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Are You in a "Healthy Relationship"… or Just Really Good at Ignoring Red Flags? 🚩 Why do we keep falling into the same relationship patterns, even when we know better? Why do some people chase connection while others seem to run from it? And how do you build a relationship that actually lasts without losing yourself in the process? In this candid and eye-opening episode, we sit down with Breann Starr, somatic relational and intimacy mentor and founder of Embodied Liberation.love, to unpack the psychology, nervous system patterns, and relationship habits that shape the way we love. From healthy communication and emotional intimacy to codependency, attachment styles, and relationship repair, we're diving into the topics that show up in nearly every partnership—but rarely get talked about openly. We explore what truly makes a healthy relationship, the biggest signs of an unbalanced relationship, and the relationship tools that help couples stay connected long after the honeymoon phase ends. Breann also shares the most common relationship challenges she sees in her clients and why many of our struggles can be traced back to patterns we learned years ago. We also tackle one of the internet's favorite buzzwords: codependency. What is it, really? How do you know if you're people-pleasing your way through relationships? And how can you create deeper intimacy without sacrificing your own needs, boundaries, or identity? Plus, we break down attachment styles—including anxious attachment and avoidant attachment—and discuss practical ways to work with them. If you're someone who spirals when a text goes unanswered or shuts down when conversations get emotionally charged, this part is for you. Drawing from her background as a registered nurse and extensive training in trauma-informed somatic modalities, Breann explains why lasting relationship change isn't just about understanding your patterns—it's about learning how to work with them through the body, nervous system, and emotional awareness. Whether you're dating, healing from heartbreak, navigating a long-term relationship, or trying to understand why your ex still somehow comes up in therapy, this episode is packed with actionable insights, relationship advice, and a few loving reality checks along the way. ✨ What a healthy relationship actually looks like ✨ The biggest signs of an unhealthy relationship ✨ Essential relationship skills for long-term success ✨ Common relationship problems and how to navigate them ✨ How past relationships affect current partners ✨ Codependency signs, causes, and healing strategies ✨ Anxious attachment vs. avoidant attachment explained ✨ How to improve communication and repair conflict ✨ Nervous system regulation for healthier relationships ✨ Building deeper intimacy, connection, and self-trust Breann Starr is a somatic relational and intimacy mentor and founder of Embodied Liberation, a body-based approach to transforming how we experience love, sex, intimacy, relationships, and personal growth. She helps people break free from repetitive relational patterns, reconnect with themselves, and create more authentic, fulfilling relationships. Learn more at https://www.embodiedliberation.love If you've ever wondered whether you're securely attached, accidentally codependent, emotionally unavailable, or just a human trying your best to navigate modern relationships, this episode is for you. Come to one of our October 2026 Couples Retreats! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on IG ⁠⁠⁠@shamelesssexpodcast ⁠⁠⁠ Other links: Get 10% off getting soaking wet with code SHAMELESS at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://soakingwet.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off April's favorite vibrator - the Magic Wand Waterproof (and other sexy items) with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

What if we told you that healing from trauma is possible, and it starts with having shameless conversations about sex and vulnerability? Join us on this week's episode of Shameless Sex, where we dive into the world of trauma, sex, and healing with the incredible Jimanekia Eborn, aka The Trauma Queen. With 16 years of experience in mental health, Jimanekia is a Sexual Assault & Trauma Expert, Trauma Media Consultant, and Comprehensive Sex Educator who's on a mission to normalize conversations about life's most challenging experiences. Here's what you can expect to learn from this episode: • The importance of understanding trauma and its impact on our lives, relationships, and sex lives • How trauma can show up differently in various cultural, socio-economic, and personal contexts • Easy-to-apply tools and techniques to help you understand, uncover, and work with your trauma (yes, it's possible!) • About Jimanekia's amazing work with her nonprofit, Tending The Garden, and her Intimacy Coordinator training program, Cintima By tuning in to this episode, you'll gain a deeper understanding of the complex relationships between trauma, sex, and healing. You'll also learn how to take the first steps towards healing and recovery, and how to find support and resources to help you along the way. Jimanekia's story is a testament to the power of resilience, vulnerability, and shameless conversations. As she shares her journey, you'll be inspired to start your own path towards healing and self-discovery. So, what are you waiting for? Dive into this powerful conversation and discover how you can start healing from trauma and living a more shameless, sex-positive life. Tune in to this episode to find out how Jimanekia went from being a mental health professional to becoming The Trauma Queen, and how you can start your own journey towards healing and recovery. To learn more: https://www.cintima.co/ http://traumaqueen.love http://Tendingthegarden.love https://lenoraclaire.com IG: @cintima @jimanekia @tendingthegarden.4.sas Come to our October 2026th retreats - one for women and one for couples! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠⁠ Join us on the Killing Kittens cruise in the Mediterranean in June 2026: ⁠⁠h⁠ttps://kkcruise.com⁠⁠ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Other links: Get 10% off getting soaking wet with code SHAMELESS at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://soakingwet.com⁠ Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 10% off while learning the art of pleasure at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://OMGyes.com/shameless⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Ever Been Shamed for Your Toy Preferences? Let's Get Real About Sex Toys and the Stories We Tell About Them Join us on this episode of Shameless Sex as we get up close and personal with the fabulous Samia Mounts, podcaster extraordinaire and all-around sex-positive superstar. As the host of ClosetEd, Samia is no stranger to diving into the juicy details of human desire, and she's here to share her expertise and enthusiasm with us. Tune in next week as we dive in even deeper and juicier for part 2. Here's what you'll get out of this episode: * The unvarnished truth about how our hosts (and Samia) got into the field of sexuality - and what drove them to become advocates for