Life Uncut

Hey Lifers! Ben is back for a bonus round because you sent in way too many questions for just one episode! They kick things off with the reality of living together full time: Ben's answer is "we're doing fine," Britt's answer involves the phrase "truffle pig". Ben shares what it actually takes to make it as a professional footballer and whether he ever tries to get under opponents' skin.  Ben opens up about life pre-Britt, how he knew she was the one, and the biggest fight of their marriage. They also get into the question everyone keeps sliding into the DMs: babies. Britt and Ben speak openly about their fertility journey and what it looks like from here.  0:00 — Welcome & living together full time 7:15 — How to make it as a pro footballer 18:10 — Getting to know Ben: languages, Aussie slang, life pre-Britt and how he knew she was the one 27:18 — The biggest fight of their marriage 38:28 — Babies, fertility and the IVF journey See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions! Vibes of the week:Link to the sensor lightsKeeshia 🧲 Adhesive Magnetic Tablet Wall Mount Holder (Two Pack) Laura 👕 Tahnee Kelland T-Shirts Then it's into your questions! Q1: MY BEST FRIEND'S HUSBAND GOT A HAIR TRANSPLANT AND IS ASKING HER TO LIE ABOUT IT My best friend's husband has gone from barely-there hair to a full comeback and he's been telling everyone it's down to diet and stress reduction. She knows the truth. Their friends know the truth. And now she's been put in the impossible position of actively upholding a lie she never agreed to, while everyone around her silently raises an eyebrow. Q2: MY ABUSIVE EX IS NOW WITH ONE OF THE GIRLS HE CHEATED ON ME WITH. DO I WARN HER? I was in an incredibly volatile relationship for three years; emotional abuse, multiple women, dating apps running the whole time. Four months out, I'm working on myself. Now I'm watching him post his new girlfriend all over Instagram. It’s one of the girls he was seeing behind my back. I want to warn her. But am I out of line? Q3: WHO IS RESPONSIBLE WHEN THE HEN GETS BLOTTO AT HER HENS PARTY? The hen got blotto, passed out, the night ended early and now the blame is flying. Is it the guests? The bridesmaids? The maid of honour? Or the hen herself? Q4: I CAUGHT MY FRIEND REHEARSING HER STORIES IN THE MIRROR BEFORE A DINNER PARTY I walked back into the room and my close friend was standing in front of the mirror, running through full sentences and hand gestures for a story she was planning to tell at dinner later that night. I reversed out quietly. She then told the exact same story, exactly as rehearsed. Is this genius? Is this deeply weird? Is this something everyone secretly does? TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Britt's in Sardinia, Laura's off to India 1:19 — Vibes  6:06 — Q1: My best friend's husband got a hair transplant and expects her to lie about it 19:00 — Q2: My abusive ex is now with one of the girls he cheated with — do I warn her? 35:06 — Q3: Who's responsible when the hen gets blotto at her own hens party? 42:33 — Q4: I caught my friend rehearsing her stories in the mirror before a dinner party 50:27 — Wrap up, what's dropping over the break & the Aftermath episode teaser     Keep your questions coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deepest, darkest and most burning questions! We kick things off with Britt's very public apology to an unnamed language app she accused of scamming her last week. Spoiler: she wasn't scammed. She just used the wrong email. She's back on track to becoming fluent in Italian. Vibes of the week:Britt - Olivia's House podcastKeeshia - Mac Locked Kiss Ink 24 Hour Lip Colour Laura - The Crash on Netflix   Then it's into your questions! IS IT A BAD IDEA TO SLEEP WITH MY EX'S MATE? My ex and I were together for 9 years. The last couple of years were pretty rough. I officially left in September 2025 but didn’t move out straight away. We briefly got back together over December/January for about 5 weeks, but I knew it wasn’t right. I moved out properly in February. We have 2 kids together, and I have them 100% of the time.Anyway, I jumped on Tinder the other night because, honestly, a girl has needs. I came across one of his friends. They used to be really close, but over the last couple of years they barely talk anymore.I always thought he was attractive but obviously never acted on it. We ended up matching and started talking, and we agreed it would just be a one night thing. Neither of us would ever tell my ex, and I genuinely don’t think he would either; he’s not the drama type. So… is this a terrible idea? I’ll probably do it anyway because I trust him, already know him, and find him attractive. Also, I haven’t been with anyone else in almost 10 years, so I’m feeling every emotion right now. DO I KEEP MY WEDDING DRESS AND RING? (CALLED OFF THE WEDDING)I called off my wedding in March last year with 6 weeks to go. However, my fiance and I remained together and tried to work on the relationship. After a year of giving it everything, I finally decided that I could no longer continue the relationship and asked him to move out in March this year. I bought my beautiful wedding dress and also selected and paid for my own ring. My question