Why you keep having the same fight over and over (and how to stop it)

About this episode

Bahia Miller discusses why couples repeatedly engage in the same conflicts and provides a framework to break the cycle.

Do you and your partner keep having the same fight on repeat — different topic, same exhausting pattern? In this episode of Self-Led Love, host and certified IFS practitioner Bahia Miller breaks down exactly why couples get stuck in these cycles and offers a three-step framework for finally shifting them. Bahia walks you through the difference between the content of a conflict (what you're fighting about) and the process (how your protective parts are showing up) — and why the process is almo...

People in this episode

Hosts: Bahia Miller, Bahia

Topics covered

• conflict resolution
• relationship patterns
• communication

Keywords

• IFS practitioner
• couples therapy
• protective parts

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