ADHD in Partnership: Untangling Resentment, Shame, and Shared Responsibility — with Dr. Carol Shilliday

About this episode

In this episode, Bahia Miller and Dr. Carol Shilliday discuss the impact of ADHD on intimate relationships and how to address resentment and shame.

ADHD can impact partnerships in all sorts of ways. And without both partners doing the U-Turn to connect with their own parts... resentment builds... and the spark dwindles. In this episode of Self-Led Love, Bahia Miller is joined by Dr. Carol Shilliday—clinical psychologist, IFS assistant trainer, and longtime ADHD specialist—for a grounded, compassionate conversation about how ADHD shows up in intimate relationships. Together, we explore ADHD not as a character flaw, but as neu...

People in this episode

Host: Bahia Miller

Guest: Dr Carol Shilliday

Topics covered

• ADHD
• partnership
• resentment
• shame
• shared responsibility
• intimate relationships

Keywords

• ADHD in relationships
• IFS
• clinical psychology

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