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Have a question you’ve always been too embarrassed to ask? Send it to me: sexwithemily.com/ask What if the secret to getting turned on has nothing to do with what happens in the bedroom? Sometimes the best foreplay starts hours earlier, with the right kind of adventure, connection, or touch that works with your brain chemistry instead of against it. Let’s talk about the trust, titillate, and touch framework for bonding activities that actually prime your nervous system for desire — plus I’m answering your questions on sexual incompatibility, rebuilding your sex drive after having a baby, reigniting a stalled marriage, and reclaiming your sexuality after a relationship that made you feel unseen. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about 69… because whether you love it, hate it, or have been too intimidated to try it, chances are nobody ever actually taught you how to do it well. In this episode I'm breaking down everything you need to know about giving and receiving oral sex simultaneously, including the modifications that turned me from a 69 skeptic into someone who actually gets it. I'm also answering your oral sex questions, from what to do when size makes a blowjob feel impossible to the listener who discovered the most unexpected erogenous zone of her life mid-session. If you've ever written off 69 or felt like you were doing oral sex wrong, this one is going to change some things for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠ Shop With Emily: ⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠ Instagram:⁠ https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X:⁠ https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook:⁠ https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok:⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠ Threads:⁠ https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website:⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides:⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Text With Me:⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular:⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to⁠ http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply! 34+35 tastes better with the right lube. Trust me on this one 😉 Playground Lube: https://shop.sexwithemily.com/search?options%5Bprefix%5D=last&q=playground Flavored Lube: https://shop.sexwithemily.com/search?options%5Bprefix%5D=last&q=jo+lube Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 01:37 Why People Love and Hate 69 03:30 What Research Says About Giving Oral Sex and Happiness 05:00 How to Be a Better Giver in the 69 Position 07:30 Your Hands Are Your Best Friend in 69 09:00 How to Actually Receive Pleasure While Giving 11:00 Mindful Masturbation as a Tool for Better Receiving 13:00 The Sideways 69 and the Power 69 15:30 How to Stop Getting in Your Own Head During Oral 18:00 Question 1: I Discovered My Ear Is an Erogenous Zone Mid Session 21:00 The Science Behind Extra Genital Erogenous Zones 23:00 Question 2: How Do I Give Oral to a Much Larger Penis 25:00 Hands Lube and Permission to Mix It Up 27:00 The Only Rule That Actually Matters in Oral Sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sexual communication isn’t a sign that something is wrong—it’s how sex gets better. When your partner says “slow down,” “stay right there,” or asks for something different, they aren’t rejecting you. They’re giving you the roadmap to what feels good for them right now. In this episode, I’m talking about how to create the safety to give and receive direction during sex without anyone getting defensive, embarrassed, or shutting down. We’ll explore why learning basic anatomy is only the beginning, how bodies and desires change over time, and why staying curious is the real secret to being a great lover. If you want more connected, responsive, and satisfying sex, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Best Sex Ever Tour: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠⁠  Shop With Emily: ⁠⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠⁠  Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠⁠  X: ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠  Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠  TikTok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠⁠  Threads: ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠⁠  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠⁠  Text With Me: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠⁠  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠⁠  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Try the Dame Pom to explore sensation and actually get out of your head during sex: https://shop.sexwithemily.com/swe08 Chapters: 0:00 - What Nobody Taught You About Vaginas1:24 - The Vagina Is Not the Whole Thing — Here's Your Anatomy Refresher3:00 - The Sex Ed We Got Was Basically Useless (And What Was Missing)4:00 - Step 1: Learn the Map — What You're Actually Working With5:30 - Why We've Been Treating Penetration Like the Main Event (And Why That's a Problem)7:00 - What Actually Happens in Your Body When You Become Aroused8:30 - Look at Your Vulva — Yes, With a Mirror. Here's Why It Matters10:30 - We Know Our Skincare Routine Better Than Our Own Pleasure Anatomy12:00 - Step 2: Stop Assuming — There Are No Universal Settings13:30 - The "Starting Gun" Problem: Why Timing Is Everything15:00 - Closing the Tabs: How to Actually Get Fully Present During Sex16:30 - When Your Body Is Telling You Something Needs Attention — Don't Ignore It17:30 - Step 3: Keep Talking — Stop Saving the Conversation for When It Goes Wrong18:30 - The GPS Analogy for Sexual Communication19:45 - What Great Lovers Actually Have in Common Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Great sex isn’t about finding one perfect moment and trying to recreate it forever. It’s about getting curious about what made that moment feel so good in the first place. In this episode, I’m sharing how to talk with your partner about your best sexual memories without turning it into a complaint meeting. We’re exploring the questions that uncover what really turns each of you on: Was it the flirting all day? Feeling unrushed? The freedom, the anticipation, the way you looked at each other? Those details are the roadmap to creating more desire and connection now. If your sex life feels fine but you want it to feel more alive, connected, and uniquely yours, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.