Episode 79--X & Y On The Fly--Is That A Dealbreaker?

About this episode

Emily and Scot discuss the complexities of dealbreakers in relationships and their implications.

In this episode Emily and I address the sticky topic of dealbreakers in a relationship. Is having too many dealbreakers--or focusing on them--a dealbreaker in and of itself? You know, the 'don't bother' chick, for example? Is being 'high maintenance' a dealbreaker? And if so, what does that even mean? On the other hand, should not having any dealbreakers be a dealbreaker? Next, we list a full litany of good, solid dealbreakers that just about everyone can agree on. Does a couple have to be truly compatible, even if they're only down for a short-term fling? What if you and your partner differ on what terms like 'fidelity' and 'cheating' actually mean...specifically? How about if a behavioral 'dealbreaker' happens without it ever having been discussed as such previously? Should third-parties have any say in what your dealbreakers are as a couple? And hey, what are some specific example of unreasonable dealbreakers? Can there even be such a thing given the reality of personal preference relative to attraction? What's the case for and against building a list of checkboxes prospective mates must tick? But on the other hand, if we don't bother to even think of what we're looking for…

People in this episode

Hosts: Emily, Scot

Topics covered

• dealbreakers
• relationships
• compatibility
• high maintenance
• fidelity
• personal preference

Keywords

• dealbreakers
• relationships
• high maintenance
• fidelity
• cheating
• personal preference
• compatibility

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