is, would you keep the wedding dress so you can one day wear it, or is the dress now "tainted" and it's better to sell and buy a new one (if I had another wedding with a different guy). Also, given I paid for the wedding ring, is it weird to wear it on a different hand (like an occasional ring), or is that too sad? IS IT THE NORM TO TELL NEWS PUBLICLY ON SOCIALS SAME TIME AS YOUR CLOSE FRIENDS?Over the past couple of years, I’ve had a few close friends go through major life milestones like engagements, pregnancies and the birth of a baby, and the way that I’ve found out is through Instagram… at the same time as everyone else. I know nobody owes anyone private access to their news, but for me personally, if I had huge life news, I’d instinctively tell my closest friends privately before posting it publicly. So now I’m wondering, is this just the new norm or is this weird and am I justified in feeling a little hurt by it? I also never know whether it’s something worth bringing up with them, or if that just makes it seem bigger than it needs to be.  MY EX CRIED AFTER WE HAD SEX. WHAT DOES IT MEAN? I have an unusual one for you. For context, I was with my partner for a little over a year when we broke up. Now, I recently slept with him after eight months of no contact. And to be honest, it was incredible. But then something happened. He cried immediately after. I don't actually know what this means and I'm too scared to ask. It has been ten days now since the crying sex. What should I do?    TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Britt's apology 1:55 — Vibes of the week 7:52 — Q1: Is it a bad idea to sleep with your ex's mate? 19:48 — Q2: Do I keep my wedding dress and ring after calling it off six weeks out? 26:22 — Q3: Is it normal to find out your friends are engaged/pregnant on Instagram? 36:52 — Q4: My ex cried immediately after we had sex — what does it mean? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Harrison James is an award-winning activist, author, and co-founder of the national law reform campaign #YourReferenceAintRelevant. Before all of that, he was a 13-year-old boy who became a victim of abuse that no child should ever experience. After his parents separated, Harri moved in with his father at 13, seeking connection and a fresh start. What followed was years of grooming and sexual abuse at the hands of his stepmother; abuse that resulted in a pregnancy, a daughter Harri was forced to call his sister, and a web of silence and shame that nearly cost him his life. Harri has since channelled that pain into something extraordinary. His #YourReferenceAintRelevant campaign,which he co-founded with fellow survivor Jarad Grice, has now driven legislative change across multiple jurisdictions, abolishing the use of good character references in the sentencing of convicted sex offenders. He's also the author of Transform Your Pain into Purpose, a part-memoir, part-practical guide for survivors and advocates. We chat: The turbulent household Harri grew up in and why his parents' divorce made him so vulnerable How grooming actually works and why it looks exactly like love and care to a child who's starved of both The moment Harry's dad walked in on the abuse and did nothing What it was like to be a 15-year-old boy secretly caring for his own baby daughter while calling her his sister The day his stepmother fled to the Philippines  How Harry ended up at a mental health facility at 19, and why that saved his life His first experience of good character references: watching them being read aloud at his own father's DV sentencing Why good character references are not just unfair they're the very thing that enables abuse to happen in the first place The long, politically complicated road to law reform, and what's still left to do Harry's partner Bella, their unexpected love story, and the baby girl they're expecting You can follow Harrison on Instagram @itsharrijames You can get Transform Your Pain into Purpose at all good bookstores. Timestamps 0:00 — Trigger warning & introducing Harrison James 2:30 — What Harri's childhood looked like before his parents separated 5:45 — Choosing his dad at 13: the appeal of freedom and a fresh start 9:12 — How the grooming started 16:28 — His dad walked in on the abuse. His response was devastating 20:06 — The vasectomy: his dad's impossible denial of what was right in front of him 21:08 — Finding out his stepmother was pregnant on the school bus 33:00 — Telling his mum the truth for the first time 37:12 — Going public in 2022: why Harry posted that raw 11-minute Instagram video 40:30 — The good character references read aloud at his father's DV sentencing and how the campaign was born 46:48 — Writing Transform Your Pain into Purpose  48:30 — Meeting co-founder Jarad over a beer at the pub 52:00 — How abuse warped Harry's understanding of love and how Bella changed everything 56:17 — The campaign's wins: NSW, ACT, Victoria, Tasmania and New Zealand 58:20 — Sitting in the courtroom at Paul Frost's sentencing, and the moment he walked past the Downing Centre knowing it had changed 1:06:00 — Why this campaign isn't just legislative: it's a cultural shift 1:08:30 — His message to every survivor: you don't have to change a law to be worthy