You’re Not the Same Person Anymore — And That’s the Problem

About this episode

The episode discusses the challenges and loneliness that come with personal growth and self-awareness.

At some point, growth stops feeling empowering and starts feeling… quieter. In this episode, we talk about what happens after you become self-aware when you can’t unsee patterns, can’t romanticize chaos anymore, and can’t go back to the version of you that felt easier to be. We get into the strange loneliness that comes with emotional clarity, wanting things you know aren’t good for you, and why relationships , and even your personality start to change once you understand yourself more de...

People in this episode

Host: Monica Cotolan

Topics covered

• personal growth
• self-awareness
• emotional clarity
• relationships
• loneliness
• identity change

Keywords

• growth
• self-awareness
• emotional clarity
• relationships
• identity
• loneliness
• patterns

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