` CONNECT WITH EMILY: Best Sex Ever Tour: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠⁠  Shop With Emily: ⁠⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠⁠  Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠⁠  X: ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠  Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠  TikTok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠⁠  Threads: ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠⁠  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠⁠  Text With Me: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠⁠  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠⁠  Try the toy I talk about in the video here: ⁠⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com/swe07⁠ Chapters:00:00 Cold Open / Welcome to Sex with Emily01:24 Is This It? The Problem With "Fine" Sex02:33 Step 1: Notice What's Actually Happening06:20 Step 2: Name What You Actually Want09:47 Using Toys as Shared Discovery10:48 Step 3: Share It (Timing Matters)11:50 The Postpartum Story: Same Moment, Different Experience14:04 Turn the Complaint Into a Request16:19 Step 4: Experiment Without the Overhaul19:53 The Reset Recap & This Week's Exercise21:47 Closing Thought: Someone Worth Discovering Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about five things that are quietly killing your sex life that have absolutely nothing to do with attraction, technique, or how much you love your partner… because after 20 years of helping people improve their sex lives, I can tell you we are way too quick to assume low desire means something is wrong with us. Sometimes the conditions around your sex life just suck. In this episode I'm giving you five very unsexy tips that can make your sex life a whole lot better, and I promise at least one of them is going to make you go, oh that's exactly us. Fair warning: number three is the one everyone rolls their eyes at. And it's the one that actually works. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.` CONNECT WITH EMILY: Best Sex Ever Tour: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠  Shop With Emily: ⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠  X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠  Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠  TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠  Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠  Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠  This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ ============================= Chapters:00:00 Cold Open / Welcome to Sex with Emily01:24 Maybe Your Sex Life Doesn't Need Fixing01:48 The Five Unsexy Things Overview02:29 Tip 1: Stop Making Sex the Last Thing on the List05:38 Tip 2: Lube Is Not a Report Card07:54 Tip 3: Put Possibility on the Calendar (Schedule Sex)10:46 Tip 4: Your Sex Life Doesn't Live Outside Your Body12:38 Where to Keep Your Lube (Plus a Product Note)13:21 Tip 5: You Can't Go From Project Manager to Sex Goddess in 30 Seconds16:21 Recap: Pick One Unsexy Thing to Start17:29 Outro & Where to Find More Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about where the line actually is when it comes to cheating… because most couples never have this conversation until it's too late. In this episode I'm sitting down with licensed holistic psychologist and trauma expert Scott Lyons to unpack what cheating really means in the digital age, from liking thirst traps and DMing an ex at 2am to full on affairs and everything in between. I'm also sharing something I've never talked about publicly: I'm a reformed cheater, and I'm getting honest about what was really going on underneath that. Whether you've been cheated on, done the cheating, or just want to get ahead of it before it becomes a problem in your relationship, this episode gives you the real talk, the research, and the tools to define your boundaries, rebuild trust, and have the conversation most couples are too scared to start. #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #Cheating #Infidelity #Relationships ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!    ============================= Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 2:51 - Why Couples Who Never Define Cheating Are Setting Themselves Up 5:17 - Physical, Emotional, Digital: The Different Ways People Cross the Line 9:05 - What Open Relationships Get Right That Monogamous Couples Almost Never Do 10:37 - Roleplaying the Conversation Every Couple Should Actually Have 13:20 - Is Fantasizing About Someone Else Cheating? The Neuroscience Answer 15:36 - When Your Partner Is Having Sex With You While Thinking About Your Friend 17:48 - What to Do When a Full Affair Has Actually Happened 26:00 - The Role of Jealousy — And How to Use It as Information Instead of Destruction 31:00 - Tech, Location Sharing and the Digital Behaviors That Blur the Line 37:40 - The Steps to Actually Repairing After Betrayal 39:55 - Why Sharing Passwords and Location Does Not Rebuild Trust 41:45 - Emily and Scott Get Personal: Their Own Experiences Being Cheated On 43:10 - The Dopamine Loop That Keeps You Stuck After Infidelity 44:38 - What Rebuilding Actually Looks Like — and What It Doesn't Why People Cheat Even In Happy Relationships | Sex With Emily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Throwback to another one of my favorite conversations! Have you ever wondered where the line actually is between loyalty and betrayal? In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Scott Lyons to unpack the messy, subjective world of infidelity in 2025. We get into the questions couples almost never ask each other… is porn cheating, is a flirty DM cheating, is fantasizing about someone else cheating… and why avoiding these conversations is often what leads to bigger ruptures down the line. I also get vulnerable about my own history as a self-described "reformed cheater," and Scott and I both open up about being on the receiving end of infidelity ourselves. We break down the real stats on who cheats and why, talk through micro-cheating and emotional affairs in the age of social media, and walk through what genuine repair looks like when trust has been broken. If you want a real, no-shame framework for defining your own relationship boundaries, this one's for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily CONNECT WITH DR. SCOTT LYONS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drscottlyons/  Website: https://www.drscottlyons.com/ WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily 4:55 What is Cheating? 9:10 Why Every Couple Needs to Define Boundaries 12:45 How to Talk About Monogamy 14:31 Are Fantasies a Form of Cheating? 17:22 Listeners Story: When Fantasies Hurt a Relationship 19:42 Infidelity Stats 22:27 Dr. Emily Opens Up About Her Past Infidelity 25:38 Recovering After Being Cheated On 29:03 Monogamy, Open Relationships & Honest Conversations 36:26 Is Micro-Cheating Actually Cheating? 39:48 Can a Relationship Survive Infidelity Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices