Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

Psychologist, speaker, and author Dr. Mona Delahooke talks about her new book Brain-Body Parenting, and the power in understanding and responding to children's complicated behavior as a symptom rather than a problem. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Lori Desautels (author, Connections over Compliance: Rewiring our Perceptions of Discipline) helps educators, parents, and adults who work with children shift the way they think about discipline by reaching for sustainable behavioral changes through brain state awareness rather than compliance and obedience. She’s actively pushing back against reactive and punitive practices that can potentially reactivate the developing stress response systems of children, and is advocating for stronger co-regulation practices and regulated brain and body states for adults.  During this conversation, we consider why there is such a powerful foundational belief that discipline and punishment go together, what happens when the traditional methods of punishment are imposed on children who are coming to school with trauma or a heightened nervous system, and why it’s so important for educators to take responsibility over their own nervous system regulation.  Dr. Lori Desautels, has been an Assistant Professor at Butler University since 2016 where she teaches both undergraduate and graduate programs in the College of Education. Lori’s passion is engaging her students through the social and relational neurosciences as it applies to education by integrating the Applied Educational Neuroscience framework, and its learning principles and practices into her coursework at Butler.  Things you'll learn from this episode: Why there is such a powerful foundational belief that discipline and punishment go together What happens when the traditional methods of punishment are imposed on children who are coming to school with traumas or a heightened nervous system Why we should be moving away from the behavior management model Why it’s so important for educators to take responsibility over their own nervous system regulation Strategies for helping teachers (and parents) better show up for dysregulated kids Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

New York Times' bestselling author Katherine May (Wintering) talks about her new book, The Electricity of Every Living Thing, about her journey of discovering her identity as an autistic woman. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Performance poet and advocate LeDerick Horne talks about his journey with a hidden disability, his advocacy work, and how he found his love for poetry. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest this week is Steve Silberman, an award-winning science writer who authored the 2015 book NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity, a brilliant book that upends conventional thinking about autism and suggests a broader model for acceptance, understanding, and full participation in society for people who think differently. Steve’s articles have appeared in Wired, the New York Times, the New Yorker, the Financial Times, the Boston Globe, the MIT Technology Review, and more. In our conversation, Steve and I talk about neurodivergence, autism, acceptance, tolerance, changing cultures, systemic change, and so much more. As a science writer who researched the history of autism in writing his book for more than five years, Steve brings an incredible breadth of knowledge, as well as passion for the neurodiversity movement, to the show. By the end of this interview I was inspired and motivated for the changes to come, and grateful there are thought leaders like Steve doing this important work in the world. I hope you enjoy our conversation!   Things you’ll learn from this episode The impetus for Steve’s book NeuroTribes How and why the anti-vaccine movement has negatively affected the autistic community The real impact of language like “epidemic” in relation to neurodifferences like autism How Steve’s book NeuroTribes has been received by members of the autistic community Steve’s thoughts on how parents raising neurodiverse kids can best support the neurodiversity movement The importance of autistic peer mentoring   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m excited to share this powerful and gut-punching conversation with Jonathan Mooney, a self-described “do-gooder,” speaker, and writer who didn’t learn to read until he was 12-years-old. Growing up with Dyslexia, Jonathan faced a number of low expectations: he was told he would be a high-school dropout and likely end up in jail. Instead, he earned a degree in English Literature, started his first non-profit organization in his college dorm, and has gone on to write a number of books, including his latest title Normal Sucks (which, side note: should be required reading for everyone). He’s been a champion for neurological and physical diversity for more than two decades, and his award-winning advocacy projects have been featured in major media outlets across the US.  