sex positivity * The shame-free lowdown on sex toys: why we've been made to feel guilty for using them, and why that's total BS * A tour of our hosts' current favorite toys - from clit stimulators to bondage gear - and why they love them * Hilarious and relatable "worst toy fails" stories that'll have you laughing and nodding in solidarity * Epic erotic toy stories that'll leave you feeling inspired and maybe even a little turned on * The benefits of sharing and listening to real human's sexy stories - and how it can bring us closer together By tuning in, you'll get to: * Join the conversation and ditch the shame around sex toys * Discover new ways to explore your desires and pleasure * Connect with a community that's all about embracing our true selves Samia's background as an actor, singer, writer, and podcaster brings a unique perspective to the conversation, and her podcast, ClosetEd, has become a go-to destination for anyone looking to explore the complexities of human desire. With her quick wit and infectious enthusiasm, she's the perfect guest to guide us through this conversation. Stay tuned till the end as we wrap up with our hosts sharing their offerings, upcoming events, and how to find them online. And don't miss the tantalizing teaser at the end of this episode... let's just say we're not done getting real about sex just yet! Learn more about Samia here: http://linktr.ee/samia.mounts Join us for our online Pre-Valentine's Day workshop on Thursday, February 12th - all about full body pleasure: https://tinyurl.com/2s4uvs6v Come to our October 2026th retreats - one for women and one for couples! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠ Join us on the Killing Kittens cruise in the Mediterranean in June 2026: ⁠h⁠ttps://kkcruise.com⁠ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Other links: Get 10% off boosting your load with code SHAMELESS at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://loadboost.com⁠ Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 10% off while learning the art of pleasure at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://OMGyes.com/shameless⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

What is really happening in K–12 sex education across the United States right now? In this episode, we unpack the good, the bad, and the truly troubling — and imagine what sex ed could look like if it were inclusive, medically accurate, intersectional, and pleasure-positive. We’re joined by Gina Lepore (she/her), an ASSECT-Certified Sexuality Educator with over 30 years of experience spanning healthcare, research, curriculum development, and education. Gina holds a master’s degree in Sexuality Education from Widener University and has taught comprehensive sex ed to middle and high school students, trained future sexuality educators and medical students, conducted research, and even spent time educating about (and selling!) pleasure products at her favorite adult store, Pure Pleasure Shop — because real-world learning matters. Together, we explore why sex education often feels inaccessible or incomplete, and what’s needed to bridge the gap between academic research and online, community-based sexuality education. Gina shares insights from her work as an adjunct lecturer at Cabrillo College and California State University, Chico, reflecting on what she’s learned from teaching hundreds of students — their questions, their gaps, and their hunger for honest, affirming information. We also dive into current research in the field, including buzz around an Emerging Adults Pleasure Survey, and discuss why pleasure belongs in conversations about sexual health. Gina breaks down what sexual empowerment and sexual agency truly mean, how pleasure education can play a role in reducing sexual violence and trauma, and why embodied, holistic approaches to sexuality are essential. In addition to her work in sex education, Gina is a Certified Personal Trainer and Health Coach, integrating fitness and embodied wellbeing into her practice through Focus Integrated Fitness and Joyride Sexual Empowerment Coaching. She brings a grounded, compassionate, and deeply human lens to sexuality — shaped not only by her professional work, but also by her lived experience as a proud mama of two young men. ✨ Stick around to the end to learn how to connect with Gina, explore her work, and dive deeper into pleasure-positive, empowering sexuality education. To learn more go to: IG: joyride_empowerment IG: EAPS_2023 For direct access to the survey: https://tinyurl.com/yc36n7pc Come to our October 2026th retreats - one for women and one for couples! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠ Join us on the Killing Kittens cruise in the Mediterranean in June 2026: h⁠ttps://kkcruise.com⁠ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 10% off while learning the art of pleasure at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://OMGyes.com/shameless⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode, we’re joined by Ashley Randall, also known as Irreverent Femme—a Los Angeles–based Sex, Intimacy, and Kink Coach, Dominatrix, and erotic parfum-ist. Ashley shares how her journey into sexuality work emerged from a desire to help people shed shame, reconnect with their bodies, and access deeper intimacy and pleasure. Ashley primarily works with cisgender, predominantly straight men, many of whom are successful yet disconnected—from their emotions, their desire, and their partners. She explains why working with a confident, sexually embodied woman can be both confronting and profoundly healing, offering men a space to drop performance and explore authenticity. The most common issue Ashley sees is disconnection, often showing up as performance anxiety, erectile challenges, or difficulty leading and communicating sexually. Beneath it all is a longing for confidence, presence, and deeper connection. In early sessions, Ashley focuses on nervous system regulation, consent, and embodiment, gradually guiding clients toward more grounded desire, emotional intimacy, and conscious power. We also explore Ashley’s work as a Dominatrix and how dominance—whether kinky or not—is about presence, responsibility, and attunement rather than control. She shares practical insights for men who want to be more dominant, emphasizing self-regulation, listening, and clarity. Plus, we dive into Ashley’s erotic perfumes, which she uses as a powerful sensory and somatic tool in sessions to anchor desire, memory, and arousal. Ashley leaves listeners with one golden reminder: your desire is not a problem—it’s information. Learn more or work with Ashley at www.irreverentcoaching.com Follow her on Instagram: @IrreverentLoveCoaching Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Other links: Get Erika Lust's beautiful , connected, ethical, and SUPER HOT porn at ⁠⁠⁠http://erikalust.com⁠⁠⁠, and use code SHAMELESS to get 45% off! Get 15% off taking care of YOU in the New Year + any annual membership at ⁠http://masterclass.com/shameless⁠ Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 10% off while learning the art of pleasure at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://OMGyes.com/shameless⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