Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Healing

About this episode

Iman Tohami shares personal insights on healing, grief, and the misconception that understanding pain equates to being healed.

Healing doesn’t stop hurting just because you understand it. I recorded this episode from a place I don’t talk about often — the beginning of my training, when I lost someone I loved and learned, very quickly, that insight doesn’t protect you from pain. In this episode, I share how that experience reshaped the way I understand healing, both as a psychologist and as a human. We talk about grief, self-awareness, and why functioning isn’t the same as being healed. If you’ve ever thought, “I should be further along by now,” this one is for you. There is no timeline your nervous system is late for.

Topics covered

• healing
• grief
• self-awareness
• mental health

Keywords

• pain
• functioning
• nervous system
• timeline

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