You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning dilemmas!There’s some very spicy questions going down in our facebook group and most of it is done using nicknames. We need to poll if you want us to keep the nicknames or not!Vibes and UnsubscribesBritt - Unsubscribe from non Aussie actor being used in APEXVibe - Should I Marry A Murderer? on NetflixKeeshia - @jeromecooksfoodLaura - Yuka App  Then we jump into your questions! TRANSACTIONAL W*NKSo I listened to today’s episode when you asked who is wanking their partner off without sex?! The answer is me. I am doing that and have been for many years! My husband and I have been together for 10 years and he often asks for a wank so casually as if he is asking me to put the kettle on. I don’t even pretend to be in the mood, it almost just feels like a transaction and I have told him this, it doesn’t seem to bother him.  For context, we both have very mismatching libidos. I wouldn’t say he wants sex a lot, probably just the normal amount, but I literally never want it. It comes up as a problem regularly in our relationship but we never seem to do anything about it. I have floated the idea of how he would feel about an open relationship if he feels his needs are not being met but he won’t entertain the idea. I also have said he has 2 perfectly good hands if he wants to sort himself out but that doesn’t work either! I have told him I just don’t enjoy sex and I would happily go the rest of my life without it. I’m never satisfied and I just give in to satisfy him but leaves me feeling icky like I’m just pretending. I never orgasm. Both alone and together we have tried using toys but still no joy! Sorry for the long message but would appreciate any advice to help me stop a lifetime of transactional wanks! GRANDPARENTS DON’T CARE ABOUT MY KID, THEIR 9TH GRAND CHILDMy parents aren't really interested in being grandparents anymore, or that is how it feels. I am the youngest child in my family, when my siblings had children, especially the first 2 my parents were besotted, they saw them everyday, took photos, and showered them with affection. My son is the 9th grandchild and it just feels like they are over it, nothing is exciting or new. They never ask about him, they don't ask for photos, they have never offered to mind him. He is beautiful and well behaved most of the time. They are older now and both have health issues, my sister is also a single mom and they have given her a lot of support. I just spent a week at home and I barely saw them. I am starting to feel very resentful toward my siblings even though it's not their fault. I don't feel like I can say anything but I just feel so sad about it. I don't have one but I am finding motherhood so lonely. My husband's parents have passed and it is really hitting me that we won't have support. Has anybody else been through this? I DON'T WANT TO GO TO MY BROTHERS DESTINATION WEDDING - AM I BEING A BRAT OR REASONABLE?My brother is getting married next year and it’s a destination wedding on a tropical island, but the wedding is the day before my 30th birthday. I know a wedding is obviously a way bigger deal than a birthday, and I’m not expecting everyone to make it about me. But turning 30 feels like a big milestone, and I already know my actual birthday will probably just become the recovery day after his wedding. Because it’s mostly siblings and friends going, I also probably won’t even have my parents with me on the day. What makes it worse is that I’m doing a Master’s, working in a hospital, and completing specialist training, so I’m already flat out. The wedding is also one month before my specialist written exam, so the timing feels awful. I feel guilty saying this, but I genuinely don’t want to go. Am I being a brat, or is this understandable? And how do I tell my brother and family without causing huge drama?For more context, this won’t be my brother’s only wedding. They’re also having a bigger wedding back home with our extended family and all the older relatives, so it’s not like I’d be missing the wedding altogether. Part of why I feel so torn is that this island wedding is mostly made up of the bride’s friends and people from her side. On my brother’s side, it’s really just one of his high school best mate, me, and one cousin he’s close with. So if I don’t go, I honestly feel like there’ll barely be anyone there for him from our side, and that makes me feel really guilty. At the same time, I know I’d probably feel so out of place. Her friends and family are all very glamorous, influencer-type people, and I’m just really not that kind of person. I’m pretty low-key, I barely wear makeup, and I’m not into partying or drinking, so a destination wedding like this just isn’t something I’m excited about at all. I’m also worried that if I do go, I’ll be uncomfortable the entire time and it’ll show all over my face. I really don’t want to bring that energy to his wedding, which almost makes me feel like not going would be better than showing up and clearly not wanting to be there. I’d really love to know what you girls think, because I genuinely can’t tell if I’m being selfish or if this is a fair thing to be so torn over. Thank you so much for reading this and for always helping