THINGS YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE: The powerful messages, both positive and negative, Jonathan heard from the adults in his life as a child with dyslexia What it means to pathologize difference, and how even well-meaning organizations participate in this The difficult and disturbing historical outcomes for differently-abled people, including the ideas and legacy of the Eugenics movement.  How the idea of “normal” has evolved since Jonathan started his advocacy work Why Jonathan believes that learning differences are a gift and why this is such an important concept What parents and teachers can do to help children to see their differences as strengths Protect your loved ones without spying on them. Go to https://heypolo.com/tilt or use code TILT and get 70% off your first year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if the reason you or your child can’t “just do the thing” is not laziness, but a Wall of Awful built from repeated frustration, shame, anxiety, and failure? Brendan Mahan breaks down the hidden emotional barrier behind procrastination, avoidance, and shutdown - and shows how to actually get through it without burning out. Debbie Reber welcomes Brendan back to unpack his new book, Overcoming the Wall of Awful: Why It’s Hard to Get Things Done with ADHD, Autism and Anxiety, and How to Do Them Anyway. Together they make this deceptively simple metaphor concrete, useful, and surprisingly validating for parents, educators, clinicians, and anyone who has ever stared at a task and felt their brain go sideways. About Brendan Mahan  Brendan Mahan, M.Ed., MS., is the author of Overcoming the Wall of Awful™, and host of the ADHD Essentials Podcast. A sought-after speaker, and neurodivergent person himself, Brendan helps organizations and individuals manage neurodiverse challenges through education, collaborative problem-solving, compassion, and accountability.  He is on the board of the Men’s ADHD Support Group, Director of Professional Resources for Calmer Con Boston, and a former committee member of the International Conference on ADHD. He has featured in the New York Times, Washington Post, LinkedIn, Understood, How to ADHD, VeryWell Mind, and ADDitude. Things you'll learn from this episode  How the Wall of Awful creates an emotional barrier that can make starting or completing tasks feel impossible Why anxiety and adrenaline can sometimes help us climb the Wall of Awful while also taking a toll How creating “doors” in the Wall can provide quicker paths to regulation and getting unstuck Why making tasks interesting, meaningful, or connected to personal values can reduce avoidance How rejection sensitive dysphoria can add another layer to the Wall of Awful and how parents can support kids through it Why having shared language and practical tools for talking about Walls of Awful can help kids better understand and navigate their experience Resources mentioned Brendan Mahan’s website Overcoming the Wall of Awful: Why It’s Hard to Get Things Done with ADHD, Autism, and Anxiety (and How to Do Them Anyway) by Brendan Mahan The Wall of Awful Brendan’s ADHD Essentials Community on Facebook ADHD Essentials on Instagram Brendan Mahan on LinkedIn ADHD Essentials on Blue Sky ADHD Essentials on X Jessica McCabe How to ADHD YouTube channel Wall of Awful on How to ADHD (YouTube videos) The Anti-Planner: How to Get Sh*t Done When You Don't Feel Like It - Undated ADHD Planner Alternative for Adults, Women & Teens, 100+ Productivity Strategies for Focus & Procrastination by Dani Donovan Dani Donovan’s website Dr. William Dodson  Protect your loved ones without spying on them. Go to https://heypolo.com/tilt or use code TILT and get 70% off your first year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

​Today we’re talking about the complex and often misunderstood sleep challenges that show up in neurodivergent kids with Dr. Melisa Moore, a clinical psychologist who is board-certified in behavioral sleep medicine and has spent years supporting children, teens, and young adults with sleep and mood concerns. We’ll talk about some of the concepts in Melisa’s new book, The Good Sleep Guide for Neurodivergent Kids, including why sleep issues are so common in neurodivergent children, the role of underlying conditions like obstructive sleep apnea, how to recognize when something more than “typical” sleep struggles might be going on, and what kinds of support can actually make a difference. Melisa also shares practical strategies for improving sleep routines and helping kids—and their families—get the rest they need. About Melisa Moore, PhD  Melisa Moore, PhD, is a clinical psychologist board-certified in behavioral sleep medicine. Dr. Moore currently practices in the Los Angeles area and virtually across the country, supporting children, teens, and young adults for a variety of sleep and mood issues. She also works for the Sleep Center at Rady Children’s Health, San Diego. Dr. Moore continues to supervise medical and psychology trainees and teaches courses on pediatric sleep around the world. She previously worked at the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia (CHOP) for 17 years, serving as the Psychosocial Director of the Sleep Center and as faculty of the University of