Episode 89--X & Y On The Fly--You Never Outgrow Flirting

About this episode

The episode discusses the importance of flirting in relationships and how to maintain it over time.

Yes, we're talking about flirting...and flirting should indeed be fun. If it's work, drudgery, or even creepy and weird then we're not doing it right. Since women love fun, that means they also love to flirt. So what IS flirting really, anyway? And given the stereotype that sex slows down (or stops) after marriage, is it really flirting that stopped first? How is it that couples who actually like each other and are attracted to each other stop flirting? What killed it? The even better question is how do you get your flirt mojo back once you've lost it? Can we not lose it to begin with? What are the big differences between casual flirting with people we don't even know (yet), and flirting with someone we already know, or are in a relationship with? When Emily and I met, we flirted constantly from the first date. Have we slowed down or stopped flirting in our own relationship? And what in the world does parenthood do to flirtatious tendencies? Maybe an even better question is what does parental flirtation do to kids? Does flirting stop after marriage because it's not so easy to be naughty together anymore? After all, sex is perfectly okay in a marriage. What happens to flirting…

People in this episode

Hosts: Scot McKay, Emily McKay

Topics covered

• flirting
• relationships
• marriage
• parenthood
• attraction
• communication

Keywords

• flirting
• relationships
• marriage
• attraction
• parenthood
• communication
• make-up sex

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