What if we are incompatible?

About this episode

This episode explores how conflicts in relationships can stem from childhood attachment wounds and discusses ways to create deeper emotional safety.

FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Check out Relationship Academy!  Why do the same conflicts keep showing up in our relationships, even when the surface issue changes? In this episode, we explore how everyday disagreements can activate childhood attachment wounds, leading us to protest, withdraw, or protect ourselves from connection. Learn how self-awareness, co-regulation, and healing relationships can help you respond from your grounded adult self and create deeper emotional safety. In this episode: Attachment Wounds Childhood Origins Defensive Patterns Co-Regulated Connection Healing Relationships Healthy Individuation Give Me Discounts! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order! ⁠⁠Simple Practice⁠⁠ - If you're in mental health and not using simple practice then what are you doing??? ⁠⁠Spark My Relationship Course:⁠⁠ Get $100 off our online course. Visit⁠⁠ SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock⁠⁠ for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. *If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a⁠ review in iTunes⁠? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute…

People in this episode

Hosts: Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, Cayla Bozovich

Topics covered

• attachment wounds
• childhood origins
• defensive patterns
• co-regulated connection
• healing relationships
• emotional safety

Keywords

• attachment
• relationships
• self-awareness
• co-regulation
• emotional safety
• healing
• defensive patterns

Sponsors

Kiwi Fodzyme, Simple Practice, Spark My Relationship Course, Tanasi

Mentioned in this episode

Products: Kiwi Fodzyme, Simple Practice, Spark My Relationship Course, Tanasi

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