people make sense of life’s messier situations, it really means a lot. PARTNER HAS TOO MANY HOBBIESMy fiancé, the father of our two children (7 and 4 months old) is a rather social butterfly. He is often out at the pub, fishing, surfing, checking the surf and working 5 days a week on top of that. He very rarely plans anything in advance; it's commonly spontaneous (especially fishing and surfing as its condition based). I feel so frustrated with him as he is out living his life like he’s a bachelor. I try to set a time for him to come home. He’s ALWAYS late anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour. I ask him to come home to help with the children and it’s always met with a “yep soon” and that’s always anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour. It drives me crazy! When I speak to him about my frustrations and concern about him being out more than he's spending time with his family he meets me with a “well I’m here now and because I want to be” but I feel like he doesn’t. Like if I didn’t ask or set a time he wouldn’t be home for hours! He spends up to 6 -10 hours at a time with his mates at the pub or out doing other stuff with them…is this normal? Am I crazy? TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Intro 4:43 — Vibes of the week:  14:22 — Q1: The Transactional Wank  26:30 — Q2: My parents have run out of grandparent energy  37:27 — Q3: I don't want to go to my brother's destination wedding 49:40 — Q4: Is my husband living his best bachelor life while I have a 4-month-old? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers! Our guest Ask Uncut is BACK! Once a month (ish 😂) we bring in a special guest to help unpack your deep and burning questions, and this month's guest is the one and only Kayla Jade, also known as Blue Eyed Kayla Jade! Kayla Jade is an OnlyFans star, porn creator, podcaster, entrepreneur, call girl, and now a debut author. With over 3 million followers across social media, Kayla Jade is one of the most fascinating, open, and honest voices talking about sex work today. She joins us in the studio to answer your deep and burning questions, but first... the pettiest hill she'll die on.  Then we jump into your questions! HE'S CHEATING AND I HAVE ALL THE EVIDENCE — NOW WHAT? I've been with my partner for almost five years. Long distance, great chemistry. Last weekend I found out he's been living a double life and I caught him via a hiking app. I went full NYPD and connected the evidence back two years. I know I'm the other woman. Do I go along with it, end it, or go nuclear and detonate his entire life? MY EX STARTED GOING TO THE GYM AFTER WE BROKE UP AND I'M FURIOUS For four years I could not get this man to take a 20-minute walk. I suggested the gym approximately 100 times. He said he "just wasn't a gym person." He absolutely is a gym person. He was just not a gym person for me. Do I message him about it? I'M THINKING ABOUT STARTING AN ONLYFANS BUT I'M SCARED I'm 26, working as a DJ, and financially it just makes sense. The thing stopping me isn't the content itself it's what other people might think. My family are conservative, I grew up in a small town and I've moved somewhere that's still not a capital city. Any advice? I LOVE MY KIDS BUT I MISS MYSELF I have two kids and I love them more than I knew it was possible to love anything. But I genuinely grieve the person I was before I became a mum. How can you love something completely and still want to be the person you were before them? Does everyone feel like this? You can find everything Kayla Jade including her book Call Girl Confidential here ⏱️ Timestamps 0:00 — Introducing Kayla Jade: OnlyFans star, porn creator, podcaster & debut author 1:35 — How Kayla got started: from small town to OnlyFans during Covid 3:40 — OnlyFans vs. full service sex work — which pays more? 6:30 — Being doxxed as a mum 9:35 — The biggest misconceptions about sex work 14:50 — Pettiest hill 16:00 — How sex work has affected Kayla's ability to trust and date 20:15 — Listener Q: Caught cheating via a hiking app 27:45 — Listener Q: My ex started going to the gym after we broke up 33:55 — Listener Q: Should I start an OnlyFans? 40:42 — Listener Q: I love my kids but I grieve who I was before becoming a mum 46:30 — All about Call Girl Confidential You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Keeshia Pettit  & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Welcome to Ask Uncut - your deepest, darkest and most burning questions, answered.  