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Real Intimacy, Fake Closeness, and Why We Don't Like That
Jun 13, 2026
1h 35m 06s
Why Do I Hate Transitions
May 30, 2026
1h 22m 03s
Fear Of Being Seen
May 16, 2026
1h 50m 58s
Control Freak Rehab
May 2, 2026
2h 19m 11s
Look at her go!
Apr 18, 2026
1h 58m 08s
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| Date | Episode | Topics | Guests | Brands | Places | Keywords | Sponsor | Length | |
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| 6/13/26 |  Real Intimacy, Fake Closeness, and Why We Don't Like That | Real intimacy has gotten confused with being seen. With shows like Love Island, Love Is Blind & others (that we watch + enjoy 😅) shaping how we think about closeness, real intimacy is getting lost in the plot. This week, we get into intimacy in the age of overexposure, talk about what our real-life superpowers are, send some love to NY for the Knicks playoff energy, and a new round of our fave segment "I Don't Like That."If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on our YouTube channelAAAND…💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com | 1h 35m 06s | ||||||
| 5/30/26 |  Why Do I Hate Transitions✨ | transitionslife changes+3 | — | YouTubeApple+2 | — | transitionslife experiences+3 | — | 1h 22m 03s | |
| 5/16/26 |  Fear Of Being Seen✨ | fear of visibilitycelebrity culture+3 | — | — | — | fear of being seenKevin Hart+3 | — | 1h 50m 58s | |
| 5/2/26 |  Control Freak Rehab✨ | controlsurrender+3 | — | — | — | control freakrehab+3 | — | 2h 19m 11s | |
| 4/18/26 |  Look at her go!✨ | womanhoodself-reflection+3 | — | YouTubeApple+3 | — | womanhoodself-reflection+5 | — | 1h 58m 08s | |
| 4/4/26 |  Fighting the Flow✨ | personal growthmental health+3 | — | How To Be RealYouTube+3 | — | fighting the flowgoing with the flow+4 | — | 1h 53m 24s | |
| 3/20/26 |  Code Switch Debt✨ | code switchingidentity+4 | — | — | — | code switchingidentity+5 | — | 1h 02m 23s | |
| 3/7/26 |  Low down dirty SHAME✨ | shameself-worth+3 | — | — | — | shameself-worth+5 | — | 1h 55m 46s | |
| 2/21/26 |  You Wanna Be on Top…Or You Wanna Be Well✨ | reality TVsuccess+3 | — | America’s Next Top ModelYouTube+3 | — | America’s Next Top Modelreality TV culture+3 | — | 2h 12m 43s | |
| 2/8/26 |  A regulated nervous system in 2026...lol✨ | nervous systemregulation+3 | — | How To Be RealYouTube+3 | — | nervous systemregulation+4 | — | 1h 57m 35s | |
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| 1/24/26 |  Anger isn't the villain✨ | angermental health+3 | — | YouTubeApple+2 | — | angermental health+3 | — | 1h 23m 52s | |
| 1/10/26 |  Maybe It's Time to Pivot✨ | pivotingmindset+4 | — | YouTubeApple+2 | — | pivotingmindset+8 | — | 1h 19m 22s | |
| 12/27/25 |  The Art of Letting Sh*t Go✨ | letting gomental health+3 | — | YouTubeApple+3 | — | letting gomental health+3 | — | 1h 36m 53s | |
| 12/13/25 |  I'm a hater...but I'm onto something✨ | therapystreaming culture+3 | — | YouTubeApple+2 | — | therapy cosplaystreamers+3 | — | 2h 08m 01s | |
| 11/29/25 |  Body Rules We Never Agreed To | Body shame shows up early and sticks around longer than any of us asked for. We’re letting go of the shame we didn’t choose and getting honest about the messages we internalized without even noticing. A listener letter takes us deeper, and a quick detour through Player’s Club/BET Uncut chaos keeps it real. A soft drag and a soft landing, all at once.If you’re more of a visual girlie, catch up on episodes on our YouTube channelAAAND…💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com | 1h 18m 15s | ||||||
| 11/15/25 |  Breaking Generational Curses | We all have some type of generational trauma — the behaviors, beliefs, and emotional patterns passed down through families that shape us more than we realize.This episode, we dig into how these patterns showed up for us and what it’s taking to break or transform them. We also introduced a new segment “Rate + Review” where we chat through our fave (and not so fave) things on TV!If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on episodes on our YouTube channelAAAND…💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com | 2h 14m 14s | ||||||
| 11/1/25 |  I'm A Girl's Girl | This week, we’re breaking down performative support v. real sisterhood, how social media reshaped feminism, and what community looks like when women hold space for each other.If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on episodes on our YouTube channelAAAND…💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com | 1h 40m 09s | ||||||
