128. Why Isn’t Everyone Crying Out Loud? with Laura Berman

About this episode

Emily Fletcher and Dr. Laura Berman discuss the connection between unexpressed grief and physical illness, and the transformative power of fully experiencing emotions.

What if the feelings you've been most afraid to feel are the exact ones keeping you from the pleasure, the magic, and the life you most desire? In this episode of Why Isn't Everyone Doing This?, Emily Fletcher sits down with Dr. Laura Berman, PhD scientist, sex and relationship therapist of 30 years, and author of 10 books including Sex Magic and her newest, Crying Out Loud: A Path Through Grief into Life Reimagined. Dr. Berman's story is one of the most remarkable Emily has ever shared on this show. After losing her mother to breast cancer and developing the same cancer in the same breast within a year, Laura recognized the connection between unexpressed grief and physical illness. Then, five years ago, her 16-year-old son Sammy was killed by an accidental fentanyl poisoning sent to him through Snapchat. What happened next, a week alone in the Redwoods, a voice at the beach, and a complete surrender into the pain, led to the discovery that changed everything: there is a bottom. It takes about three minutes. And going all the way into grief does not take you under. It sets you free. This conversation directly illuminates what Emily teaches inside Ziva Magic: all feelings come…

People in this episode

Host: Emily Fletcher

Guest: Dr. Laura Berman

Topics covered

• grief
• emotional capacity
• pleasure
• healing
• loss
• self-discovery

Keywords

• grief
• emotional healing
• pleasure
• loss
• fentanyl poisoning
• self-discovery
• emotional capacity

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Crying Out Loud: A Path Through Grief into Life Reimagined, Sex Magic

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