Today’s episode comes to you slightly compromised. Britt had a few drinks in Italy last night… their wedding photographer Cass arrived with his partner Sarah and, well, “when in Rome” turned into a few too many cocktails. She was up at 5:30am, giant glass of water in hand, ready to earn her bacon. She earned it! Vibes for the week:Britt: Raising Chelsea https://www.disneyplus.com/en-au/browse/entity-0b7ad228-5160-4dde-8a64-bd7c9e7f2ebf Laura: A Bit Hippie Hair Repair Kit https://abithippy.com.au/collections/hair-treatments?srsltid=AfmBOooqgRYDlZikT0tq8IB2dgd3pHYKVp1-XPr4pGaPtN_VoUU1Nceb Then we get into your questions! MY PARTNER AND I ARE HAVING A BABY SOON Won't ramble on about how he is a great partner otherwise I wouldn't have chosen him to be my person…The only problem we have is that like most young people these days we used to do cocaine, not a lot..just a few times a year. Mostly at special occasions with friends. Now in our 30's since we started trying for a baby I stopped drinking/drugs to give it our best chance to conceive. My partners use has become more and more regular in the past year, he will bender for a whole weekend once and month and spend $1000+. I thought he would have changed in this new season in our lives together. He tells me he will change when the baby comes. I think he should be supporting this new life now as it makes me really anxious for our future. We have been battling this for a year, constant fighting, I told him how it upsets me when he does it so often. I care about his health, his job, the wasted finances, a possible addiction etc. He tells me he won't change, it's not a big deal as he only does it once a month and it's not a daily/weekly thing and I'm a hypocrite because I used to do it. The last fight we had was really bad because he promised me we wouldn't anymore and then a few days later I caught him doing it. I was so upset | left and stayed with my parents for a few days.. he begged me to come back and that things would change, they haven't. We have been battling this for a year, constant fighting. I love him but it hurts me so much, it feels like he doesn't respect me at all. And the stress on top of being pregnant is not good for me. What should I do? Am I overreacting? Is it not that big of a deal? Do I wait and see if the baby will change him? Is this a dealbreaker? It doesn't feel that easy now as there will be a baby involved. Any advice would be great TO MOVE OR NOT TO MOVE My best friend got engaged last year, and recently we were talking about timelines for weddings. She basically said that if someone in your close circle (like a best friend or cousin) is engaged before you, it’s kind of “rude” to get married before them, like there’s an unspoken order you should follow. Apparently in her family/social circle, people wait their turn so no one “cuts in” with their wedding, and it’s caused actual fallouts when people didn’t follow that. I had literally NEVER heard of this and thought weddings were just whenever suits the couple? But now I’m second guessing myself. She spoke about waiting for her to have her moment before anyone else can have theirs. Personally, I don’t care about my “moment”, I just want to marry the love of my life when it suits us. Is there actually an unspoken etiquette around not getting married before friends who got engaged first? Or is this just a cultural/family-specific thing MY FRIEND WON'T SET ME UP I recently had a friend tell me that she was too busy to organise a set up with a guy whom she had suggested to me without organising. For context: I’m the only single friend in a group of 7 people. This has meant countless weddings, baby showers, first birthdays and general catch ups where I am attending on my own. My friends have struggled to understand the impact that this has on me and at 32, I find all of these interactions pretty hard. Recently my friend told me that a colleague potentially knew someone who they could set me up with, without me even asking for her to do this. When I tried to follow up 2 months later to casually see what the go is (after being ghosted by a guy I liked and having minimal support), she bluntly told me that she and her colleague had been too busy at work. I tried to say that it had been two months so was just curious and I got a list of why she had been too busy. I feel like as the single friend I am constantly turning up for everyone with minimal return; I’ve listened to this friend talk about her fertility struggles and her co-parenting struggles with her step child, and I also listen to her work stressors. I’m also working in a high pressure job as well as living on my own and carry the burden of this on my own with most friends too preoccupied with their partners and children to listen or let me debrief. Am I being overly sensitive or should I raise with her how it made me feel to shut me down and say she had been too busy to send a text CAN YOU USE BINS I was on a walk with my friend the other day and we grabbed a takeout coffee. To add context we were walking around our suburb and it was bin day. Once I finish my coffee, I put it in someone’s bin that was on the curb. Now this bin had already been collected so it was empty but I still put my coffee cup in it. She said that that is so rude and I shouldn’t have done that. I didn’t see an issue with it because it was a little coffee cup and it was a bit. What are your thoughts on this? Thank you. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — Britt accidentally got drunk in Italy and is recording at 5:30am 03:56 — Vibes of the week 11:04 — Q1: My pregnant partner keeps going on cocaine benders - am I overreacting? 23:13 — Q2: Is there an unspoken rule about who gets to get married first? 31:54 — Q3: My friend promised to set me up months ago and still hasn't sent the text! 44:06 — Q4: Can you put your rubbish in a stranger's bin? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Video & Audio Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.