True Identity

This is a difficult question to think about, but what if? What if you don't get married? What if all you have in this life is Jesus? Is that enough?Let's work through this thought and question together! Spoiler: God IS enough and he knows what you need. Here are some resources and free guides for you:How to Prepare to Be a Wife (Guide)How to have Self-Confidence (Guide)Single Women Collective: How to Wait Well (online community)1:1 coaching with me! (info here and to set up a free consultation)Join my newsletterRead the articles I've written on SubstackRead my book!Follow me on instagram

What is the hardest part about being single? This is a question I’ve been reflecting on recently. It has brought up some hard moments for me and I share these with you. This is a vulnerable question and I give you an honest answer. I had moments of crying myself to sleep because I was so sad and disappointed. I decided I needed Jesus in those moments. I also chose to dwell on what I did have not what I didn’t have. I share what those are with you. If you haven’t already, listen to the episode about preparing to be a wife while being single. I give practical tips in how to prepare while also enjoying the season you are in. Click here to listen to that episode. There is still time to join the Accelerated Dating Program. This is one month group coaching for single women. The things I share in this episode, we will work on inside this program, and you will get results! You will come out the other side better than when you started. Click here to learn more and to sign up. We will begin the 2nd week of April. There are still spots left, but sign up now! Follow me on instagram and send me a DM with your answer to this question. I would love to hear from you @nikki.houseman

Today we are going to discuss red flags, what they are and how to determine if there is a red flag in your relationship. If you are not in a relationship, these are good to keep in mind when you do enter into a relationship or start dating. Red Flags are a warning sign. They may not be deal breakers, but definitely a discussion would need to be had. There are some red flags that would be deal breakers. Today I am going to share 15 red flags with you. I have created a document with these red flags along with an explanation. Join the waitlist for season 2 of the Accelerated Dating Program. Click here! How to Determine Red Flags in a Relationship Guide. Click here! 10% off AHCC using code NIKKI Follow me on instagram @nikki.houseman Questions to ask yourself: Am I making excuses for his behavior? Do I feel uneasy about a behavior of his? Is something inside me trying to tell me I am not in a healthy relationship? Do I feel convicted that something is wrong? Are my friends and family trying to warn me about something in this relationship? Am I looking out for these red flags as I navigate the dating world? What are other red flags I need to be aware of? Write them down. Red Flags: He is not pursuing you you see his potential, but he’s not walking in it Lacks follow through Doesn’t have a relationship with God Says all the right things, but doesn’t act on it. He’s all talk. He asks you to do things for him when he doesn’t do much for you and makes you feel bad about it. Doesn’t treat you with respect and pushes your boundaries Talks about other girls while he is on a date with you or around you He is on his phone most of the time you are together, and isn’t engaging with you. Talks about himself the whole time you are on a date and/or always brings the conversation back to himself He is a jealous type He gets angry or raises his voice at you or others Prioritizes himself and his feelings over you. Talks down to you and doesn’t elevate and uplift you and who you are He doesn’t have a solid group of guy friends

You may be thinking, will I ever meet someone worthwhile? Will it ever be my turn? Will dating lead me to meeting someone I want to spend the rest of my life with? The answer is YES! DO NOT SETTLE! I had a coworker tell me I needed to compromise what I was looking for in a partner. I’m so glad I didn’t listen to her. You do not need to compromise or settle. I know it can be hard. I had moments I would meet someone and think, I guess I could date this person, yet they didn’t have some key traits I was looking for in a partner. Do not settle. Do not lower your criteria just to be with someone. It’s not worth it! In this episode I share ways to not settle and to keep your expectations. Dating can be hard and discouraging at times. Don't give up! The right person will show up. It took me 10 years. I have some interesting stories around dating, but now I have the most amazing husband and it was all worth it! I never thought I would get to the point of thinking all the pain and suffering I went through I would be grateful for. But here we are. There were many amazing a good moments as well. During that time I learned a lot about myself, God, and who I wanted in a life partner. Listen all the way to the end because I give practical tips on how to get yourself ready to date. You can start today! The Accelerated Dating Program has started! I'm calling this season 1 because I will be launching season 2 in the spring! Be on the look out. If you are a single woman looking for support and others who are in a similar season as you, you will want to join this amazing group! We meet for one month only- 4 sessions for 1 hour each. Join my email list here to get updates as to when season 2 will begin. Or join the waiting list for the next season here! Share this episode with a friend!

