How to Emigrate as a Throuple

How to Emigrate as a Throuple

From How To! with Charles Duhigg by How To!

February 24, 2026 · 40 min

About this episode

Dan Savage seeks advice on relocating his polyamorous family to Europe amidst complex immigration laws.

Dan Savage has built a legendary career giving sex and relationship advice, but as the U.S. political climate shifts, he's yearning to chase a very different dream: relocating his polyamorous family to Europe. He knows how to navigate complex relationship dynamics, but the leap to untangling international immigration law feels intimidating and technically out of reach. On this episode: How To! with Mike Pesca consults Charley Nieuwesteeg, a Dutch immigration lawyer specializing in the Dutch-American Friendship Treaty (DAFT). Charley offers Dan guidance on bypassing the bureaucratic hurdles to establish residency, navigating the logistics of "daisy-chain" migration—and why proving a romantic relationship to the Dutch government is surprisingly straightforward. Executive Producer Corey Wara Edited by Geoff Craig Booking by Lya Yanne Do you have a burning question or a problem you need help with? Email us at [email protected] and we will consider your topic for the show. For full Pesca content and updates, check out our website at https://www.mikepesca.com/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To receive ad-free content, become a Pesca Plus subscriber at ⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://subscribe.mikepesca.com/ For Mike's daily…

People in this episode

Host: Mike Pesca

Guests: Dan Savage, Charley Nieuwesteeg

Topics covered

  • emigration
  • polyamory
  • immigration law
  • relationship advice
  • residency
  • bureaucratic hurdles

Keywords

  • emigrate
  • throuple
  • immigration
  • polyamorous family
  • Dutch residency
  • relationship dynamics

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Dutch-American Friendship Treaty, Peach Fish Projects

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