Pennsylvania. Inspired by her work with families in combination with her experience as a mom, Dr. Moore’s book The Good Sleep Guide for Neurodivergent Kids is a compassionate, comprehensive, science-backed guide to improving sleep in neurodiverse children and teens, released by New World Library on March 4, 2026. Things you'll learn from this episode  How biology, genetics, and circadian rhythms shape sleep patterns in neurodivergent children Why sleep challenges are so common in kids with ADHD and autism, and what’s driving them How to recognize signs of obstructive sleep apnea and other underlying sleep disorders Why co-occurring conditions like allergies or hypermobility can further disrupt sleep How consistent routines and supportive sleep associations can improve bedtime success When to seek professional support and what options are available for addressing complex sleep issues Resources mentioned Dr. Melisa Moore’s website The Good Sleep Guide for Neurodivergent Kids: Science-Backed Strategies for Children and Teens with ADHD, Autism, and Other Neurodiversities by Melisa Moore, PhD Alex Mortlock Explains Circadian Rhythm Syndromes & Complex Sleep Challenges (Tilt Parenting podcast) Dr. Mel Houser on Navigating the Healthcare System as a Neurodivergent Person (Tilt Parenting podcast) Dr. Zachary Rubin on What Every Parent Should Understand About Allergies (Tilt Parenting podcast) Dr. Roberto Olivardia on ADHD and Sleep Challenges (Tilt Parenting podcast) American Academy of Sleep Medicine (AASM) Pediatric Sleep Council National Sleep Foundation (NSF)   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today I’m talking with James Guttman, author of Hi World, I’m Dad: How Fathers Can Journey to Autism Awareness, Acceptance, and Appreciation. James is the father of a nonspeaking autistic son and a neurotypical daughter, and through his writing and podcast he shares an honest, deeply personal perspective on fatherhood, autism, and the journey toward acceptance. One of the reasons I wanted to have James on the show is because we so rarely hear fathers' voices in conversations about raising neurodivergent kids. Like all of us, James's understanding has evolved over time, and I appreciated the opportunity to talk with him about that evolution, what he's learned from his children, and why acceptance has become such a central part of his story. In our conversation, we talk about fatherhood, acceptance, community, and the unexpected ways our neurodivergent kids can change us for the better. About James Guttman  James Guttman is the author of Hi World, I’m Dad: How Fathers Can Journey to Autism Awareness, Acceptance, and Appreciation. As a father to a nonverbal son and a neurotypical daughter, he shares a message rooted in autism appreciation and the belief that our kids’ differences hold their own beauty. His writing reached national attention when his HuffPost Personal essay drew more than 750,000 readers in a single day and became one of the most-clicked stories on Apple News. Through his long-running blog, Hi Blog! I’m Dad, James tells honest, heartfelt stories about parenting, connection, and the shared humanity between his children. James is also the author of the Amazon-bestselling Expectant Father’s Activity Book, and his work has been featured by Love What Matters, The Mighty, the Organization for Autism Research, Yahoo Lifestyle, and more. A survivor of a quintuple bypass at 35 and host of the Hi Pod! I’m Dad podcast, James brings humor, vulnerability, and perspective to conversations about parenting, mental health, and raising kids in a world that doesn’t always understand them. Things you'll learn from this episode  How James’s journey raising neurodivergent children reshaped his understanding of parenting, autism, and himself How surviving a heart attack transformed James’s perspective on fatherhood, presence, and what truly matters Why fathers need more inclusive spaces, community, and support as they navigate parenting neurodivergent kids How authenticity, vulnerability, and redefining masculinity can strengthen relationships with children and challenge outdated assumptions How James’s evolving relationship with his children, and his son’s example, helped him become a more authentic version of himself Resources mentioned  James Guttman’s blog, Hi Blog, I’m Dad Hi World, I’m Dad: How Fathers Can Journey to Autism Awareness, Acceptance, and Appreciation by James Guttman James Guttman on Facebook James on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today we’re talking about a parenting experience that comes with its own unique set of challenges and complexities: raising neurodivergent kids as a single parent. My guest is Dr. Gila, a clinical psychologist, neuropsychologist, certified parenting coach, and single mom who is passionate about helping grownups support beautifully complex kids with compassion, connection, and brain-based tools that actually work. Drawing from both her professional expertise and lived experience, Dr. Gila has a gift for translating complex ideas into practical strategies parents can put into action right away. In our conversation, we explore the unique realities of solo parenting neurodivergent children, including the emotional load, decision fatigue, and constant balancing act that so many single parents face. Dr. Gila shares practical approaches for managing overwhelm, staying connected to your values, and creating more sustainability in daily life. This is a validating and encouraging conversation for any parent carrying a lot—and especially for those doing it on their own.   