I chat with my friend Kristy about entrepreneurship, her business, singleness, and meeting our husbands later in life. In this episode she shares about how and why she started her business. She had a dream at 15 years old of having a skin care line one day, and many years later her dream became a reality. This episode is filled with lots of wise nuggets and encouragement for those of you who are single and how to prepare. Some things we shared God doesn't give us desires to be cruel Maximize the season you are in. Be happy in each season. It is not the job of the other person (spouse) to make you happy. Prepare yourself to be the best version of yourself you can be. Continue to stay in faith. There’s a balance of staying present and wishing for what is ahead. It’s ok to have the down moments, why me? When is it going to happen for me? Trust God’s timing. You may be ready, but the other person may not. Singleness is a beautiful time. Use the time to focus on yourself. Self awareness is key. Allow God to be the author of your story. It's different than anyone else's. Visit Kristy's company and purchase Christmas gifts. They have a holiday sale going on! applerosebeauty.com Follow her company on instagram @applerosebeauty If you would like to join my group coaching, click this link to learn more. Feel free to send me a message on instagram @nikki.houseman or shoot me an email nikkilhouseman@gmail.com if you have any questions. We can hop on a call to see if this program would be a good fit for you! Click this link to schedule a call with me.

Jess and I talk about singleness, dating, and how she helped me through the mastermind to become clearer on my business plan. I thought I was going to work with a different demographic, but through her guidance, I realized I wanted to work with singles to help them thrive and prepare for a relationship. You are in for a treat! I am now offering one on one coaching! Click here to learn more! nikkihouseman.com/coaching If you want to start your own business or nonprofit, Jess is opening up another season of Dreams to Reality. Click here to learn more. Her website with all the info is jessdahl.com

Boundaries can be a hard topic to discuss in a relationship, but necessary. It’s important to establish boundaries before you are in a relationship. Decide for yourself what your boundaries are and that will make it easier to have a conversation with the person you are dating. Let's talk about 1. Sexual Boundaries 2. Physical Boundaries 3. Belief Boundaries 4. Time Boundaries I am now offering ONE ON ONE COACHING!! Learn more on my website nikkihouseman.com/coaching A FREE guide just for YOU! "6 Keys to Attract a Life Partner"

Three year ago I wrote a book and I feel convicted to talk about the subject of my book, the Holy Spirit. This is a part of the trinity not many churches talk about or they are unsure of, afraid of. I'm here to tell you miracles, healing, spiritual gifts like speaking in tongues all still happen today! Do you have faith to see it? This is definitely more common in other countries most likely because they are open to it and have faith. Here in America the spiritual realm is seen as strange and off-putting. I want to talk about these things and the fears you may have of what the Holy Spirit can do in and through you. I was once in your shoes. I was unsure and afraid of the power of the Holy Spirit. But I stepped into that fear and God met me in a radical way. I want to have open conversations about this topic. Ask questions. I am not an expert, but there is a reason God told me to write this book. Whether it was to organize my experiences and thoughts on the matter, and dive deep into scripture to now be able to share with you who Holy Spirit is and the things you may be missing in your life as a Christian. In the episode I reference many Bible verses in regards to the Spirit and I will list those for you here to take a look at yourself. Acts 1:7-8 Mark 13:11; Luke 12:12 Psalms 143:10; John 16:13 Romans 8:2 Romans 8:15-17 John 16:8 Romans 15:13 1 Corinthians 12:7 Galatians 5:22-23 1 Corinthians 2:10-12; John 16:3 Speaking in tongues in an orderly way 1 Corinthians 14:2, 27-28 Follow me on Instagram for more conversations on this topic @nikki.houseman