Episode 83--X & Y On The Fly--What If We Have Sex Too Soon?

About this episode

The episode discusses the implications of having sex too soon in a relationship and explores the balance between sexual chemistry and emotional connection.

Nowadays we live in a culture that extols selfhood and immediate gratification. As marriage becomes less revered as an institution, lots of people are asking if there's really any reason to hold off from having sex extremely early in the relationship...even on the same day they meet. I mean, if that's what both of you want, why not? But as we all know, life has a way of throwing complications at you...even if you're all about nothing more than a sexually transactional relationship. Whatever happened to connection? What even IS 'connection' anyway, and does it have to take very long to happen? If the two of you are horny and just want to have a fling, to what extent do you even HAVE to connect...at all? Isn't sexual chemistry enough in that case? And what if you're a person of faith and don't believe in sex before marriage? Does that mean you're basically supposed to remain platonic friends until your wedding night? Well, we all know the truth about 'technical virginity' and how fragile even that is vis-a-vis natural human urges and impulses. Does having sex too soon in a relationship negatively affect the prospects for a long-term relationship? I mean, can you trust each other…

People in this episode

Hosts: Scot McKay, Emily McKay

Topics covered

• sex in relationships
• immediate gratification
• connection
• sexual chemistry
• faith and relationships
• long-term relationship prospects

Keywords

• sex too soon
• relationship advice
• connection
• sexual chemistry
• faith and sex
• long-term relationships
• immediate gratification

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