Why Isn't Everyone Doing This? with Emily Fletcher

What if the feelings you've been most afraid to feel are the exact ones keeping you from the pleasure, the magic, and the life you most desire? In this episode of Why Isn't Everyone Doing This?, Emily Fletcher sits down with Dr. Laura Berman, PhD scientist, sex and relationship therapist of 30 years, and author of 10 books including Sex Magic and her newest, Crying Out Loud: A Path Through Grief into Life Reimagined. Dr. Berman's story is one of the most remarkable Emily has ever shared on this show. After losing her mother to breast cancer and developing the same cancer in the same breast within a year, Laura recognized the connection between unexpressed grief and physical illness. Then, five years ago, her 16-year-old son Sammy was killed by an accidental fentanyl poisoning sent to him through Snapchat. What happened next, a week alone in the Redwoods, a voice at the beach, and a complete surrender into the pain, led to the discovery that changed everything: there is a bottom. It takes about three minutes. And going all the way into grief does not take you under. It sets you free. This conversation directly illuminates what Emily teaches inside Ziva Magic: all feelings come through the same channel. When you suppress grief and rage, you suppress pleasure and ecstasy. The willingness to stretch your emotional capacity is the same thing as stretching your capacity for magic. In this episode, they explore: – Why all feelings come through the same channel, and what you lose when you block the ones that hurt – The science of emotional inflammation and its direct connection to physical illness – Quantum entanglement and why the people closest to you energetically match your state in real time – The "home frequency" of coherence, how to recognize it, lose it, and return to it – Why going all the way into grief does not break you, and what waits on the other side – How Dr. Berman continued a relationship with her son across the frequency divide after his death – What spiritually bypassing grief actually costs us, and what embodied alchemy looks like instead – The grief retreat model she built for other parents and the Grief Healing Collective she runs today – Why one person holding a higher frequency counteracts 70,000 people in darkness Key Moments: 00:00 – All feelings through the same channel: the conversation begins 01:53 – Introducing Dr. Laura Berman 04:10 – From 3D relationship work to quantum and metaphysical 07:37 – Her mother's death, breast cancer, and the reawakening 09:13 – Quantum entanglement and real-time energetic matching 12:51 – Home frequency: what it is and how to return 19:13 – Reality expands and collapses based on state of consciousness 24:25 – Why we resist grief 29:06 – The science of emotional capacity and the single channel 31:07 – Sammy's death and what came next 33:23 – The voice: "Do you want to live or die?" 35:29 – Into the Redwoods: discovering there is a bottom 39:28 – Raising her frequency to meet her son in the middle 43:16 – Writing the book and building the retreat model 48:37 – The fear of opening a bottomless pit 51:15 – There is a bottom. Three minutes. You will not lose yourself. 54:45 – Why we apologize for crying and what Crying Out Loud reclaims 01:01:40 – One person holding higher frequency counteracts 70,000 01:04:30 – Where to find Laura and how to get the book About Dr. Laura Berman Dr. Laura Berman is a PhD scientist, sex and relationship therapist, researcher, and author of 10 books. Her newest, Crying Out Loud: A Path Through Grief into Life Reimagined, is available for pre-order now and releases October 20. She runs the Grief Healing Collective and grief retreats for parents, and her free resources are available at healwithlaurea.com. Social Media: @drlauraberman and @griefhealingcollective for grief healing related content Pre-Order Dr. Laura’s book: Crying Out Loud If this conversation moved you, the work of feeling it to heal it, of alchemizing emotion into fuel rather than suppressing it into static, is what's opening this summer at Ziva. Get on the list to be first to know. 👉 zivameditation.com/pages/magicmaker-priority 🔗 MORE FROM EMILY & ZIVA: Learn Ziva Meditation: preview.zivameditation.com Free masterclass: learn.zivameditation.com Get 15% off with promo code WHYTHIS: whythis.zivameditation.com Follow us on Instagram: @zivameditation