| 10/18/25 |  Living in Agreement + Why Alignment Changes Everything | We talked about what it really means to live in agreement—with who you are, what you want, and how you move through the world.We also unpacked how this shows up in the culture:D’Angelo’s refusal to be boxed in by labels, Ayesha Curry’s honesty, good news out of California, and the ceasefire in Gaza. **Also, if you'd like to donate to those impacted by the typhoon in Alaska, the Association of Village Council Presidents has posted an Amazon wishlist for items that will be distributed to affected villages.💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify and catch up on episodes on our YouTube channel📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com | 1h 09m 49s | ||||||
| 10/4/25 |  Forgive and Forget? Not Always. | Forgiveness. The kind that’s awkward. Quiet. Not always cute. And doesn’t always come with a happy ending.This episode, we get into:• What forgiveness actually looks like when you’re in it• The difference between letting go and holding a grudge• How to know when you’ve actually moved on (vs just saying you have)• The levels of forgiveness no one really talks aboutPlus: a Solange appreciation moment, a lil nostalgia for the weirdest couples of the 2000s, and some good news from the week (cuz we all need it).If you’re more of a visual girlie, catch up on episodes on our YouTube channelAAAND…💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com | 1h 23m 44s | ||||||
| 9/20/25 |  Owning Your Sh*t Isn’t Cute | We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again: accountability isn’t aesthetic. It’s uncomfortable, it’s vulnerable, and it doesn’t always come with applause.This week, we’re talking about: What it really means to own your sh*t, our own recent bouts with accountability, and more. AAAND…Don’t forget to read this month’s newsletter. We made it just for you!If you’re more of a visual girlie, catch up on episodes on our YouTube channel💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com | 1h 06m 17s | ||||||
| 9/6/25 |  Bangers + Bad Documentaries | This week’s episode is part playlist swap, part storytime, part bffr on cultural commentary.We also spent a little extra time on our favorite segment, I Don’t Like That, featuring thoughts on messy documentaries, the media’s obsession with certain narratives, and a few moments we just couldn’t let slide.And don’t forget to read this month’s newsletter. We made it just for you!If you’re more of a visual girlie, catch up on episodes on our YouTube channelAAAND…💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com | 1h 32m 08s | ||||||
| 8/23/25 |  My Ego Made Me Do It | We’re getting real about ego: the messy, funny, sometimes protective voice inside us that can either keep us safe or hold us back.Ego isn’t the enemy, but it definitely needs to be checked sometimes. Tap in and let’s figure out together.And don’t forget to read this month’s newsletter. We made it just for you!If you’re more of a visual girlie, catch up on episodes on our YouTube channelAAAND…💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com | 1h 11m 54s | ||||||
| 8/9/25 |  From Overbooked to Over It | This one’s for the people who are always doing the most…and finally asking, why?In this episode, we talk about what we’re working on and working toward. We also share some of the funniest news stories of the week (because balance) and our personal red flags that let us know a tv show or movie is about to be trash.And don’t forget to read this month’s newsletter. We made it just for you!If you’re more of a visual girlie, catch up on episodes on our YouTube channelAAAND…💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com | 1h 40m 00s | ||||||
| 7/26/25 |  The Clichés That Were True All Along | This is a love letter to the phrases that felt dramatic… until they didn’t.💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com | 1h 15m 22s | ||||||
| 7/11/25 |  The Empathy Deficit in 2025 | We live in a country where violence goes viral, grief becomes content, and policies are passed without care for the people most affected. Empathy these days feels like it’s on life support.In this episode, we talk about the empathy crisis in America, how we got here, and why choosing to care is more necessary than ever.💜Tap in for the conversation, stay for the reminders. And remember: we’re not therapists, we just have them!💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com | 1h 11m 48s | ||||||
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