About Dr. Gila Dr. Gila is a single mom, certified parenting coach, clinical psychologist, and neuropsychologist. She’s passionate about helping grownups support beautifully complex kids with compassion, connection, and brain-based tools that actually work. Dr. Gila combines her professional background with her lived experience in a relatable, down-to-earth style. Her background as an educator and medical writer makes her especially skilled at translating complex concepts into practical tools you can understand…and actually use. Things you'll learn from this episode  Why grief, worry about the future, and emotional exhaustion are common realities for many single parents How the “sink model” helps explain the mental, emotional, and cognitive load that can lead to overwhelm How strategies like “stop, drop, and roll” and compassionate reframing can support parents through moments of dysregulation Why community, support systems, and self-care practices such as audio journaling are essential for sustainability How values-based parenting, creative connection, and letting go of perfection help families thrive through small, meaningful moments Resources mentioned  Dr. Gila’s website Dr. Gila’s Resources for Tilt listeners Single Parenting with Connection podcast Dr. Gila on Instagram Dr. Gila’s Single Parenting with Connection, Not Perfection Facebook group How to Practice Conscious Co-Parenting, with Jenna Flowers (Tilt Parenting podcast) Sandi Lerman   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today we’re exploring a more holistic, humane approach to supporting neurodivergent learners — one that starts with understanding the nervous system and builds from there. My guest is Dr. Emily King, a child psychologist who has spent more than 20 years working with neurodivergent youth in both school settings and private practice. She’s the creator of The Neurodiverse Classroom®, a professional development curriculum for educators, and the author of her new book The Neurodivergent Learner, which we’ll be talking about today. In our conversation, Emily and I talk about why safety and regulation are foundational for learning, how relationships at school can shape outcomes in powerful ways, and what it means to redefine success for kids who don’t fit traditional models. We also explore practical ways parents can partner with schools to better support their children, and how shifting our lens can open up new possibilities for growth, connection, and well-being. About Dr. Emily King  Dr. Emily King is a child psychologist who has worked with neurodivergent learners for over 20 years. She received a Ph.D. in School Psychology from the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill and began her career in Houston, Texas, specializing in school-based mental health in K-12 public schools. She has since worked in private practice in North Carolina supporting the mental health, executive functioning, and social needs of neurodivergent youth. Dr. Emily hosts the Learn with Dr. Emily Substack, where she provides parent workshops, is the creator of The Neurodiverse Classroom®, a professional development curriculum for educators, and her first book, The Neurodivergent Learner, was released in August 2026. Things you'll learn from this episode  How mental health, education, and neurodivergence are deeply interconnected in shaping a child’s experience Why building felt safety and a true sense of community at school is foundational for learning How navigating IEPs, homework, and behavior systems benefits from a flexible, relationship-centered approach Why prioritizing social satisfaction over social achievement supports authentic connection and well-being How parents can assess and choose school environments that truly fit their neurodivergent child Why leading with relationships and adaptability strengthens both parenting and advocacy Resources mentioned  Dr. Emily King’s website Learn with Dr. Emily (Emily’s Substack) Learn with Dr. Emily Podcast Dr. Emily on Instagram Dr. Emily on Facebook Free downloads on Emily’s website Redefining Success for Neurodivergent Children, with Dr. Emily (Tilt Parenting Podcast) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, I’m joined by Bryden Carlson-Giving, an occupational therapy practitioner and the creator of the EMPOWER model, the first neurodiversity-affirming OT framework. Bryden is both neurodivergent and disabled himself, and his work focuses on helping practitioners challenge ableism and create more supportive, affirming environments for neurodivergent individuals. In our conversation, Bryden walks us through the EMPOWER model and what it looks like in practice, especially when it comes to evaluations, goal-setting, and therapy approaches. We talk about how ableism