What if the reason you can't access magic consistently has nothing to do with strategy, discipline, or desire - and everything to do with the frequency your body is broadcasting? In this special episode of Why Isn't Everyone Doing This?, Emily Fletcher kicks off a three-part series designed to help you get ready for Magic Maker, happening this July. This first episode tackles one of the most quietly frustrating experiences on the spiritual path: not whether magic is real, but why you can't seem to stay there. Emily explores why so many people who already believe in manifestation are still hitting invisible ceilings, and why the answer has less to do with your mindset and more to do with whether your head, heart, and body are sending a coherent signal to the quantum field. She grounds this in research from the HeartMath Institute, Einstein's foundational principle on consciousness, and her own five years of developing this body of work. This episode is for the people who have already tasted magic, and want to know how to live there - on demand. In this episode, Emily explores: What "magic" actually means, and why it has nothing to do with wishful thinking or pulling things out of thin air Why manifestation is not something you do, but a reflection of who you believe yourself to be How most people are accidentally sending mixed signals to the quantum field, even when their desires are crystal clear Einstein's principle: no problem can be solved at the same state of consciousness that created it The difference between paranoia and pronoia, and why we keep slipping back into protection mode Research from the HeartMath Institute on heart-brain coherence and the electromagnetic field of your heart Why you cannot tell your nervous system to calm down, and what to actually do instead How unprocessed emotion and inherited trauma create energetic static that blocks what you're calling in Key Moments: 00:00 — Welcome and what this bonus series is about 01:25 — What "magic" actually means 02:10 — How mixed signals to the quantum field work 03:20 — Manifestation as a report card on your state of consciousness 03:44 — Einstein and the problem of solving from the same frequency 05:15 — Who this series is for 06:32 — Heaven as a vibration, not a destination 10:39 — Why smart people get stuck in the same manifesting traps 12:45 — HeartMath Institute research on coherence 14:10 — The cosmic server analogy 15:32 — What Magic Maker will cover 17:28 — Preview of next week's bonus episode Something is building at Ziva. For those who are ready to bring this frequency into their body and their life. Get on the list first. 👉 zivameditation.com/pages/magicmaker-priority 🔗 MORE FROM EMILY & ZIVA: Learn Ziva Meditation: preview.zivameditation.com Free masterclass: learn.zivameditation.com Get 15% off with promo code WHYTHIS: whythis.zivameditation.com Follow us on Instagram: @zivameditation Support your mitochondrial health and get 20% off Mitopure at timeline.com/ziva.

What if growth isn’t about pushing harder, but about letting go more skillfully? In this episode of Why Isn’t Everyone Doing This?, Emily sits down with coach and author Suzy Ashworth for a grounded, activating conversation about identity shifts, pivots, and what it actually takes to receive more in life and business. Together, they explore why true transformation doesn’t come from strategy alone, but from who you’re willing to become in your body, your nervous system, and your sense of self. Suzy shares how the most powerful pivots in her life and work didn’t come from forcing outcomes, but from releasing attachment to timelines, outcomes, and the need to prove. They unpack the difference between desire and striving, why pleasure and joy create magnetism, and how detachment becomes a superpower when it comes to manifestation and receiving. This conversation reframes success as an internal orientation first, and an external result second. This episode is for anyone standing at the edge of a change, sensing that the next level requires less effort and more trust, and learning how to open themselves to receive what’s already available. KEY MOMENTS: 00:00:00 — Identity as the starting point of transformation 00:03:15 — Setting the energetic field: invocation, coherence, intention 00:07:00 — Why the pivot matters more than the plan 00:11:20 — Joy and pleasure as stabilizers for growth 00:18:10 — Choosing who you become when life forces a reckoning 00:24:30 — Resilience, failure, and expanding emotional capacity 00:27:00 — Detachment as a manifestation superpower 00:31:00 — Faith plus action: alignment without exhaustion 00:34:00 — Identity before income and external results 00:46:00 — Integration: when the work becomes how you live About Suzy Ashworth Suzy Ashworth is a coach, speaker, and bestselling author of Infinite Receiving. She is the founder of the Quantum Leap Your Life & Business certification and works with leaders and entrepreneurs who are ready to shift identity, expand capacity, and build success that is both profitable and sustainable. Suzy’s work focuses on embodiment, nervous system alignment, and redefining success as something that is lived, not chased. Learn more about Suzy and explore her work:https://suzyashworth.com Follow Suzy on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/suzy_ashworth For Those Ready to Hold More The themes in this episode, alignment, capacity, faith plus action, and leadership without burnout, are exactly what Level 3 is designed to support. It’s where the work stops being something you do in moments of stress and becomes the way you lead, decide, and steward what you’re responsible for. By working at the level of the nervous system, state of consciousness, and capacity to hold more, Level 3 supports the kind of embodied leadership Suzy speaks to in this episode, abundance that lasts without exhaustion. 