral and timeless prints. 09:00 Packing Efficiently: Tips for using a specialized travel bag. 12:00 Sheath Dress Magic: Styling a timeless piece for various looks. 13:32 Gala Night Transformation: From business to evening glamour. 16:00 Travel Day Comfort: Stylish and practical outfit for the airport. 18:00 The Right Tools: Packing strategies and bag selection. 20:15 Accessorizing: Refresh your wardrobe with accessories. 22:00 Final Tips: Bringing joy and personality to your business wear. 26:42 Sh#it I Like Product Review: Bose travel Speaker. Social: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ttomcommunity/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TTOMcommunity/

In this Part 1 of Season 2, episode 11, Dr. Béatrice welcomes back Kirsten Frey, a Grief Recovery Specialist, to understand more deeply how to navigate the emotional burden carried by women in midlife. If you missed our previous chat with Kirsten, you can get caught up with link below (we defined grief beyond the loss of loved ones, and recognized any loss or transition as grief: https://youtu.be/0qTVt20mcdw In this new episode, Kirsten shared the impact of grief on our relationships. Throughout the episode, practical advice and language recommendations are provided with real life examples for effectively communicating feelings and setting healthy boundaries. This episode highlights the importance of addressing grief and loss in a compassionate, radically honest, and open manner. Additional topics covered includes: * Shift from crisis to an awakening * Establishing healthy boundaries and navigating pushback from self and others * Misconceptions and societal conditioning affecting men and women * Exploring intimacy and relationships * Parallels between the emotional experiences of menopause and puberty * How societal expectations of expressing emotions can differ for men and women * And much more Timestamp: 0:00 Intro 0:53 Introducing Grief Recovery Speciliast: Carrying the burden of everyone 4:38 How to create space during midlife chaos (with example) 9:53 What's the language we can use to set healthy boundaries? 11:52 Setting great example for your kids 14:49 The dynamics of spousal relationships during loss or grief 17:59 Two things you'd like for men to know about grief 20:54 How does lack of intimacy affect relationships? 24:48 Getting a coach or therapist isn't a sign of weakness 26:50 Top 3 takeaways from this episode Social: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ttomcommunity/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TTOMcommunity/ Note: Content in this episode is meant for educational and awareness purposes. It does not replace medical advice from your healthcare provider(s) and other professionals. RESOURCES: Kirsten Frey www.tlclifecoaching.com IG: tlclifecoaching https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/sites/default/files/cgrs-support-files/the_major_myths_about_grief_ebook.pdf

On this episode 9 of TTOM Season 2, I sit down once again with Amanda Thebe. This time we talk about repairing our relationship with food. Amanda goes deeper on what to eat and how to eat, especially focusing on behaviour change and how to enjoy food. Amanda is Amazon Best-Selling Author and Canada's First Menopause Workplace Educator. She is also a fitness and women’s health expert with nearly thirty years of experience in the fitness industry, she is the author of the Amazon best-selling book, Menopocalypse: How I Learned to Thrive During Menopause and How You Can Too! She is the co-founder and Chief Wellness and Branding Officer at Nyah Health, a complete healthcare solution for menopausal women in Canada. She provides on-site or virtual educational presentations in the workplace to improve productivity, retention and attendance for female employees through menopause. Amanda is a popular guest on podcasts, radio, tv and online summits, and her health and fitness tips have been featured in media outlets like Oprah, Shape, Prevention, Health Line, CBC Radio, Global News Canada, The Doctors, and many more. She lives in Toronto, Ontario. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro: Eating food in front of tele? 2:20 Diet culture: They make money by instilling fear 3:33 You should get rid of restrictive ideas around food 5:25 Misleading celeb culture: Being thin & perfect 6:03 Myths: All carbs are bad? 11:51 Role of protein need in midlife 16:16 I'll ask my daughter to watch this segment 16:38 What types of supplement can help? 18:29 Two supplements I take... 22:06 Three big takeaways when it comes to eating 24:55 Sh!t I like: minute rice review Amanda Thebe's Socials: Instagram: www.instagram.com/amanda.thebe Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amandathebex Twitter: https://twitter.com/amandathebex LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanda-thebe/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/AmandaThebex Podcast: www.amandathebe.com/podcast

