Doing Life with Ken and Tabatha

Send us Fan Mail A lot of men were never taught how to be a husband. You can be loyal, hardworking, and faithful, yet still leave your wife feeling alone in the same house. We get honest about the gap between providing and loving, and we talk about why isolation is one of the fastest ways a man loses his confidence, his clarity, and his ability to lead well. Ken and Tabitha Claytor unpack biblical marriage through a practical lens: headship is not dictatorship, it is responsibility. We expla...

Send us Fan Mail We challenge the quiet norm of “sucky sex” in marriage and lay out why God designs sex for intimacy, connection, and real enjoyment without shame. We share our own healing journey from trauma, body insecurity, and bad beliefs to a healthier sex life built on safety, communication, and mutual pleasure.\n\n• why many married couples settle for frustration and distance\n• God’s design for sex: procreation, intimacy and enjoyment\n• renewing the mind after sexual abuse, shame and...

Send us Fan Mail People don’t wake up one morning and decide they don’t love their spouse. What we see far more often is something quieter and more dangerous: a hurt that never gets resolved, a story we keep replaying, and a wall that goes up brick by brick until the house feels cold. We’re naming that enemy directly, unresolved offense, and we’re telling the truth about what it does to marriage, intimacy, friendship, and even your relationship with God. We talk through how offense starts wi...

Send us Fan Mail What if the line between “okay” and “too far” isn’t a line worth walking? We open up about our 24-year sober journey and the moment a mentor reframed the question from “Is it allowed?” to “Is it wise for a king?” From there, the conversation turns honest and practical—how alcohol blurred judgment, complicated leadership, and stole the very peace it promised. We dig into Scripture’s balanced view, the call to be sober-minded, and why “living beyond the gray” can protect marria...

Send us Fan Mail Money pressure has a way of sneaking into a marriage and turning simple conversations into fights. We open up about our early years—over $100k in debt, sleepless nights, and two very different backgrounds—and share the seven habits that helped us replace anxiety with unity. This is a practical, faith-filled roadmap: one shared plan, a zero-based budget, the 10-10-80 priority rule, and margin that lets you breathe. We talk through sinking funds for “predictable surprises,” why...

Send us Fan Mail Dating does not have to be confusing, exhausting, or expensive. We’re pulling back the curtain on five practical rules that protect your heart, save your time, and set you up for a marriage that can actually thrive. From defining non‑negotiables to reading red flags without second‑guessing yourself, we walk through the mindsets and habits that turn your twenties into a launchpad instead of a landfill. We start by reframing the goal: Christlikeness over a wedding date. Conten...

Send us Fan Mail Settling for “okay” feels safe, but it quietly shrinks your marriage. We dig into why cruise control robs connection and how a few intentional shifts can turn your relationship into a lifelong adventure. From writing a simple family mission to scheduling a 20-second hug, we share the small, repeatable habits that build warmth, trust, and momentum across every season. We get real about seasons and capacity: how wisdom can multiply what time no longer does, why pivoting your p...

Send us Fan Mail Resolutions powered by adrenaline rarely survive February. We’re after something deeper: a year that actually changes because your spirit leads, your mind renews, and your habits align with what God already says about you. Together we unpack why identity comes before intensity, how to let the old you die without shame, and the simple daily choices that turn conviction into consistency. We start with the core conviction: this will be your best year ever if it’s your best year...

Send us Fan Mail Ready to stop making resolutions that fizzle and start setting goals that actually change your life? Ken and Tabatha dig into the difference between hype and habits, laying out a practical, faith-forward way to plan your year with clarity, courage, and consistency. We talk about why most resolutions collapse—no strategy, no steady will, too much emotion—and how to replace them with God-aligned goals backed by action steps, Scripture, and a plan you hold loosely while trusting...

Send us Fan Mail What if the gap between tension and tenderness is smaller than you think? We revisit a candid conversation about the real work of marriage—how to share the load at home, protect each other’s energy, and bring intimacy back from the brink without losing yourself in the process. No gloss, no clichés, just two people telling the truth about weight, pace, and the everyday choices that keep love steady. We start by naming the unseen emotional labor many women carry and the unique...

Send us Fan Mail Dating with wisdom starts by turning your list into a mirror. We talk candidly about why so many singles overvalue appearance and chemistry, then feel blindsided after the wedding when character gaps show up at full volume. Attraction matters, but it won’t hold a marriage together. What does? Shared faith, proven integrity, and the humble skills that make peace during conflict. We break down five practical filters for choosing well: spiritual alignment rooted in a real walk ...

Send us Fan Mail What if hearing God was less about chasing a moment and more about walking in a steady conversation? We unpack five reliable ways to discern God’s voice—Scripture, the Spirit’s inner witness, wise community, peace that umpires your choices, and the clarity of open-and-closed doors—so you can move with confidence and courage. We share personal stories of guidance in marriage, ministry, and business, including dreams that redirected calling, impressions that protected timing, ...