can show up in subtle and systemic ways, and what it means to truly shift toward inclusive, affirming care. This is a thoughtful, important conversation about reimagining support — not just in therapy, but across education and systems more broadly. About Bryden Carlson-Giving  Bryden Carlson-Giving, OTD, OTR/L is a neurodivergent and disabled occupational therapy practitioner (OTP) with experience in pediatric outpatient, inpatient, and school-based settings. Bryden earned his post-professional doctorate from Boston University, where his research focused on creating a toolkit to support OTPs in challenging ableism within the OT profession. This work led to the development of the first neurodiversity-affirming occupational therapy model, the EMPOWER model. He received the 2024 Emerging Leader Award from Boston University, and is the editor of the first neurodiversity-focused occupational therapy book, titled Neurodiversity-Affirming Occupational Therapy: Empowering Approaches to Foster Neurodivergent Participation. Things you'll learn from this episode  How Bryden’s journey into occupational therapy led to creating a neurodiversity-affirming toolkit Why the Empower model centers strengths-based practice, anti-racism, disability justice, and trauma-informed care How inclusive evaluations can look in practice, especially within school-based systems Why implementing neurodiversity-affirming approaches in bureaucratic settings comes with both challenges and opportunities How ongoing self-reflection and unpacking internalized ableism are essential for practitioners How parents, educators, and therapists can take practical steps to amplify neurodiversity-affirming work Resources mentioned Neuridivergent Nexus (Bryden’s website) Neurodiversity-Affirming Occupational Therapy: Empowering Approaches to Foster Neurodivergent Participation edited by Dr. Bryden Carlson-Giving Bryon Carlson-Giving on Instagram Activist Emily Ladau on Demystifying Disability (Tilt Parenting podcast) Kassiane Asasumasu (coined the term neurodivergence) Dr. Destiny Huff on Neurodiversity-Affirming Advocacy in School (Tilt Parenting podcast) Dr. Jade Rivera and Strength-Based Assessments (Tilt Parenting podcast) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today we’re diving into dysgraphia—what it is, how it’s different from general handwriting struggles, and why so many kids go unsupported for far too long. My guest is Kelli Fetter, a certified handwriting specialist and occupational therapist, and the founder of Handwriting Solutions. Kelli breaks down the neurological underpinnings of dysgraphia, how it can show up differently from child to child, and why early recognition is so important. We talk about the role of assessment, how to distinguish dysgraphia from more general handwriting difficulties, and what meaningful support can look like at home and in school. This is a practical, eye-opening conversation for anyone trying to better understand—and advocate for—a child struggling with writing. About Kelli Fetter  Kelli Fetter, MS, OTR/L is a Certified Handwriting Specialist and the founder of Handwriting Solutions, LLC, where she and her team provide world-class handwriting, reading, and spelling tutoring to students virtually across the globe. Beyond her direct work with families, Kelli is a recognized leader in teacher and therapist education, equipping professionals with evidence-based strategies that transform student outcomes. With a career rooted in occupational therapy, Kelli has practiced in pediatric outpatient clinics, early intervention programs, preschools, and private schools, and has also served as an adjunct professor in pediatrics and kinesiology. Her expertise spans handwriting, dysgraphia, and dyslexia, supported by extensive advanced training in these areas.Kelli’s passion is deeply personal, fueled by her own daughter’s journey with dyslexia and dysgraphia. This lived experience drives her mission to empower parents, educators, and therapists with the tools and confidence they need to unlock every child’s potential. Things you'll learn from this episode  How dysgraphia differs from messy handwriting and why it’s rooted in complex neurological processes Why handwriting is such a demanding task for the brain, involving multiple systems working together How to recognize common signs like avoidance, frustration, and inconsistent output Why dysgraphia is often overlooked in schools and the importance of comprehensive assessment and advocacy How to balance skill-building with technology accommodations to support functional success Why focusing on confidence and real-world skills matters more than striving for perfect handwriting Resources mentioned Handwriting Solutions (Kelli’s website) Handwriting Solutions Blog Red Flags of Handwriting Struggles (freebie) Schedule a free consultation Email Kelli Kelli on Instagram Kelli on Facebook What is Dyscalculia? Parent Advocate Laura Jackson Talks About her Family’s Journey with a Math Disability (Tilt Parenting episode) Rebecca Bush Offers a Pathway for Parents with Newly-Identified Dyslexic Kids (Tilt Parenting episode) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices