Better in Bed | A Sex & Sexuality Podcast with Sarasense

Why do we feel jealous? Jealousy is often a complex, catch-all word that encompasses the emotions of fear, anxiety, disappointment, or anger. Some people romanticize this feeling in relationships. Others use jealousy as a justification for controlling and destructive behaviour. On this episode, Sara sits down with Emily, Dedeker, and Jase, the hosts of the Multiamory Podcast (https://www.multiamory.com/), to unpack the topic of jealousy. We start off by defining what jealousy is, and sharing candid personal experiences to show it's a familiar, normal feeling. Instead of trying to avoid or repress jealousy at all costs, Emily, Dedeker and Jase provide a healthy perspective and evidence-based tools on how to deal with jealousy, based on their own relationship research. Ultimately, feeling some jealousy could be a sign that there's something you need to work on in a relationship with a partner or on yourself. And it's crucial to do some self-reflection to identify the root cause of the emotion. This episode is filled with practical advice about navigating difficult emotions in relationships. Tune in now to understand what your jealous feelings are telling you, and how you can manage them the next time you experience it. --- Unlock the secrets to female orgasm http://sarasense.com/ohhh. Use code BETTERINBED30 for 30% off the masterclass Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram Check out Multiamory's book for relationship tools http://multiamory.com/book Support this show http://patreon.com/betterinbed or https://www.buymeacoffee.com/sarasense

Many of you are busy people with multiple responsibilities and who lead stressful lives. So how do you navigate a good work life, sex life balance? On this episode, Sara talks with Lisa Fei and celebrity matchmaker Carmelia Ray about how to juggle a busy work life and maintain a fulfilling sex life. Respectively, Lisa and Carmelia are the Founder and Head Coach of the relationship wellness app, Clarity (http://clarityapp.io) which offers tools for navigating every stage of your relationship journey. Carmelia starts off by defining what an ideal work life, sex life balance could look like and how this is always shifting over time, and with different situations e.g. kids, stress, hormones etc. We then discuss practical things to do where we're so busy with work that sex feels like a chore or falls to the bottom of our to-do list. One of the key takeaways from this episode is that it's always possible to make time for sex in our busy schedules, it's just a matter of priorities. Research shows that a good sex life can be beneficial to your career, by reducing stress, boosting productivity and job engagement. So if you're someone who's frequently too busy at work, this episode will show you how to bring balance into your sex life with healthy conversations, good planning and a shift in mindset. ​​- Support this show on Patreon http://patreon.com/betterinbed - Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com - Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram - Check out the Clarity app: http://clarityapp.io - Detailed show notes for this episode at http://sarasense.com/podcast

Curious about attending a sex party, also known as a play party? Think about entering a party with a giant bed, and everyone's exploring their kinks and fetishes. It's a smorgasbord of pleasure… On this episode, Sara speaks with a sex-positive couple, James and Kat, who enjoy organizing sex parties. They share their experiences on the ins and outs of planning such a party. James and Kat share the motivations of people in joining a sex party and the kinds of people one might meet at such an event. James and Kat also confess the best and worst play parties they have ever attended. We give practical tips about the sex party experience— from how to find one, prepare for, and behave at the party. We discuss basic party etiquette such as safety, consent, and so much more. If you've ever fantasised about sex parties, this episode will give you the low-down on what you can expect from attending, or even planning one of your own. --- - Support this show on Patreon http://patreon.com/betterinbed - Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com - Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram - Check out our sponsors that help keep this show free: OhMiBod (http://lovelifetoys.com) - Detailed show notes for this episode at http://sarasense.com/podcast