👉 Learn more and apply for Level 3 here:https://zivameditation.com/pages/nextlevel MORE FROM EMILY & ZIVA: • Join Ziva Magic: zivameditation.com/pages/zivamagic • Learn Ziva Meditation: preview.zivameditation.com • Free masterclass: learn.zivameditation.com • Get 15% off with promo code WHYTHIS: whythis.zivameditation.com • Follow us on Instagram: @zivameditation • Visit upgradedformulas.com/emily and use code EMILY for 20% off everything at UpgradedFormulas.com These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA. Products are not intended to, diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. Consult your healthcare provider if pregnant/nursing, on medication, or have a medical condition.

What does it actually mean to work with the divine feminine as a lived force? In this episode of Why Isn’t Everyone Doing This?, Emily sits down with Alana Fairchild, spiritual teacher and oracle creator, for a grounded, illuminating conversation about Isis, feminine power, truth, and rebirth. Together, they explore the divine feminine as a source of creative intelligence, spiritual authority, and radical honesty. Not something symbolic or abstract, but something that requires courage, embodiment, and responsibility. Alana shares how archetypes like Isis and Kuan Yin carry distinct medicines for our time, and why real transformation asks us to love what is being revealed rather than bypass it. The conversation moves through sacred sexuality, shadow, initiation, and the difference between power that dominates and power that restores. Midway through the episode, Emily and Alana open a shared prayer and oracle transmission, inviting listeners into a direct experience of reflection and remembrance. This episode offers a deeper understanding of how feminine wisdom works, both personally and collectively, and how to stay rooted in love as truth surfaces. If you are navigating change, revelation, or a sense that something ancient is returning, this conversation will help you meet it with clarity and steadiness. Key Moments: 00:00:00 — Opening devotion & how Alana’s work became a living teacher 00:07:12 — The origin of Alana’s oracle work & feminine transmission 00:15:42 — Isis as power, rebirth, and uncompromising truth 00:24:30 — Sacred sexuality, wholeness, and feminine authority 00:33:10 — Shadow, initiation, and remembering who you are 00:45:10 — Live prayer & oracle transmission for listeners 00:54:12 — Truth being revealed — personally and collectively 01:05:40 — Loving what’s unveiled instead of bypassing it 01:17:10 — Closing reflections on devotion, resilience, and rebirth About Alana Fairchild Alana Fairchild is an internationally acclaimed spiritual teacher, writer, and creator of over 20 oracle decks, including the Isis Oracle, Kuan Yin Oracle, and Sacred Rebels Oracle. Her work bridges mysticism, psychology, and embodied spirituality, offering pathways of healing, empowerment, and remembrance rooted in the divine feminine. Discover Alana’s oracle decks and teachings:https://www.alanafairchild.com Follow her work on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/alanafairchild Where This Work Continues The themes in this episode: embodiment, devotion, feminine power, and living initiation, are central to Ziva Level 3, an advanced container for integration and embodied leadership that includes initiatory experiences and pilgrimage work in Greece. 👉 Apply for Level 3 & the Greece Mastermind & Pilgrimage:https://zivameditation.com/pages/nextlevel MORE FROM EMILY & ZIVA: •Join Ziva Magic: http://zivameditation.com/pages/zivamagic •Learn Ziva Meditation: http://preview.zivameditation.com •Free masterclass: http://learn.zivameditation.com •Get 15% off with promo code WHYTHIS: http://whythis.zivameditation.com •Follow us on Instagram: @zivameditation •Visit http://upgradedformulas.com/emily and use code EMILY for 20% off everything at UpgradedFormulas.com These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA. Products are not intended to, diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. Consult your healthcare provider if pregnant/nursing, on medication, or have a medical condition.

What if the missing ingredient in healing isn’t effort, insight, or intensity — but safety? In this episode of Why Isn’t Everyone Doing This?, Emily sits down with psychiatrist, neuroscientist, and stress researcher Dr. Dave Rabin for a deep, grounding conversation about trauma, healing, psychedelics, and the nervous system. Dr. Dave explains why the body must feel safe before real transformation can occur, how vulnerability is not a weakness but a biological gateway to healing, and why many modern approaches to growth fail because they bypass the nervous system entirely. Together, they explore the science behind touch, oxytocin, the vagus nerve, and the body’s innate pharmacy — and why regulation, not catharsis, is what allows change to last. This conversation bridges cutting-edge neuroscience with ancient wisdom, reframing healing as a process of listening, softening, and restoring trust in the body. If you’ve been doing the work — meditating, journaling, therapy, breathwork — but still feel tense, guarded, or dysregulated, this episode offers a radically compassionate reframe. In This Episode, We Explore: •Why safety is the foundation of all healing •How the nervous system responds to touch and presence •What “psychedelic” really means (beyond substances) •Why vulnerability is biologically necessary for change •The role of oxytocin, the vagus nerve, and regulation •Ancient medicine meeting modern neuroscience •Learning to trust the body over external metrics Key Moments: 00:00:00 — Why vulnerability is the gateway to healing 00:04:18 — Redefining “psychedelic” through neuroscience 00:09:42 — Why safety must come before transformation 00:15:36 — Touch as the fastest language of the nervous system 00:22:14 — Oxytocin, trust, and the biology of calm 00:29:08 — Why willpower doesn’t heal trauma 00:36:41 — Eastern wisdom finally validated by Western science 00:43:27 — Self-touch, co-regulation, and restoring agency 00:50:12 — Listening to the body vs. outsourcing intuition to devices 00:57:19 — Building safety as a daily practice 01:04:03 — What real integration actually looks like 01:11:22 — Healing as remembering how to feel safe again About Dr. Dave Rabin Dr. Dave Rabin is a board-certified psychiatrist, neuroscientist, and co-founder of Apollo Neuroscience. He has spent over 15 years researching chronic stress, trauma, and non-invasive healing modalities, including MDMA-assisted therapy, touch-based regulation, and nervous system resilience. Website: www.drdave.io Instagram: @drdaverabin Where This Work Continues Level 3 is where regulation becomes lived practice — a mastermind with advanced training, integration, and initiatory work, including a sacred pilgrimage through Greece. Explore Level 3 here: 👉 https://zivameditation.com/pages/nextlevelMore from Emily & Ziva: •Join Ziva Magic: https://zivameditation.com/pages/zivamagic •Learn Ziva Meditation: https://preview.zivameditation.com •Free masterclass: https://learn.zivameditation.com •Get 15% off with promo code WHYTHIS: ⁠https://whythis.zivameditation.com •Follow us on Instagram: @zivameditation •Visit ⁠https://upgradedformulas.com/emily and use code EMILY for 20% off everything at UpgradedFormulas.com These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA. Products are not intended to, diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. Consult your healthcare provider if pregnant/nursing, on medication, or have a medical condition.