Life Uncut

Hey lifers! Our guest Ask Uncut is BACK! Once a month (ish 😂) we bring in a special guest to help unpack your deep and burning questions, and this month's guest is friend of the show Mitch Churi! You know his voice, you love his chaos, and he may or may not have broken Brittany's chair during an important TV meeting, but that's a whole other story. Mitch is a comedian, actor, host, podcaster and apparently now a videographer (don't ask).  Then we jump into your questions! I CAME OUT AT 31. AM I BEHIND? I came out at 31 and while I have zero regrets about who I am, I sometimes feel quite jealous of people who knew earlier in their life. I feel like I've missed a whole chapter and that my teens and 20s felt a bit fake, like I wasn't even myself. I also wonder if I'm taken as seriously in the queer community because I'm so new to it. My straight friends have a decade of relationship experience on me and I feel like I'm starting from scratch in my 30s. Is this a weird feeling and should I just get over it, or is it a common experience? CAN I FAKE A DIETARY REQUIREMENT TO AVOID MY IN-LAWS' COOKING? Is it okay to fake a dietary requirement to get out of a dinner situation? My partner's family does a big group dinner every few months and I genuinely dread it. The food is always aggressively bad. Everything tastes like it has ten times the amount of herbs and spices it should. I've started considering telling them I've developed a gluten intolerance so I have a built-in excuse to either bring my own food or bow out entirely. I am, in fact, not gluten intolerant. Is this really wrong, or would you do the same thing? MY BEST FRIEND IS TRYING TO BE AN INFLUENCER AND I WANT TO MUTE HERMy best friend has recently started posting so much on Instagram and I think she's trying to become an influencer. It's a mix of fitness and mummy blogging content. She posts stories all day, every day, and usually at least two posts a day. She will sometimes send me posts and ask me to share or comment on them. Am I allowed to just mute her? I love her to death but I cannot take it anymore and find myself eye-rolling every time something comes up. She has around 2000 followers so surely she's not checking who's engaging... right? MY PARTNER LOST HIS JOB AND I DON'T RECOGNISE HIM ANYMORE My partner was let go from his job six months ago. He worked in tech sales and it came as quite a shock. He was always motivated, but fast forward to now and he's become a shell of the person he was before. He's tried to find a job in a similar field but has had no luck, and I feel like he's stopped looking as hard. He's sleeping in a lot and when I try to talk to him about it, he gets really defensive and shuts down. Financially we are okay because he was a good saver, but that pot is declining and I'm being expected to cover more and more. Our sex life has completely dried up and we haven't been on a date night in months. I don't recognise him anymore. What can I do to get him, and us, back on track? You can find Mitch on Instagram  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions!Vibes for the week:Britt - Love Trapped Podcast Keeshia - Virgin River on Netflix Laura - La Casa Homewares  Then we jump into your questions! MET A GUY BUT HE IS SO YOUNGI‘m 36 years old and I met a guy on an intercontinental flight a month ago. It was weird, because even before ending up talking I felt completely relaxed around him and had the urge to rest my head on his shoulder (I didn’t btw). My friend, who was sitting across the aisle from me, even snapped a picture, because she thought we looked good together. In the final hour of the flight he finally started a conversation and that last hour just flew by. He asked for my number and texted me a few hours later and we’ve been texting ever since. I suspected he might be younger than me from the beginning, but didn’t put too much thought into it. He’s from a different country than me, works in the military and is currently deployed abroad. He has now invited me to his home country this summer and put together a full itinerary to give me a real experience of his home. And let’s just say our interests align 100%.Yesterday I finally asked how old he is and it turns out that he is only 24 years old!This is a much bigger age gap than I would ever have imagined, because he comes across as very mature (more mature than many men my age honestly). But I‘m at a loss - how do I proceed from here? Interested to hear your take on this!  BF SAID IM NOT AT ATTRACTIVE AS OTHER GIRL FIRENDS (AFTER 8 MONTHS)I’ve been seeing a guy for 8 months and it has been the most amazing time. We’ve got similar values and hobbies, get along amazingly, have never fought once and have aligned goals for the future. From the moment we met, we haven’t stopped texting, our chemistry was amazing, and he was the first to introduce me to his family, as well as say I love you. True penguin material. Then 2 weeks ago, I asked him his thoughts on whether in a year’s time, we should move in together (we both live alone currently). He said he had to think about it, then two days later, he turned up at my house out of the blue in tears and said we needed to break up. When I asked him to talk through what had happened, he said something felt ‘off’ about us but when I asked if it was something I did, he couldn’t give me any examples. After talking it through, he agreed that he was having a meltdown from other life troubles and he wanted to give us another try.Two days later, I asked him if being together is really what he wanted and he completely backflipped on having ever wanted to break up. He was extremely happy to stay together. When I asked him why, he paused and said ‘please don’t take this the wrong way, but you’re not as attractive as my previous partners. But I am attracted to you! More than enough! And I talked to my Dad about what’s important to me and everything else in our relationship is perfect!’ Given we met through an app, I didn’t alter my photos, plus we’d been together for 8 months, I thought that wouldn’t be an issue. But now I’m second guessing our relationship. What would you girls do in this situation? Extra info in case it helps with context, I’m 32, he’s 30, and we both came out of long term relationships, 1 year prior to getting together. DO I GO FOR IT WITH MY SISTERS GROOMSMANHelp- am I overthinking this? Last weekend was my sister’s wedding, a beautiful day celebrating love! One of the groomsmen, someone who went to uni with my now brother-in-law, was also single, and I sensed a kinda flirty vibe over the night. He has messaged me since and now I’m wondering if it is a bad idea to engage. He seems like a nice guy and our chats were lovely and lord knows the dating apps are not offering up anything better but if we date and it doesn’t really go anywhere, or worse it goes badly, then every time my family are reflecting on my sister’s wedding photos then BAM there will be this guy, and me, in the bridal party. Or worse, I make things awkward between my sister who has to be on my side and her husband who has been good friends with this guy for years.I’m leaning toward don’t engage because it’s not worth the potential drama but help me weigh up the pros and cons here. FRIEND SWEARS AROUND OUR KIDS AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO APPROACHHey girlies, I have a close group of girlfriends and we all had kids around the same time and catch up pretty often. The kids range in age from 18 months - 3.… I’m starting to notice varying parenting styles and one friend in particular often yells / swears at her toddler… but swears A LOT around the kids in a more general sense. It’s VERY different to how I parent. I don't yell or swear at my kid ever and try not to swear in front of my kids…. and it is starting to make me a bit uncomfortable. How would you navigate this? I haaaaaate confrontation but I feel like it might have a negative effect on my kid and that’s my biggest concern. Thanks guys, hope you can help me with this one  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lately, TikTok and Instagram have been flooded with content about something called “Trimester Zero”. It’s the idea that pregnancy preparation should start months (or even years) before conception. And while some of the advice is genuinely sensible, a lot of it veers into expensive, anxiety-inducing territory: detoxes, organ meat diets, “non-toxic everything,” DNA panels that cost thousands, and the suggestion that if you’re not doing all of this, you’re somehow failing before you’ve even conceived. Today we’re joined by Dr Devini Ameratunga, a board-certified reproductive endocrinologist, gynaecologist and co-host of the Fertility Untamed podcast.We speak about: How common infertility is and whether it’s increasing Is trimester zero marketing preying on vulnerabilities? How common unexplained infertility is Why we are finally speaking about how men’s health can affect fertility Does men’s sperm quality affect miscarriage risk or nausea during pregnancy Myth busting yes or no; folic acid, choline consumption, detox teas, organ meats, cutting out caffeine completely, giving up alcohol, expensive supplements, creatine and stress alone causing infertility Dr Dev’s personal experience of Hyperemesis Gravidarum (HG) and how much it impacted her life You can find more from Dr Dev’s website  Instagram  Fertility Untamed Podcast Life Fertility Clinic  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning dilemmas!Do you think 1 year olds should be having Easter hat parades? Do you think WE should have an Easter hat parade? (Only yes answers will be accepted).Vibes for the week:Britt: App Shortcuts -> Daily Declutter Keeshia: Dynasty: The Murdochs on Netflix Laura: Colour Me Kids Then we jump into your questions!MY COWORKER CRIES EVERY TIME SHE GETS FEEDBACK AND I'M LOSING MY MIND I manage a small team and one of my staff members cries every single time I give her any feedback; even positive feedback with a small suggestion attached. The crying means I end up comforting her instead of actually finishing the conversation, and now I've started avoiding giving her feedback at all which I know is making things worse. She's actually good at her job and I like her as a person. But I am a manager, not a therapist, and I genuinely don't know how to do my job without it turning into an emotional crisis every time. What should I do? HOW DO I TELL MY FRIEND SHES NOT INVITED ON OUR HOLIDAY?Help! How