Join Dr. Beatrice Seguin in 'This Time of the Month' for conversations with Stephanie, Helen, and Laurie on embracing beauty, confidence, and empowerment amidst life's challenges. Stephanie Adams: Redefining Beauty in your 40s Self-Care: Elevating personal well-being as a paramount priority. Unity: Encouraging open sharing and mutual support among women. Proactivity: Highlighting the importance of regular health screenings. Style: Advocating for personal expression beyond societal age expectations. Dialogue: Promoting transparent communication with healthcare providers. Helen Tansey: Embrace True Beauty Essence: Valuing people beyond looks. Narratives: Challenging society's aging and beauty standards. Unity: Encouraging women to uplift, not judge. Aging: Seeing aging as natural and positive. Joy: Finding beauty in laughter, meditation, and connections. Laurie Hunt: Overcoming Limiting Beliefs and Choosing Self. Movement: Overcoming limits to unlock potential. Growth Mindset: Embracing possibilities beyond age. Daily Practices: Balancing mood, movement, and mental growth. Small Shifts: Setting achievable goals to break barriers. Self-Care: Prioritizing oneself for growth and service. Chapters: 0:00 Intro 1:48: what's in episode 7? 2:41 Part 1: Stephanie - Beauty Standards 4:08 Can we own our standard of beauty past our 40s? 6:12 women judge each other a lot 7:58 I think women need to share beyond Instagram 8:30 affordable tips that gives you that sense of uplift 10:27 what turns you on in your 40s compared to 20s or 30s? 12:03 when they say, "Dress your age!" 14:36 "suffering in silence" 15:44 Part 2: Helen - how we changed narrative about beauty and aging 16:08 - how you see essence of a person? how do you do that? 17:00 how do you define beauty? 18:51 - Internal struggle 21:21 stop judging each other 23:46 my brother believed in me 24:44 what would you tell your younger self 27:56 Three things you want TTOM audience to know 30:09 I wish celeb would be more transparent 32:00 what makes you feel beautiful? 33:31 part 3 - Laurie - overcoming limiting beliefs 34:35 what’s the small shift to overcome limiting beliefs 36:10 "I'm too old to do this" 37:45 transformation is achievable for everyone?" 39:14 what you would want TTOM audience to leave with? 43:27 SIL – Sh!t I Like Green dress worn with Stephanie was kindly styled by @jordananoelle.styling Additional Links: Helen Tansey https://www.sundariphotography.com Laurie Hunt https://www.lauriehunt.com/blog/the-more-in-me-movement-story-part-1-what-is-it Note: Content in this episode is meant for educational and awareness purposes. It does not replace medical advice from your healthcare provider.

After 40, women may experience a slowdown in the frequency of sex. Result? It can impact relationships to a significant extent. In this episode 5 of Season 2, I continued my candid conversation with returning guest Monique Voorn, social worker and sexual health and wellness counsellor to unravel the intricacies of sexual wellness and intimacy in midlife. Monique shared the challenges couples face as they navigate changes in their bodies and desires. From understanding the importance of non-verbal cues to expanding the definition of intimacy beyond sex, Monique and I talked about it all. Topics Covered: The broadening concept of intimacy and sexual wellness in midlife. Strategies for maintaining connection without traditional forms of sex, including the exploration of "Venus" (Very Erotic Non-Insertive Sex). The importance of non-verbal communication and the sensate focus exercise for enhancing intimacy. Navigating the challenges of erectile dysfunction and dryness with openness and creativity. Overcoming guilt and redefining roles within sexual relationships. Practical tips for expressing needs and desires to strengthen the partnership. Additional Resources: 10 Tips for Low Sexual Desire from Alberta Health Services: https://www.albertahealthservices.ca/assets/info/cca/if-cca-low-sexual-desire.pdf Better Sex Through Mindfulness workbook by Dr. Lori Brotto be found on her website: https://www.loribrotto.com/ Come as You Are Come Together by Emily Nagoski: https://www.emilynagoski.com/home OHNUT rings: https://ohnut.co/en-ca?gad_source=1&rfsn=6780991.9bb7a1e&utm_campaign=theOnlyReviews&utm_content=theOnlyReviews&utm_id=theOnlyReviews&utm_medium=theOnlyReviews&utm_source=theOnlyReviews&utm_term=theOnlyReviews Dr. Rosemary Basson's work: https://thischangedmypractice.com/author/robasson/ Socials: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ttomcommunity/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TTOMcommunity/ Note: Content in this episode is meant for educational and awareness purposes. It does not replace medical advice from your healthcare provider.