Why Some People Move On So Fast After a Breakup

About this episode

The episode explores why some people move on quickly after a breakup and the emotional patterns involved.

Some people move on quickly after a breakup. Others barely survive the silence. In this episode I break down the pattern known as monkey-barring , when someone jumps from one relationship straight into another without ever sitting in the space between. And why it can feel so personal when it happens to you. Through a story from my own 7-year relationship, I explore the pattern of people who are always “in love,” the panic that can show up after a breakup, and what it really means when someo...

People in this episode

Host: Monica Cotolan

Topics covered

• breakup
• relationships
• emotional healing
• monkey-barring
• self-reflection

Keywords

• breakup
• moving on
• relationships
• monkey-barring
• emotional patterns
• self-improvement

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