do my best friend and I tell our other good mutual friend she’s not invited on our holiday? Hey girls! Love the pod and are in need of some big sister advice. My best friend and I are planning a 2-week international holiday. We’ve travelled together many times and are super excited. However, last time we went away we brought a third friend with us. We had a good time, however upon reflection we’ve both separately come to the conclusion that she doesn’t match our travel vibe and we’re generally not travel compatible. My bestie and I have been friends for 10yrs now, but we fear our newer friend will be really hurt when she hears we’ve planned a trip just the two of us again. What is the best way to go about telling her? She can at times be quite sensitive (which we love and adore about her) and has had toxic friendships in the past which has left her being a bit insecure (she says this, it’s not us overanalysing her). The simple solution is just to invite her, but deep down we know we won’t enjoy our time and be able to relax if she comes. We don’t want to be bitches, but every way we look at it we just are the worst I FEEL INADEQUATE AROUND MY PARTNERS SMART/RICH FRIEND GROUPI am 30 years old, I work as a casual in 3 jobs. My partner is 32 and a doctor and business owner. We have been together for 3 years. His friends are lovely people and have always made an effort to make me feel welcome. However, every time I leave a gathering I feel less than. They all make at least 5x my income, all own properties (some quite lavish). When we go out to dinner it is often fine dining and we all split the bill. They think twice about booking business class flights, I think twice about purchasing coffee. They spent their youth in selective schools. I spent mine in intensive sports programs. They spent their 20s working hard for money, while I spent mine working hard on creative projects. They are all incredibly intelligent and witty. I find myself going quiet in the group, and blanking when I am addressed directly out of the anxiety of saying something stupid, which ironically makes me appear stupid.I love my partner. He is a wonderful person. I just can’t help the intrusive thoughts that if I don’t fit in with his friend group, how is it that we fit together? I do sometimes worry that in an attempt to create a yin yang relationship, I am forcing myself into a box that I don’t fit into. And is that creating an unnecessary feeling of inadequacy. Is it putting too much external pressure to change my true core values of creativity and adventure? So my question is, have you ever experienced very real feelings of financial inadequacy in a relationship and how did you combat it? Secondly, when I raise concerns around these feelings to my partner, should he be doing more to placate me, or are my insecurities ultimately my problem? FRIEND BEHAVED BADLY AND MAD I DIDN'T SIDE WITH HERMy best friend behaved badly and was mad at me because I didn’t side with her. My best friend of 20 years, let’s call her Sam, recently had a huge fight with her other friendship group. Long story short, there was alcohol involved and Sam said some rather horrible things to her friends including patronising comments about the unfortunate financial position of one, and mocking another’s recent breakup. I was not there for the incident, but had other people who were at the bar reach out to me to come and pick up Sam, plus her behaviour was so ‘big’ and ‘screamy’ that the incident was filmed and shared around our town. Sam’s version of events is very different to that of her friends, but the videos don’t lie and to be honest, everything she said in the moment are things she’s told me before. I have tried to raise it with Sam that she was unkind and needs to be accountable for her actions, but now she is mad at me for not siding with her. A few years ago Sam helped me through a very rough patch and she’s brought this up, stating that I owe her for the help and support she once gave me. I don’t believe that her behaviour should be excused, and Sam should be held accountable for her nasty comments. I also don’t want to lose a friend of 20 years by not supporting her through this incident. What do you think I should do? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Many of you will know Jules from Married at First Sight Australia, where she met her now husband Cam Merchant in what has become one of the show’s most successful love stories. They met on the experiment in their mid-30s, fell in love on screen, and have since built a family  life together with two kids. Since the show, Jules has grown into a successful entrepreneur, launching the inclusive shape wear and fashion brand FIGUR. Jules lives with PMDD and explains how her hormones really threw a spanner into the works after having her first baby.  