It's been called the "Holy Grail" of the woman's pleasure anatomy. But does the G-spot even exist? It's been a highly debated question. And one that Sara discusses with co-host Kat Leung and guest Vera Lui on this episode. Vera is the founder of Sally Coco (http://sallystoy.com), the first female-friendly sex toy shop in Hong Kong, and a certified sex educator who is happy to share the latest research on the G-spot (or more accurately, G-area), and debunk its biggest myths. Finding and stimulating one's G-spot takes time and practice. We explore the many methods to go about it— whether solo with fingers, with toys, or with the assistance of an encouraging partner. We talk about a big fantasy for some — squirting. We answer all your questions: Why does squirting tend to occur with G-spot stimulation? What makes up the liquid? How does porn influence our ideas on squirting? And so much more. We also share practical tips and personal stories that make finding your G-spot achievable. Ultimately, we reach the conclusion: everybody is different. But it's always worth exploring what feels good, especially when it could lead to an intensely satisfying orgasm. So if you're someone who wants to explore the G-spot, whether on your own or with someone else, this episode will give you the confidence to unlock its possibilities. --- - Support this show on Patreon http://patreon.com/betterinbed - Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com - Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram - Check out our sponsors that help keep this show free: Womanizer https://www.womanizer.com - Detailed show notes for this episode at http://sarasense.com/podcast

Have you heard of the "male G-spot"? It's another name for the prostate and it's a major erogenous zone. But it's an area that has been largely unexplored by most people. On this episode, Sara and Prescott Gaylord (http://prescottgaylord.com), an improv actor and intimacy co-ordinator, go on a journey to explore everything in prostate play. First, we discuss what is a prostate, where you can find it, and the benefits of stimulating it for pleasure. Prescott shares his personal experiences of prostate orgasms, which feel longer lasting and more full-bodied than traditional ejaculatory orgasms. We alleviate the most common fears and concerns around prostate play, discussing general hygiene and safety practices, and warm-up techniques. And we discuss one of the most commonly heard myths - whether prostate play makes you gay. Prescott and Sara exchange practical tips around toys, lube, and what to have around your space before exploring prostate play. We also role-play how to find the prostate, with the consent and communication cues necessary for anyone who is interested in trying this kind of play for the first time. Tune into this episode to learn more about using the prostate to heighten sexual pleasure and explore the possibilities of the male orgasm. It may change your bedroom dynamics forever. Support this show on Patreon http://patreon.com/betterinbed Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram Check out our sponsors that help keep this show free: Promescent (http://promescent.com) Detailed show notes for this episode at https://www.sarasense.com/podcast-posts/50-exploring-prostate-play

What helps you build sexual confidence? Sex is a vulnerable act, and fear and self-doubt can often arise in situations where things don't go according to our expectations. On this thoughtful FAQ episode, Sara and relationship coach, Valentina Tudose from Happy Ever After (https://happyeverafter.asia/) answer your most pressing questions around building sexual confidence. Topics on this episode include: How do I feel sexy in my body after a double mastectomy for breast cancer? How can I stop being anxious about my small penis size? I've noticed a pattern in my relationships that sex with my partner usually stops after 1-2 months of dating. How can I overcome feeling undesirable? I suffer from vaginismus and have low sexual confidence. How can I stop worrying that my partner isn't getting the intimacy he craves? How can I be more confident around initiating sex? Throughout the episode, we offer countless tips on how to make the shift from performative sex to pleasurable sex. Anyone can be sexually confident, but it does take practice, care and patience. At its core, sexual confidence is about feeling comfortable in your body, knowing you deserve pleasure and being able to articulate what you enjoy. Learning to accept and be grateful for our bodies as "good bodies" can make a huge impact on our perception of any sexual situation, and help to boost our sexual confidence. Identifying our desires (and fears) and then discussing them openly with our partners can also help to prevent our negative self-talk from taking over in the moment. Sex is as much of a mental activity, as a physical activity. So start building your sexual confidence by tuning into this episode! Support this show on Patreon http://patreon.com/betterinbed Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram Check out our sponsor sexual health company Promescent (http://promescent.com) Detailed show notes at http://sarasense.com/podcast

Curious to try an open relationship, but don't know quite where or how to start? On this episode, Sara chats with relationship coach Valentina Tudose (http://happyeverafter.asia) to answer your most common questions about open relationships, such as: What basic ground rules should I set if I'm just starting out with open relationships How can I handle my intense attraction to a new lover since I started to open my relationship with my spouse? I want to have an open relationship, but how do I manage my jealousy? How do I bring up an open relationship to a partner that has been previously unreceptive? Some ground rules that Valentina and I discuss for an open relationship include: prioritizing your partner, having regular check-ins, communicating your needs with compassion, and a strong commitment to radical honesty. We also share tips around managing jealousy and how when used constructively, jealousy can be a useful tool to help us address issues and get what we need. We also offer reminders and tips for couples who are in the process of opening up their relationship to think about it as if they're embarking on a joint adventure or an exciting journey together. If you're interested in open relationships, we suggest bringing up the conversation regarding your values and beliefs around non-traditional relationship models early in the dating process to avoid a future mismatch and heartbreak. This episode is a must-listen if you and/or your partner are curious about non-monogamy or trying to work up the courage to open your relationship. --- Support this show on Patreon http://patreon.com/betterinbed Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram Support our sponsor Beducated. Get 65% off their annual subscription with code BETTERINBED at http://beducate.me/betterinbed Detailed show notes for this episode here.

How does self-love help us have a better sex life? On this uplifting episode, Sara sits down with co-host and relationship coach Valentina Tudose of Happy Ever After to discuss the principles of self-love and how they apply to the bedroom. We start off with a definition of how self-love is about accepting and integrating all parts of ourselves, even the parts that we might ordinarily hide, reject or be ashamed of. When we love ourselves enough, we stop performing in the bedroom, we have more pleasure, and we give ourselves permission to fully express our sexuality. If you're someone that's looking to empower yourself with self-love in the bedroom and beyond, this episode will give you practical tips to change unhelpful narratives around sex, deal with your inner critic, fully express your sexuality and more! --- Want more tips for healthier, happier sex life? Join my community. Visit Sarasense website Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram Your support for our sponsors helps keep this show FREE: Get 10% off the Mira Fertility system with promo code BETTERINBED at http://miracare.com Support our sponsor Beducated and get a monthly subscription for just $9.99 per month or 65% off their annual subscription with code BETTERINBED at http://beducate.me/betterinbed Detailed show notes for this episode here. P.S. If you've gotten value from this podcast, I'd really appreciate it if you subscribed, left a review or bought me a coffee. :)

How are you incorporating erotic touch into your sex life? On this sensual episode, Sara chats with sex educator and founder of Confident Lovers, Christina Antonyan and co-host Kat Leung about the art of erotic touch. Touch is fundamentally important to all of us, as a love language and form of communication. It is also one of the key skills to the art of lovemaking. We discuss the different types of touch that lovers typically use to communicate, from sensual, affectionate to sexual. We also share simple, practical tips around how to enjoy erotic touch, from slowing down, using a blindfold and applying mindfulness. Finally, Christina offers some specific erotic touch techniques for approaching the different body parts such as the breasts, vulva and bum that will help take your sensual exploration to the next level. --- Want more tips for a healthier, happier sex life? Join my community. Visit Sarasense website: http://sarasense.com Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram Your support for our sponsors helps keep this show FREE: Get 20% off at @manscaped and free shipping with promo code BETTERINBED at Manscaped.com Detailed show notes for this episode here. P.S. If you've gotten value from this podcast, I'd really appreciate it if you subscribed, left a review or bought me a coffee. :)

How can you be more sexually assertive and dominant in the bedroom? Sara co-hosts this episode with kink coach Jannus, and we chat with guest Mistress Eva Oh, a professional dominatrix about her journey into BDSM. We discuss the psychology behind being assertive and dominant in a BDSM context and the dynamics that come with it. We learn where sexual power comes from, and what we can do to step into that power or give it away. Whether or not you're into BDSM, sexual assertiveness is something that we can all practice by simply knowing what we want and being confident enough to ask for it in the bedroom. We all then share some practical tips and ideas around bringing more kink into the bedroom - from training subs, doling out rewards and punishments, initiating sex and more! This episode is a must-listen if you're interested becoming more sexually assertive and if you want to incorporate more BDSM into your sex life. --- Want more tips for a healthier, happier sex life? Join my community. Visit Sarasense website http://sarasense.com Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram Your support for our sponsors helps keep this show FREE: Get 20% off at @manscaped and free shipping with promo code BETTERINBED at Manscaped.com Detailed show notes for this episode here. P.S. If you've gotten value from this podcast, I'd really appreciate it if you subscribed, left a review, or bought me a coffee. :)

How do you perceive sex work and sex workers? And why does the stigma around sex work exist? Sara and co-host Prescott interview Vanessa Ho of Project X, a non-profit group dedicated to advocating for sex workers' rights in Singapore. Vanessa helps to clarify some of the biggest misconceptions around sex work, and shares with us how the nature of sex work has changed over the years. We discuss the draconian laws in many Asian countries surrounding sex work and the risks and dangers many sex workers face because they are afraid to come forward due to the stigma and shame associated with the profession. By learning more about the why's, what's and who's of sex work, this thoughtful episode helps us examine where our own biases and prejudice regarding sex work come from, and challenges us to regard the profession with more compassion. --- Want more tips for a healthier, happier sex life? Join the community. Visit Sarasense website: http://sarasense.com Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram Visit Project X website: https://theprojectx.org and follow @projectx.sg Detailed show notes for this episode here. PS. If you've gotten value from this podcast, I'd really appreciate it if you subscribed and left a review. :)

Calling all penis owners and penis lovers! Want to know how to make sex last longer, and avoid finishing too soon? On this episode, Sara chats with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, who shares some great pointers on one of the most common penis challenges - early or premature ejaculation (PE). We start off by discussing the various ways to manage the anxiety, shame and fear around PE and its impact on penis performance. Some of the strategies include talking openly with our partners, and focusing in on their pleasure instead of just being fixated on the duration of sex as a metric of performance. After all, longer sex doesn't always equate to better sex! Jeff also offers some practical tips on how to introduce toys and other sex-enhancing products in a confident, constructive manner. Particularly, Promescent's trademark delay spray for penis owners and arousal gel for vulva owners can be used together can help to close the heterosexual orgasm gap. This episode will help all penis owners (and their partners) increase intimacy, stay present in the moment and connect on a deeper level. --- Want more Better in Bed? Get my free audio guide now Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram Detailed show notes for this episode here. P.S. If you've gotten value from this podcast, please support my work as a creator by leaving a review or buying me a coffee. :)

Why do we love having sexual fantasies, and what are their benefits? On this episode, Sara chats with guests Mo and Andy, who are stand-up comedians that host the local Ho Ho Hong Kong podcast so be prepared for some big laughs. We discuss how sexual fantasies stimulate arousal, are an escape from reality (like the pandemic), alleviate boredom and can even help us heal from past traumas. We each share a few of our own personal stories around our favourite sexual fantasies and whether the reality lived up to our expectations. You might never look a camel the same way again! We discuss how comfortable we are sharing and exploring our fantasies with our partners, and the role of boundaries in that conversation. Sara presents some fascinating research around the top 3 most common sexual fantasies and how our fantasies may align with our personalities. She also reads out several crowdsourced sexual fantasies that showcase the diversity and creativity of the human imagination. Mo and Andy respond with hilarious results. --- Want more Better in Bed? Get my free audio guide now Follow @hellosarasense on Instagram Support our sponsor and keep this show FREE: Download Pure Detailed show notes for this episode here. P.S. If you've gotten value from this podcast, please support my work as a creator by leaving a review or buying me a coffee. :)