The #1 Skill for Self-Led Love

About this episode

In this episode, Bahia Miller discusses the essential skill of repair in relationships and how to achieve emotional safety after conflicts.

Struggling with recurring fights in your relationship? Wondering how to rebuild emotional safety after disconnection? In this episode of Self-Led Love, I break down the most important relationship skill for long-term intimacy: repair. Using a real story from my own marriage (yes, the dinner where I kept interrupting my husband’s storytelling), I model what healthy conflict repair actually looks like in practice. You’ll learn the three essential components of effective relationship repair: Acc...

Topics covered

• relationship skills
• emotional safety
• conflict repair
• intimacy

Keywords

• repair
• long-term intimacy
• healthy conflict

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