Today we speak about what it was like going on reality TV later in life and unexpectedly meeting your husband, how her experience on MAFS compares to what the show looks like today, the realities of postpartum mental health, and how she’s turned her platform into a thriving business. We chat: The concept of ‘timelines’ and how Jules’ life pivoted at 37 years old Having babies in her 40s What a ‘gender selection specialist’ does and how Jules feels about getting pregnant in her mid 40s What PMDD actually feels like  The post natal period with PMDD The difference a supportive partner can make Why Jules started Figur after MAFS and being body shamed  The realities of growing a business Who we all think will last as a couple from this season of MAFS We did an episode on PMDD with endocrinologist Dr Izzy Smith that you can watch here  You can find Jules on Instagram and Tiktok  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to your ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions! Do you argue with your partner about household admin?  Vibes for the week:Sensor light link Britt - Marlo & Co Dog seat cover Laura - Queen of Chess documentary on Netflix Keeshia - @breeonabudget and Petrol Spy App  Then we jump into your questions! WANT MY BF TO USE A PET NAME EX USEDIs it weird to want my new boyfriend to call me the pet name that my ex used to call me? I am not one for pet names, especially ones like Bub, babe, lovey etc. But in my past relationship I adopted the name potato. Yes weird, it was because part of my name was similar to the word potato in his language, but I loveddd it. Whenever I heard it I felt giddy and personalised and special etc. I really miss that word lol and yearn to be called potato again. I am very much moved on from my ex and love my current partner and saying potato doesn’t bring ex desires. So is there a way that I can ask or play out to my new partner that I want to be called potato? Or do I very sadly let this go haha FRIEND CONSTANTLY STORY TOPS ME DURING CONVERSATIONSHow do I call out a friend that constantly brings up her own experience/s when I share mine? For example, if I share something about my kid, she won’t even acknowledge it and just share an anecdote about hers. Or if I tell her about a work thing, she’ll respond by saying how she’s been so busy and her manager is being difficult. Sometimes I think she’s trying to show me that she gets it and is being relatable. But talking to her is so invalidating and exhausting but I also don’t know how to call her out on it?? It really seems like she thinks she’s being a good friend when really she’s making every conversation about herself! PARTNER DELETING SEARCH HISTORYI’ve been with my partner a decade, we are about to get married very soon. Since early on in the relationship, he's always followed loads of women that post very sexy content and actually just loads of women in general, often liking posts. This used to really affect me when I was younger and it made me feel super insecure. He was fully aware of how I felt about this though. Time and time again I was having to remind him of why this hurts me and I wasn't okay with it, even though he'd continue. But then he turned it down over the years. Fast forward to now. I feel so much more secure in myself and I feel like I've grown so much over the years with my self-confidence. And I also trust him, honestly, rarely thinking or worrying about what he's up to on social media. However, just today I asked him if I could look at something on his phone or on Instagram. My phone was dead and instead of him just handing his phone over to me, he kept the phone and went to the search bar and asked me, what do you want to look up? About to look it up for himself. As he did this, I noticed he quickly started deleting multiple searches from his recent search history. I immediately asked why he felt the need to remove his searches, and why it was an issue for me to say he didn't really give me an answer of what the searches were, but said he didn't want to get in trouble. I asked why he felt like he'd get in trouble, and obviously it was something that would be upsetting for me to see. The fact that he decided to remove them immediately in front of my eyes. He said he was sorry and it was something he shouldn't have been looking at, but didn't really admit to. What now?I wouldn't say I've ever been a controlling partner. And I know it's so normal for men to look at other women and think that they're attractive. He has free will, and I have no right to be looking into his search history. However, my issue is with him seeking women out in social media constantly, even when he knows it gets under my skin. It's made me feel really icky. Is this normal? I don't feel like I'm asking too much to expect of a partner that isn't looking at other women on social media constantly, or am I overreacting? PARTNER DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO HAVE FUN OR LET LOOSEMy partner and I have been together for 8 years. We live quite different lives where I work in a bar which is social and I often go out afterwards and he has a standard 9-5. We own a house together and are getting married in May. We went to a wedding on the weekend and I noticed on the dance floor all these happy couples dancing, paying full attention to one another and both laughing and letting loose. My partner doesn’t behave like this, is quite awkward and seems like he doesn’t know how to dance or ever fully let loose. Others have noticed this too…….How can you get your partner to loosen up a little or is expecting this of him too much? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.