Episode 86--X & Y On The Fly--What If You're Disappointed?

About this episode

The episode discusses the nature of disappointment in relationships, exploring various factors that contribute to it and how couples can address these issues.

Well, here's the first thing you can figure out, just from the title: Emily and I are obviously not disappointed enough in each other to avoid such a touchy topic. BUT...maybe that's a clue why this relational disappointment thing never gets talked about much. So what are we actually covering here? I mean, isn't it unrealistic to get into a relationship thinking everything is always going to be perfect and ideal? That brings up the concept of "macro-disappointments" vs. "micro-disappointments". And what about other couple's Facebook highlight reels that only show the shiny, happy stuff? Is that driving unreasonable disappointment on the part of the rest of us? Is there really such thing as "the seven-year itch", and if so is it more about disappointment or boredom? And hey, wait a minute. Isn't boredom disappointing? Does long-term disappointment usually start right at the beginning of a relationship? Why is that? And what about this business of "spicing up a relationship"? How does that work to ward off potential disappointment? Why is being each other's best friend a magic elixir to cure disappointment? What if what causes disappointment is legitimately beyond the control of…

People in this episode

Hosts: Emily, Scot

Topics covered

• relationship disappointment
• macro-disappointments
• micro-disappointments
• couples dynamics
• boredom in relationships
• spicing up relationships

Keywords

• disappointment
• relationships
• couples
• boredom
• communication
• expectations

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